What Response Do You Give To: He Will Need An Early Nap

[DaisyMamma]

At drop off dad says DCK is tired already and will be napping soon. He actually said it like this too, as if he is my employer telling me what to do! at my own facility.

I just yessed him but have no intention of ruining my entire day by napping Dck at a different time then the others and essentially making everyone stay inside for most of the day.

What is your response when parents say this? It isn't the first time for this parent.

[daycarediva]

At drop off dad says DCK is tired already and will be napping soon. He actually said it like this too, as if he is my employer telling me what to do! at my own facility.

I just yessed him but have no intention of ruining my entire day by napping Dck at a different time then the others and essentially making everyone stay inside for most of the day.

What is your response when parents say this? It isn't the first time for this parent.

"Late night last night? I will call you for pick up if dck is sleepy before our nap time."

Seriously JUST said that to two different dcm's. One said "Absolutely!" (is a teacher and understands) the other said "SERIOUSLY?" and I had to reiterate that they need to be able to participate to remain in care. I cannot and WILL NOT adjust my entire schedule, and the schedule of 7 other children because you kept dck up until 11.

[MamaBearCanada]

If it won't affect my day then I say OK and put them down when I think they need it. Otherwise I say naptime's at x time but I might be able to move his a little. If I can I do if I can't I don't worry about it.

[DaisyMamma]

If it won't affect my day then I say OK and put them down when I think they need it. Otherwise I say naptime's at x time but I might be able to move his a little. If I can I do if I can't I don't worry about it.

Yes, totally agree. But its a nice day and we were already outside. There is no way I was telling all the kids to go inside so Dck could nap!

[Lavender]

I just say okay and I will pay attention. If a child is falling asleep before naptime in my room, I let them sleep. My kids are young though, never over 18 months so it's easier.

[kathiemarie]

I just smile and say "Thanks for the heads up!" then go about our day. I would not nap him until it was time for nap.

Sometimes you just have to let coments roll off your back. I cringe at what I use to say to my daughters' DC provider.

[spud912]

If it won't affect my day then I say OK and put them down when I think they need it. Otherwise I say naptime's at x time but I might be able to move his a little. If I can I do if I can't I don't worry about it.

This is me too! I have a dcb who just recently started and his parents have always used a nanny prior to group care. I think they don't quite understand group care yet, but we are working on it . I just say "ok" and then do whatever I need to do, which generally means I follow my normal schedule. If the child is unable to function and I am noticing a trend about the parents consistently "expecting" a special schedule for their child, then I will say something to them about how it affects the group as a whole and I am unable to accommodate each family's requests.

[Blackcat31]

I usually just say, "oh okay well hopefully he makes it until our nap time. We can't have an off-schedule napper as that messes up the schedule for everyone else."

Then I smile big and leave it at that.

I don't mean it harshly and I understand that kids are often times off schedule but I make sure I AM firm enough so parents KNOW I am NOT willing to disrupt others' schedules for one kid who is off.....kwim?

If the parent comments on it, I will explain in further detail but otherwise, that usually gets the message across just dandy.

[butterfly]

At drop off dad says DCK is tired already and will be napping soon. He actually said it like this too, as if he is my employer telling me what to do! at my own facility.

I just yessed him but have no intention of ruining my entire day by napping Dck at a different time then the others and essentially making everyone stay inside for most of the day.

What is your response when parents say this? It isn't the first time for this parent.

I yes them too. Secretly roll my eyes and continue on my daily schedule. They usually are tired, but they still need to stick to our schedule. If they are too miserable, I'd call for pickup.

[julie]

"Oh, are you saying he is too tired to participate in the day's activities? I'm asking because that's an excludable symptom in my sick policy."

Let him answer, they usually backpedal a million miles.

"Oh, okay. I'll keep an eye on him. If he is too tired or grumpy, I'll give you a pick up call right away! Thanks for being so forthcoming!"

That's how I say it. I never give a "yes", because I don't want him to have that expectation, regardless if I do it or not. His job is to bring his kid prepared for daycare, so this is just a straightforward way of reminding him of that.

[Play Care]

"Oh, are you saying he is too tired to participate in the day's activities? I'm asking because that's an excludable symptom in my sick policy."

Let him answer, they usually backpedal a million miles.

"Oh, okay. I'll keep an eye on him. If he is too tired or grumpy, I'll give you a pick up call right away! Thanks for being so forthcoming!"

That's how I say it. I never give a "yes", because I don't want him to have that expectation, regardless if I do it or not. His job is to bring his kid prepared for daycare, so this is just a straightforward way of reminding him of that.

I agree. I will nod and smile at some of the things parents say in the mornings, but I try very hard not to "yes" anything. This way they can't come back and tell be "but you SAID you would!"

[melilley]

I just smile and say "Thanks for the heads up!" then go about our day. I would not nap him until it was time for nap.

Sometimes you just have to let coments roll off your back. I cringe at what I use to say to my daughters' DC provider.

Same here! Most times, the stay awake until nap anyways.
I was just thinking about what I used to say to my dd's provider! It was never anything outrageous like some of the stories on here and only one or two things, but still!

[Scout]

I just smile and say "Thanks for the heads up!" then go about our day. I would not nap him until it was time for nap.

Sometimes you just have to let coments roll off your back. I cringe at what I use to say to my daughters' DC provider.

me too!!

[DaisyMamma]

Thanks! I think these ideas will get me where I need to be.

[Maria2013]

At drop off dad says DCK is tired already and will be napping soon. He actually said it like this too, as if he is my employer telling me what to do! at my own facility.

I just yessed him but have no intention of ruining my entire day by napping Dck at a different time then the others and essentially making everyone stay inside for most of the day.

What is your response when parents say this? It isn't the first time for this parent.

I would take that from a parent of an infant, the rest of the kids nap when the schedule says it's nap time.