Input on Potty Issues?

[Lilbutterflie]

None of it has worked yet. Infact the idea of having her change into clothes she wouldn't like, such as boy pants and underwear...well, on Monday she went to the bin we keep extra clothes in (for those whoes parents forget to replace clothes), and she got out some boy pants and underwear herself and changed into them! She didn't care a bit and noone told her to get them. It's just what she chose! I've tried asking her why she pees in her pants, and she just kept repeating, "I don't know". I asked if she just likes changing her clothes and she said the same thing. I asked her if she forgets, and I still didn't get any further. I've tried everyday this week, telling her she'll get an extra special sticker when mommy comes if she stays dry the whole day. She loves stickers, but she still has several accidents, as if she could care less. A person would think maybe she was doing it just because there'd be a lot going on and she didn't want to take time out to go potty, but she even has accidents at "boring" times as well (like washing hands or getting ready for nap). She can be so stubborn. She'll be holding herself sometimes and I'll tell her to "go potty!" and she whines, "I don't need to". Even if, like I said, nothing else is going on, and she's not in the middle of doing something that could get messed up while she's going potty. I just can't figure it out! I'm so afraid her parents are losing patience with us. Why at daycare and not at home? Half the time she won't even tell us anymore when she "has an accident". She just continues playing like nothing happened. She's 3 years old, I would think wet pants would bother her...

I would put her back into pullups or diapers. You've tried everything possible, she's just not responding. I would tell her and her parents that she needs to be accident free for a week before she can go back to underwear at daycare again. That might just motivate her AND her parents to do something about it!!

[Unregistered]

I would put her back into pullups or diapers. You've tried everything possible, she's just not responding. I would tell her and her parents that she needs to be accident free for a week before she can go back to underwear at daycare again. That might just motivate her AND her parents to do something about it!!

I would like to put her in pull ups again, but I'm afraid she'd never be potty trained because she won't bother to even try going potty half the time if she has a pull-up on to catch it. Plus, she is potty trained at home. She has been for a few months. It's just here at daycare that she has "accidents". I'm afraid it may be like giving her permission to be lazy and not go potty.
Joyce, that's a good suggestion, not giving her attention when she has her accidents. We thought about that, too, and continue to just hand her the clothes and she changes herself. No attention besides negative like, "why did you just pee in your pants? You told me you didn't have to potty." We don't go in the bathroom with her, we simply hand her a plastic bag for her wet clothes and she puts them in it herself. But we praise her when she does go potty. We even make her go inside during outdoor play time to change her clothes if she wets her pants while outside. She hates being made to go inside even for a second to change, so you'd think that would discourage her a little from it, but so far no luck. And of course we make her go potty before we go outside too.