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[daycare]

So as of yesterday, I was ready to start September off at full capacity. THen today happened....UGH

One of my long term clients is having money issues and of course I am getting the short end of the stick. AGAIN.

DCF has 2 kids in my care. They want to go from full time to part time, but they want both of the kids to share a full time spot.

So kid 1 comes MWF
Kid 2 comes Tu Th
trade off days

When they are not with me, they will be with G-ma....

NOw I do have to say this and I am sorry if I offend anyone out there. BUT I can't stand working with families who their kid comes to me and is babysat by grandparents on other days that they are not with me.....I feel that grandparents are to be the ones to spoil them and love the bogars out of them, not try to parent them. The ones that I have now that are in this situation drive me UP a WALL.

I have not told the dcf if I would even consider this yet. I wanted to weight out my options first. If I don't take this schedule, I do lose 2 full timers, which means that I lose one of my asst....... I am trying to figure this out....

any input on this would be welcomed...thanks ladies

[Cradle2crayons]

So as of yesterday, I was ready to start September off at full capacity. THen today happened....UGH

One of my long term clients is having money issues and of course I am getting the short end of the stick. AGAIN.

DCF has 2 kids in my care. They want to go from full time to part time, but they want both of the kids to share a full time spot.

So kid 1 comes MWF
Kid 2 comes Tu Th
trade off days

When they are not with me, they will be with G-ma....

NOw I do have to say this and I am sorry if I offend anyone out there. BUT I can't stand working with families who their kid comes to me and is babysat by grandparents on other days that they are not with me.....I feel that grandparents are to be the ones to spoil them and love the bogars out of them, not try to parent them. The ones that I have now that are in this situation drive me UP a WALL.

I have not told the dcf if I would even consider this yet. I wanted to weight out my options first. If I don't take this schedule, I do lose 2 full timers, which means that I lose one of my asst....... I am trying to figure this out....

any input on this would be welcomed...thanks ladies

Ok wow.

(1) are you okay financially with dropping from two full time as far as money and going to one full time

(2) how do you think it's going to affect their routine and their behavior because of their decrease in days

(3) if you agree to do this... And then fill the now extra full time position, what happens in re months if she wants both kids to go back to full time and you don't have a spot, if this scenario applies??

(4) what happens if dck #1 is sick and misses one of her two days that week. Is mom going to give yu trouble as far as pay is concerned??

(5) is there an option to charge two part time spots instead of one full time spot??

[Blackcat31]

So as of yesterday, I was ready to start September off at full capacity. THen today happened....UGH

One of my long term clients is having money issues and of course I am getting the short end of the stick. AGAIN.

DCF has 2 kids in my care. They want to go from full time to part time, but they want both of the kids to share a full time spot.

So kid 1 comes MWF
Kid 2 comes Tu Th
trade off days

When they are not with me, they will be with G-ma....

NOw I do have to say this and I am sorry if I offend anyone out there. BUT I can't stand working with families who their kid comes to me and is babysat by grandparents on other days that they are not with me.....I feel that grandparents are to be the ones to spoil them and love the bogars out of them, not try to parent them. The ones that I have now that are in this situation drive me UP a WALL.

I have not told the dcf if I would even consider this yet. I wanted to weight out my options first. If I don't take this schedule, I do lose 2 full timers, which means that I lose one of my asst....... I am trying to figure this out....

any input on this would be welcomed...thanks ladies

How are you losing 2 full time daycare kids? If they are sharing a space, you would be losing 2 part timers and have only one empty space...

I'd start advertising and fill the space with one kid who either attends all 5 days or pays for them.

otherwise, your only option is to take the short end of the stick. AGAIN.

[Cradle2crayons]

How are you losing 2 full time daycare kids? If they are sharing a space, you would be losing 2 part timers and have only one empty space...

I'd start advertising and fill the space with one kid who either attends all 5 days or pays for them.

otherwise, your only option is to take the short end of the stick. AGAIN.

I think she means she feels if she doesn't agree to do what dcm wants, she risks losing both kids if mom pulls, thus leaving two full time positions open instead of just the one... Or maybe I'm confused... Not sure

[sharlan]

Personally, I wouldn't do it.

I just turned down a similar situation. The mom wanted the 4 yo to come 2 days a week and the 4 mo to come 3 days a week. The 4 yo would go to preschool 2 days a week and Grandma's 1 day. The infant would go to Grandma's the other two days.

IMHO, that would be too many caretakers for the 4 yo. He would have been somewhere different everyday. Plus, Mom wanted to pay for one spot.

Mom called 3 times, "But I really want you to watch my kids". Each time I told her no.

IMHO, it's more a lack of consistency that it is the grandparents being involved. I watch my grandkids 4 days a week and their other grandfather does 1 day a week. He puts up with less than I do and I'm fairly strict.

[daycare]

Ok wow.

