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  • mrsnj
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2013
    • 465

    Well. Nice Knowing Ya!

    What not to do..........

    Get mad at a daycare parents mother and complain to your friend on a text message....that ends up going to the mother.

    I have a child here who is one of my sweetest kids. But the Gmom is a pain in my ass. When it is Gmom day, I cringe. She drops off during naps with no lunch already fed. She brings a ton of crap and gives me a check list of this and that of what everything is that she brought and what I should do, etc. She comes across at an -itch and I do not like her.

    Today she arrives at bus time. Now you all know I am already stressed over the whole bus deal going on here. She comes when I have two buses arriving. I have a child crying while waiting and another parent dropping off. The great gmom is also there with her and saying she is afraid of my dog who keeps going up to her and sniffing her. The gmom hands her to me with her usual check list of things, shoving things at me piece by piece, and....complaining I didn't take pics when she brought me the camera a few weeks ago. Hello! She came during a storm! I had no electric. Flooding. Kids are hiding in my basement cause they are saying possible tornados. And she wants me to take pics. No. Didn't take pics! Today she wants me to take pics AND do a clothes change. Seriously? Handing me all this stuff while my first bus is pulling up! I am so busy trying to take everything and listen to what she is saying and get the dog away from the other lady and........that my daughter got on the bus before I could say bye. I felt bad. I was livid. AND to top it all off....the child arrives with a HUGE black and blue mark on her head. I mean HUGE! Oh she fell. Seriously? I would think that would be more important than a change of clothes and pics! HUGE i tell ya. So........

    I send off the buses and send mom a note about did she know about the bruise. Then I text my GF who also works daycare. My iphone clicks bk over to the mom and sends. My whooooooooole entire bitch-fest about my morning. Yep. She arrived with poop. She wanted me to take pics. She has a huge knot that I am not taking blame for and sending documentation. Shoving her and the things at me. Etc. Etc. Etc. Oh yeah. Everything.

    I call mom to forewarn her about the head injury. Want to know what I should do in regard to icing. Did she want to pick up. Etc. She had her phone off but got the pic I sent. So I figure right about now she will be reading all the rest and going and then figuring no a little

    Yeah.....Am thinking it might not be such a good idea to have parents info in my phone.

    Can't defend myself on this one. I bitched. I am upset. And she heard it. I can only pray she will say "Yeah. Thats my mom for ya" and let it go. BUT....thinking I just might be short pay next week instead. Not much I can do now but await my punishment.........................

    And so starts my day........
  • crazydaycarelady
    Not really crazy
    • Jul 2012
    • 1457

    #2
    Oh no!

    I do that sometimes too - I send a message to the last person that I got one from instead of the intended person.

    Well, you were just telling the truth! Either they'll stay (and things might get better) or they'll go. Not much you can do about it now so try not to worry (way easier said than done!)

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    • Crazy8
      Daycare.com Member
      • Jun 2011
      • 2769

      #3
      omg, I always get that little panic when I send a text that it didn't go to the wrong person. Sooooo sorry your's actually did!!!

      I wouldn't even sit and wait, I would call the mom and would apologize for the bluntness of the text but that you were really frazzled and that this behavior with Gma has to stop or you will have to terminate care. If she turns around and says they are leaving so be it, but I wouldn't allow that to continue even if she shrugs it off and is ok with the text.

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      • lovemylife
        Daycare.com Member
        • Aug 2013
        • 187

        #4
        I am so sorry! I did something similar and I still feel bad about it 19 months later! I had my son, he was 5 days old at the time. One of my daycare advice forums that was on Facebook asked about parents/payment and their worst excuses. I jokingly complained about a parent saying they will be late because the military changed her husbands pay days. I know for a fact that they never change, some of my friends are in the military. The post wasn't rude or anything just saying that I knew she was lying to me and that really upset me. She could have just told me the truth. She was my first daycare child and I loved her, she was my daughters best friend. I cut my maternity leave from 2 weeks to 1 week to help this mother. Because I loved the family! She came 2 days later and gave me notice. She said you know your daycare advice isn't private and it shows up on my news feed. I apologized a lot! I still think about it. I knew that my friends could see the posts but for some reason I wasn't thinking when I posted it. I think it was post baby hormones.

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        • Familycare71
          Daycare.com Member
          • Apr 2011
          • 1716

          #5
          Originally posted by Crazy8
          omg, I always get that little panic when I send a text that it didn't go to the wrong person. Sooooo sorry your's actually did!!!

          I wouldn't even sit and wait, I would call the mom and would apologize for the bluntness of the text but that you were really frazzled and that this behavior with Gma has to stop or you will have to terminate care. If she turns around and says they are leaving so be it, but I wouldn't allow that to continue even if she shrugs it off and is ok with the text.


          One time I complained about a mom after getting a phone call from her (off hours I was in the car) but didnt hang up! she never said anything so I didn't know if she heard me or not!

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          • mrsnj
            New Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2013
            • 465

            #6
            Yeah..........sigh

            Thing is it really wasn't written very nicely. Like a rant one would do on here basically with a little sarcasm to flavor. Not just complaining. But complaining with some "Is she joking" and "Seriously" thrown in . Yeah.

