So Irritated With DCM and Her "Expertise"!

[SilverSabre25]

If its a gluten allergy, isn't that Celiacs? If so, he would not be ok after eating bread. Is this a case of doctor saying whatever mom wants to please her?????

Not exactly. There is Celiac disease, which has a very specific set of criteria and symptoms that must be met for diagnosis, and then there is gluten intolerance/gluten sensitivity, which is for people who are happier without gluten in their diet but don't fit the Celiac "profile". Personally, having been gluten free for 7 years now (well...off and on...I'm bad about it....) I believe that it is a spectrum, like autism and many other things. I do NOT fit the Celiac profile (one symptom of which is being underweight), but gluten makes me very unhappy in large quantities.

As a mom of an ex-wheat/barley allergic child who was on gluten free diet for years, you wouldn't have a gluten 'allergy'. A dr giving a true diagnosis wouldn't word it that way. You would have a gluten intolerance and be on a gluten free diet. A gluten 'allergy' would be listed specific as a wheat allergy...or a barley allergy ....or....well you get the idea

Ditto. While I sometimes tell people who don't "need to know" that I'm allergic, it's not an allergy and no respectable medical professional would describe it that way.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

As a mom of an ex-wheat/barley allergic child who was on gluten free diet for years, you wouldn't have a gluten 'allergy'. A dr giving a true diagnosis wouldn't word it that way. You would have a gluten intolerance and be on a gluten free diet. A gluten 'allergy' would be listed specific as a wheat allergy...or a barley allergy ....or....well you get the idea

Maybe the Mom is like me. I tell people my Celiacs is a "serious gluten allergy" because more people GET that than "I have Celiacs." They just blank stare at me and don't grasp the seriousness of it. Celiacs is more severe than a gluten allergy, but people don't tend to mess with things when you say it's a "serious allergy" because that's in their realm of understanding.

I hope that makes sense.

Silver, I just laughed out loud about the spectrum thing. Apparently I'm on a lot of spectrums. LOL!

[mrsnj]

I understand but a DOCTOR shouldn't be wording it that way. KWIM?

[melilley]

Now the dcm just came to pick up and dcb was having a tantrum because he had to come in and dry off from water play. She says "this is why dad shouldn't give you red dye". WTH? He was fine all day. I told her he wanted to go back outside and she went on how yesterday dcb's dad let him have a bite of a red popsicle and how she was going to call me this morning to warn me. I told her it's his age and the other kids do the same and she just said oh they do, well M (dcg) is younger than him. SOME people!

[MissAnn]

"Ma'am, it's purely a discipline issue. Specifically, a lack of. I've been wondering....do you think you might have an allergy to disciplining?"

[mrsnj]

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[Laurel]

Here is a link that explains Munchausen by Proxy syndrome just for reference.

http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sick/munchausen.html

Laurel

[My3cents]

"Ma'am, it's purely a discipline issue. Specifically, a lack of. I've been wondering....do you think you might have an allergy to disciplining?"

LOL- love thislovethis

[Starburst]

I have a DCM who just received her BA in elementary education with an emphasis on special education. She just finished student teaching in a couple of different special education classrooms (she said one teacher wouldn't have her in his class anymore-which is weird to me so she had to switch schools) and I swear she thinks that her child has every disorder in the world and it's driving me nuts!

Careful she may try to diagnosis you with Bipolar disorder, Schizophrenia, Paranoid Personality Disorder, and Psychosis... Sorry, couldn't resist

Then she proceeds to tell me that she is going to bring a paper for me to fill out because she is going to see if her son (the 2.5) year old is autistic. I couldn't believe it! Every time he throws a fit, which he only does when he has to leave, something is wrong and it's irritating. Doesn't she know that 2 year olds throw fits? She has said things in the past when he has thrown a fit and I just have to roll my eyes. You think with all her education she should know what's developmental appropriate for children. This child is developmentally where he should be and while I am not a doctor, he shows not one sign of any developmental issues! I feel that this DCM has seen children with developmental delays and learned about them and now her children have them. It's like that disease where moms make their kids sick on purpose so they have to take care of them all the time (I forget what they call that) except she wants her children to have something wrong so they are "special" if that makes sense.

Her son also has a gluten allergy and when he "gets into" gluten he gets hyper and she gives him Benadryl to calm down, and has told me this, but always ads that they didn't give him "that" much and when they started she told me I could do the same if he gets hyper. He never gets that way and Ummmm no, I won't give a child Benadryl to sedate them! He acts like a zombie when he has it and I can tell when he gets it before coming here. I just think that whenever he throws a fit or is hyper, to her it's due to gluten so it's an excuse for her to calm him down so she doesn't have to listen to him throw a fit. She also says he has restless leg syndrome, sleep apnea and he thrashes and yells in his sleep, all of this I have never seen.

I have also talked about my 21 mo. old tornado that I have here. Well this DCM has also gone so far to talk about this child and has told me different things that this child could have and has even given me a pamphlet to give to his parents on an organization that they can contact to see what is wrong with him! Give me a break! He does have a delay in talking, but other than that, he is where he should be, he is just a rambunctious little guy and wears me out, but some children have that personality.

Sorry I am ranting and this is so long, but I'm just so irritated with her. Her son is a smarty pants and everything he does, including the bad, is typical of his age. I just wish she could see that and stop diagnosing everyone with everything. Now I just pretend to listen to her and roll my eyes later.
Oh yeah, this is the mom who is a nanny for her friend for the summer, but is bringing her kids here while she is spending time with 3 other children.

Here is a link that explains Munchausen by Proxy syndrome just for reference.

http://kidshealth.org/parent/general...unchausen.html

Usually Munchausen syndrome by proxy is more a form of abuse where they are deliberately making their child sick (usually through poisoning or suffication) so they (the abuser) can get attention (or pity) from others, many times to the point where the victim dies or is in critical condition. There is this thing that psychology and medical students get sometimes called psych/medical student syndrome, hypochondriasis by proxy, or Delusions of Grandeur. It's where people have a false belief of superiority (basically ****iness) and its usually displayed by over diagnosing people with physical or psychological disorders. At the risk of incriminating myself of this, I think that is what the DCM has ().