(1) are you okay financially with dropping from two full time as far as money and going to one full time

(2) how do you think it's going to affect their routine and their behavior because of their decrease in days

(3) if you agree to do this... And then fill the now extra full time position, what happens in re months if she wants both kids to go back to full time and you don't have a spot, if this scenario applies??

(4) what happens if dck #1 is sick and misses one of her two days that week. Is mom going to give yu trouble as far as pay is concerned??

(5) is there an option to charge two part time spots instead of one full time spot??

great questions....

I didnt think about some of the this. I would still be ok if they dropped to one full time spot. THis way I still can keep my asst.

As far as behavior goes. I know that it will ALL go out the window. when they first started with me they came here 3 days a week part time together and it was not fun getting them on board. It took me about 6 months to get them used to how I do things here, so this is a RED FLAG for me.

IF I fill the other spot and they need to come back, they will be SOL

I would make sure they DCM understood no credits, no make up days. This is already in my policies.

My part time rates for 3 days a week is only about a $225 difference and that was not enough savings for them.


One of my fears is that drop off will be He!! because kid coming to me will be upset that their sibling is at home with gma.....................

[daycare]

I think she means she feels if she doesn't agree to do what dcm wants, she risks losing both kids if mom pulls, thus leaving two full time positions open instead of just the one... Or maybe I'm confused... Not sure

yes you are correct.....that is if they pull

at this point nothing has happened...

Sharlan....I could see it working if the grandma had schedules, routines and transitions. BUT these kids rule the house. They were very difficult children when I first got them, but they have been with me for 2 years and I love the heck out of these kids. They are so so well behaved for me now.

[Cradle2crayons]

great questions....

I didnt think about some of the this. I would still be ok if they dropped to one full time spot. THis way I still can keep my asst.

As far as behavior goes. I know that it will ALL go out the window. when they first started with me they came here 3 days a week part time together and it was not fun getting them on board. It took me about 6 months to get them used to how I do things here, so this is a RED FLAG for me.

IF I fill the other spot and they need to come back, they will be SOL

I would make sure they DCM understood no credits, no make up days. This is already in my policies.

My part time rates for 3 days a week is only about a $225 difference and that was not enough savings for them.


One of my fears is that drop off will be He!! because kid coming to me will be upset that their sibling is at home with gma.....................

Then if you are okay with the financial aspect of it, what about being honest with mom about your concerns:::

(1) lack of consistency
(2) behavior
(3) general policies and any additional related to this change

And then offer a two week trial period. Especially since you are going to have to re do your contract etc anyway.. That way at least you know you tried and she knows you tried to make it work.

And at the same time, interview to fill the spare spot. If the new set up doesn't work and both kids leave, they will only be leaving ONE spot for you to fill if you fill their other spot

[daycare]

Then if you are okay with the financial aspect of it, what about being honest with mom about your concerns:::

(1) lack of consistency
(2) behavior
(3) general policies and any additional related to this change

And then offer a two week trial period. Especially since you are going to have to re do your contract etc anyway.. That way at least you know you tried and she knows you tried to make it work.

And at the same time, interview to fill the spare spot. If the new set up doesn't work and both kids leave, they will only be leaving ONE spot for you to fill if you fill their other spot

this is a great idea about the two week trial.

I will just tell DCM that because this is a whole new situation, that I need to make sure that it is going to work out. I REFUSE to take the short end of the stick here. I was pushed over in the past for this family and I won't let it happen again. the DCM can be super super sweet at times and then the devil at times. I have worked so hard with this family.

I did tell the DCM that I am concerned about DCKs behavior. One of the DCKs CANNOT function without a consistent routine. It's almost like he has OCD......If I put his fork on the wrong side of the plate he will FLIP out.................

[Cradle2crayons]

this is a great idea about the two week trial.

I will just tell DCM that because this is a whole new situation, that I need to make sure that it is going to work out. I REFUSE to take the short end of the stick here. I was pushed over in the past for this family and I won't let it happen again. the DCM can be super super sweet at times and then the devil at times. I have worked so hard with this family.

I did tell the DCM that I am concerned about DCKs behavior. One of the DCKs CANNOT function without a consistent routine. It's almost like he has OCD......If I put his fork on the wrong side of the plate he will FLIP out.................

If it were me, and I'd had them this long already, I'd agree, sign a two week trial. Explain to mom what happens if it doesn't work out. I'd fill the ft spot they left and keep interviewing in case their trial doesn't work out.

[daycare]

If it were me, and I'd had them this long already, I'd agree, sign a two week trial. Explain to mom what happens if it doesn't work out. I'd fill the ft spot they left and keep interviewing in case their trial doesn't work out.

I agree...I think that this would be a good move on my part. Business has been really really slow here. It has taken me a year to get to full capacity, so I have a feelings that I will have these openings for a long long time........

[canadiancare]

nothing to add other than I currently have one (I had 2) sharing a spot doing grandparent care on alternate days and once this other child is gone in September I will not accept this type of arrangement again.