            At first I was in a panic. Running around going OMG! But seriously. Not much I can do. I was upset. The childs injury should have taken priority. ( She had not even told the mom. Why would you not call and tell her? ) Arriving during buses is not ok and expecting me to stand and ignore them so you can give me your check list of what I should or shouldn't be doing is not cool. This woman just rubs me.

            Like you said not much I can do now. I will just pretend nothing happened and move forward. I feel bad but the other half was like...well it was how I felt and the truth of the situation. It is what it is and I can't do anything about it.

            Usually I delete messages to DCPs so this doesn't happen. Its not the first time my phone has done that. (just not with DCPs) But this time I wanted it documented until I could speak with mom. I sent it to her and then to my email. *sigh* I think it might be best to go back to old school and use the land line.

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            • mrsnj
              New Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2013
              • 465

              #7
              Originally posted by lovemylife
              I am so sorry! I did something similar and I still feel bad about it 19 months later! I had my son, he was 5 days old at the time. One of my daycare advice forums that was on Facebook asked about parents/payment and their worst excuses. I jokingly complained about a parent saying they will be late because the military changed her husbands pay days. I know for a fact that they never change, some of my friends are in the military. The post wasn't rude or anything just saying that I knew she was lying to me and that really upset me. She could have just told me the truth. She was my first daycare child and I loved her, she was my daughters best friend. I cut my maternity leave from 2 weeks to 1 week to help this mother. Because I loved the family! She came 2 days later and gave me notice. She said you know your daycare advice isn't private and it shows up on my news feed. I apologized a lot! I still think about it. I knew that my friends could see the posts but for some reason I wasn't thinking when I posted it. I think it was post baby hormones.
              OMGoosh!

              I am not a big FB fan myself and hesitate to post anything for this reason. I have two groups that are 'private' but truth is that it really isn't. Anyone on my computer can see it and I am always afraid I will say something and someone I don't want seeing it will. I would love to answer how I am feeling when I have a frustrating day but not sure who will notice and report back to whom. (Like my DCP who was bringing their child sick here and posting on FB and someone ratted her out to me!!!) So I post very very little. I never post about DC. Actually I come on here and freak that a parent might be on here and know me!!:: I am paranoid! I should change my name I think to snotwiper or something

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              • Rockgirl
                Daycare.com Member
                • May 2013
                • 2204

                #8
                Originally posted by Crazy8
                omg, I always get that little panic when I send a text that it didn't go to the wrong person. Sooooo sorry your's actually did!!!

                I wouldn't even sit and wait, I would call the mom and would apologize for the bluntness of the text but that you were really frazzled and that this behavior with Gma has to stop or you will have to terminate care. If she turns around and says they are leaving so be it, but I wouldn't allow that to continue even if she shrugs it off and is ok with the text.
                I'd do this too!

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                • mrsnj
                  New Daycare.com Member
                  • Jan 2013
                  • 465

                  #9
                  She just texted me. Said she googled on the bruising and feels she will be fine. Said she fell out the door at the Gmoms onto the patio. We talked about to ice or not to ice. That sort of thing. She even joked a bit. Said nothing about my lovely messages. .........yet

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                  • Blackcat31
                    • Oct 2010
                    • 36124

                    #10
                    Originally posted by mrsnj
                    She just texted me. Said she googled on the bruising and feels she will be fine. Said she fell out the door at the Gmoms onto the patio. We talked about to ice or not to ice. That sort of thing. She even joked a bit. Said nothing about my lovely messages. .........yet
                    Maybe her mother drives her batty too...

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                    • Cat Herder
                      Advanced Daycare.com Member
                      • Dec 2010
                      • 13744

                      #11
                      If she does say something "I hate that you had to find out this way that I am human after all. Your Mom is driving me insane, I am sure you understand." laugh, then move on.

                      I would not apologize at all... I have a feeling Mom vents to co-workers as well. Why should you not have that right??
                      - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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                      • lovemylife
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Aug 2013
                        • 187

                        #12
                        Great! Hopefully she doesn't mind and understands you are just venting. I am now very careful about what I post on FB. Even pictures I carefully look over before posting, is my house clean in the background exc. I always try to keep it upbeat and I never complain! For one I hate it when all people post on FB is complaining about how horrible their life is. Daycare forums are completely different! I know I will never make that mistake again!

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                        • mrsnj
                          New Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2013
                          • 465

                          #13
                          Or she didn't have time to read them fully

                          *sigh* I don't think I could make this day any worse.

                          Cat- Might do that. I mean. Not like I can do much else! LOL!

                          Oh man. I need to hide in a closet with a big bowl of icecream and make it all go away. LOL

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                          • NeedaVaca
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Mar 2012
                            • 2276

                            #14
                            It is a bad way to have mom find out but what's done is done and honestly, sometimes things we don't have the nerve to say NEEDS to be said! Let DCM know you are sorry for the way way she found out but in all honesty some changes need to be made. You are not a professional photographer, you are a daycare provider with a schedule and policies that are not being followed.

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                            • itlw8
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jan 2012
                              • 2199

                              #15
                              send a text and apologize.. from now only rant in private forums.:hug:
                              It:: will wait

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