Well. Nice Knowing Ya!

[Brustkt]

Been there...done that! :-(

I was venting to a friend (fellow provider) about how a dcm once again....dropped her children off after 12:30 and told me that had not had lunch yet. I of course had just finished cleaning up lunch! It was just one of those days, and I had enough! I apologized and explained that I had been venting and that I was sorry she received the text. She was more embarressed than I was and her children were never dropped off again that late without having first been fed. It's still a little awkward, but she just had a baby and is on my waiting list so I guess she got over it!

[Blackcat31]

Or she didn't have time to read them fully

*sigh* I don't think I could make this day any worse.

Cat- Might do that. I mean. Not like I can do much else! LOL!

Oh man. I need to hide in a closet with a big bowl of icecream and make it all go away. LOL

I was venting to a friend (fellow provider) about how a dcm once again....dropped her children off after 12:30 and told me that had not had lunch yet. I of course had just finished cleaning up lunch! It was just one of those days, and I had enough! I apologized and explained that I had been venting and that I was sorry she received the text. She was more embarressed than I was and her children were never dropped off again that late without having first been fed. It's still a little awkward, but she just had a baby and is on my waiting list so I guess she got over it!

When a parent (or their relative) doesn't follow daycare rules/policies and is sometimes MORE work than it's worth, why is it the provider who is left feeling guilty??? :confused:

~ MrsJ, NO WAY would I feel bad about venting to this mom (whether on purpose or accidentally) when the issues you are venting about should be HER problem and NOT yours.....

I would take this opportunity to say "Hey, you know DCM, I may not have vented in the most professional way but as long as we're on the subject there are a few things that need to be addressed."

[MotherNature]

oops! But hopefully she'll totally have your back, especially since GM didn't even tell her about the injury.

[Laurel]

omg, I always get that little panic when I send a text that it didn't go to the wrong person. Sooooo sorry your's actually did!!!

I wouldn't even sit and wait, I would call the mom and would apologize for the bluntness of the text but that you were really frazzled and that this behavior with Gma has to stop or you will have to terminate care. If she turns around and says they are leaving so be it, but I wouldn't allow that to continue even if she shrugs it off and is ok with the text.

I would also be proactive about it.

Laurel

[Emsdayhome]

uuuugggggh. that's so uncomfortable!! mom might not get mad though.....we all vent once in a while. We all have bad mornings and sometimes, people just rub us the wrong way. She probably has people like that in her life too. Maybe she'll talk to her mom and say something about it, like to back off a bit and let you do your job...maybe she'll pull her kid out...but really- simple mistake but you're allowed to vent once in a while.

hugs! hope it all works out!:hug:

[Cradle2crayons]

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WELP. Here's the positives

(1) dcm knows her mom better than anybody and chances are the same exact thing happens between em.

(2) dcm is stressed and frustrated about her mom and has never gotten the chance to tell someone quite like you did

(3) we are all human and need to vent.

(4) at least it's out in the open now!!

:hug:

[butterfly]

:hug:

[melilley]

:hug:

I once sent a text to a dcm that was meant for my husband. I had asked him to bring home some gloves because I just got sh** on my hands! I was so embarrassed and apologized, but the mom just laughed and said "well now I know you are human"...

Needless to say, I now try to remember to delete any texts that I have made to parents so it doesn't happen again!

[lovemylife]

:hug:

I once sent a text to a dcm that was meant for my husband. I had asked him to bring home some gloves because I just got sh** on my hands! I was so embarrassed and apologized, but the mom just laughed and said "well now I know you are human"...

Needless to say, I now try to remember to delete any texts that I have made to parents so it doesn't happen again!

[coolconfidentme]

I have a friend named Ashley & a DCM named Ashley. I texted my friend (I thought) & asked her, "Is it wine o'clock yet cause its whine o'clock here!!!" DCM got the text.

GULP!!!

[Leigh]

:hug:

I once sent a text to a dcm that was meant for my husband. I had asked him to bring home some gloves because I just got sh** on my hands! I was so embarrassed and apologized, but the mom just laughed and said "well now I know you are human"...

Needless to say, I now try to remember to delete any texts that I have made to parents so it doesn't happen again!

I once got one FROM my daycare provider telling me to pick up her son from school on my way home. I called her to see if her son needed a ride (I was happy to pick him up, as the school was on my way), she was SO embarrassed-the text was meant for her husband, too.

[MamaBear]

Omg... I did something very similar last weekend and I still feel like such an idiot for doing it.

I had a daycare mom come 15 minutes late to pick up her daughter... on a Friday. Not cool. But she felt super bad about it and gave me the late fee. Well the next day I was texting back & forth with my fellow daycare provider friend and I said "Did I tell you that DCG's mom was totally late picking up yesterday?"

As SOON as I hit send I realized that I sent it to THAT Mom!!! UGHHHH! I had to fix it asap. So I sent another one and said "HAHAHA - Just messing with you! You weren't THAT late - LOL" But then she didn't respond for like an hour which drove me insane.

When she did, she said "Oh my gosh - you're teasing me! I'm so sorry I was late" and I said "oh yeah I was just messing with you! Sorry I have a sick sense of humor! hahaha"... Well she totally bought it and went with it.

UGH. Since then, every time I get a text message from a parent, I respond and then delete it. I need to not vent on there anyway in case that happens again.

Anyways - I feel your pain! I know its so embarassing. But then again - they were the ones that were wrong in the first place... we just kinda let them know that they screwed up in an awkward way

[Maria2013]

Sorry but I would not put up with ANY of the things you mentioned....when the kids are in my care, only "I" decide what, when, where and how, parents may ask me for a favor but certainly do not show up at my house with check lists

[daycarediva]

omg, I always get that little panic when I send a text that it didn't go to the wrong person. Sooooo sorry your's actually did!!!

I wouldn't even sit and wait, I would call the mom and would apologize for the bluntness of the text but that you were really frazzled and that this behavior with Gma has to stop or you will have to terminate care. If she turns around and says they are leaving so be it, but I wouldn't allow that to continue even if she shrugs it off and is ok with the text.

this is what I would do, too.

One time I complained about a mom after getting a phone call from her (off hours I was in the car) but didnt hang up! she never said anything so I didn't know if she heard me or not!

bahaha! I had a dcp butt dial me after pick up and heard her question (nicely, not like interrogate) dcb about his day and I listened in and she realized the phone was on and said "hello?" hahaha, that's what *I* get for eavesdropping. (I hung up)

I have a friend named Ashley & a DCM named Ashley. I texted my friend (I thought) & asked her, "Is it wine o'clock yet cause its whine o'clock here!!!" DCM got the text.

GULP!!!

:: what did dcm say? I accidentally sent a text to a dcm once meant for my husband (their names are off by ONE letter) and it was um, racy. She sent me a racy one back. :: Still my coolest dcm ever.

Same dcm dropped off dcb and said "I apologize in advance for the whine-ese. Apparantly his language changed overnight. She brought me WINE with a note that said "It's WHINE-DAY, have some WINE!"

[melilley]

this is what I would do, too.






:: what did dcm say? I accidentally sent a text to a dcm once meant for my husband (their names are off by ONE letter) and it was um, racy. She sent me a racy one back. :: Still my coolest dcm ever.

Same dcm dropped off dcb and said "I apologize in advance for the whine-ese. Apparantly his language changed overnight. She brought me WINE with a note that said "It's WHINE-DAY, have some WINE!"

Awesome!