Child Not Wanting To Come Here

[kimsdaycare]

I don't think most providers think twice about kids saying they don't want to come. When the parents say the kid doesn't want to come the provider is thinking ONE THING: is the parent going to pull the kid out.
So the normal response is to tell the parent the kid is happy at daycare and often start offering happiness incentives. That's when it becomes a problem.

If the parent sais “little Bob is fighting me every day not wanting to go to your house. He doesn't get to decide. I don't expect you to DO anything and I'm not going to take him out" the provider wouldn't give it a second thought.

It is because the provider thinks she may loose income that she gets in the mix.

If you have confidence that you are running a great gig and that it shouldn't be up to a little kid to decide where they are when the parents are working then stay out of the solution. Just let them figure it out.

Completely agree with you. My response is still the same to the parent, I make no effort to feed into it or fix it. Just point out the most logical reason for it, and move on. Yes it can make you wonder if they might pull, and I get that this is what is upsetting but honestly I don't allow it to. I could spend countless hours stressing about stuff like that and already put enough hours in . I do what works for myself and the group and if that doesn't work for them, there are other programs better suited to their needs. I'm ok with that.

[nannyde]

Completely agree with you. My response is still the same to the parent, I make no effort to feed into it or fix it. Just point out the most logical reason for it, and move on. Yes it can make you wonder if they might pull, and I get that this is what is upsetting but honestly I don't allow it to. I could spend countless hours stressing about stuff like that and already put enough hours in . I do what works for myself and the group and if that doesn't work for them, there are other programs better suited to their needs. I'm ok with that.

Yup I agree

[blandino]

Completely agree with you. My response is still the same to the parent, I make no effort to feed into it or fix it. Just point out the most logical reason for it, and move on. Yes it can make you wonder if they might pull, and I get that this is what is upsetting but honestly I don't allow it to. I could spend countless hours stressing about stuff like that and already put enough hours in . I do what works for myself and the group and if that doesn't work for them, there are other programs better suited to their needs. I'm ok with that.

I have a DCM of a boy who is on his second week with us, and has anxiety at drop off. I keep telling her is is normal, ESPECIALLY for the 2nd week. DCB went from a sitter, where there was minimal structure and he was the only child. To an environment with 11 other kids, and a ton of structure. His whole world has changed drastically. DCM said he "seems to enjoy the other children and the day, but he cries every morning about coming".

I did exactly what you said, told her it was normal and that because the crying was only at drop-off, that it was more separating from her than being at daycare. I was nice and didn't blatantly say "of course he would rather be at the sitters watching TV and eating PB&J", but honestly, that is the truth.

[Familycare71]

I have a DCM of a boy who is on his second week with us, and has anxiety at drop off. I keep telling her is is normal, ESPECIALLY for the 2nd week. DCB went from a sitter, where there was minimal structure and he was the only child. To an environment with 11 other kids, and a ton of structure. His whole world has changed drastically. DCM said he "seems to enjoy the other children and the day, but he cries every morning about coming".

I did exactly what you said, told her it was normal and that because the crying was only at drop-off, that it was more separating from her than being at daycare. I was nice and didn't blatantly say "of course he would rather be at the sitters watching TV and eating PB&J", but honestly, that is the truth.

Yup!!! I have this happening with my new dcb. He is an only child who doesn't have to wait for anything at home. He decides what he wants to do and when he wants to do it-

[JoseyJo]

Yup!!! I have this happening with my new dcb. He is an only child who doesn't have to wait for anything at home. He decides what he wants to do and when he wants to do it-

LOL! Don't ya love it when parent's refuse to say No or let their child cry ever, then be so amazed that their child who is horrible for them is great for you with a little structure and discipline?

[Familycare71]

LOL! Don't ya love it when parent's refuse to say No or let their child cry ever, then be so amazed that their child who is horrible for them is great for you with a little structure and discipline?

Lol:: right!?! Pretty much all my dck now are amazing for me- at home... Not so much!