Mom Wants DCB To Have AM Nap NOT PM...WWYD?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Here's DCBS day~


6am- Wake up

6:30-7- Arrive

3:30- Pick up

5- bedtime

He often stays late (1 time a week), yesterday he wasn't picked up until 5 pm.


She complained that when she got home she put him to bed and he played in his bed until 7:30.

11 hours of sleep at night would be more than sufficient for him. That means a 7:00PM bedtime if waking up at 6:00AM.

http://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/sleep-children

[Cradle2crayons]

I agree with everyone else. While I may be tempted to lay him back down when he arrives for a quick nap, say 45 minutes or so, I'd still do the afternoon nap. That's a requirement here. No exceptions. I wouldn't even entertain that idea.

[craftymissbeth]

If your afternoon nap is a requirement could you possibly put this all back on her? Maybe tell her that you can do a morning nap, but someone needs to pick him up during the other children's afternoon nap and then bring him back. Maybe she'll decide that's not going to work out

[Patches]

Mom of the DCB that's been hitting seems to think he needs more sleep. She said he needs only an am nap, not pm. She wants to be able to put him to bed between 4-5pm. She said he needs the sleep since he gets up at 6.
She says this is the reason for his hitting.

1. I need an afternoon break.

2. My dcks and my own go to one nap as soon as possible, no later than 15 months.
(so I wont do 2, I've also tried it and it did not work)

She said he naps by 9am and then he's up for the day. Well this wont work here bc I have a group to consider. They will not be able to sleep through all of his noise. She wants me to not give him on an am nap.


BTW she wanted an am nap BEFORE the hitting started!!

What would you do??:confused:

4-5pm is INSANE for a bedtime!!! Why not have him take an afternoon nap with everyone else of 2 hours(I'm assuming that's about how long your naptime is) and go to bed at 7 so he can actually *gasp* spend time with his family. <That was more sarcasm directed at DCM than advice for you. It just rubs me the wrong way
2 hrs naptime + 11 hrs nighttime = roughly 13 hours. Is that an adequate amount of sleep for a 20 month old?

No kidding!! Plus, if she starts doing that and never spends any time with him imagine how much worse his behavior will be...

^BAM! Exactly.

I seriously doubt this is about dcb getting more sleep but about dcm not wanting to be bothered to be a mom

[nannyde]

I would put him back to bed upon arrival and up at 830 for breakfast. Back down for nap at 1230 to 3 pm. He then can stay up with mom till 830 pm.

They need awake time in the evening. I wouldn't consider any other schedule. She's trying to shun her kid. She wants to do only sleep care parenting cuz it's easier. She can't have that.

I don't allow parents to decide the schedule. I decide it.

[Laurel]

I'd try to put him in bed as soon as he arrives for an hour or so. I think someone else suggested this as well. I would wake him up after an hour.

I'd also put him in for an afternoon nap with everyone else. I'd be curious to see if he sleeps for the afternoon nap. I bet he would.

I've had sleeping issues with my grandson. He seems to sleep so much sometimes. If he doesn't get enough sleep he also pushes, hits, etc. He is just tired.

That bedtime is nuts.

Laurel

[Heidi]

I would put him back to bed upon arrival and up at 830 for breakfast. Back down for nap at 1230 to 3 pm. He then can stay up with mom till 830 pm.

They need awake time in the evening. I wouldn't consider any other schedule. She's trying to shun her kid. She wants to do only sleep care parenting cuz it's easier. She can't have that.

I don't allow parents to decide the schedule. I decide it.

This is exactly what I would do.

[wdmmom]

I would put him back to bed upon arrival and up at 830 for breakfast. Back down for nap at 1230 to 3 pm. He then can stay up with mom till 830 pm.

They need awake time in the evening. I wouldn't consider any other schedule. She's trying to shun her kid. She wants to do only sleep care parenting cuz it's easier. She can't have that.

I don't allow parents to decide the schedule. I decide it.

Same here!

Only difference is that I serve breakfast at 8am so I'd get him up at 8am and back down at 1230pm.

[Cat Herder]

"Just say No".

It is Summer Safety Month after all....

[williams2008]

I agree with everyone else. While I may be tempted to lay him back down when he arrives for a quick nap, say 45 minutes or so, I'd still do the afternoon nap. That's a requirement here. No exceptions. I wouldn't even entertain that idea.

Yep! Same thing I was thinking!!

[williams2008]

I would put him back to bed upon arrival and up at 830 for breakfast. Back down for nap at 1230 to 3 pm. He then can stay up with mom till 830 pm.

They need awake time in the evening. I wouldn't consider any other schedule. She's trying to shun her kid. She wants to do only sleep care parenting cuz it's easier. She can't have that.

I don't allow parents to decide the schedule. I decide it.

[cheerfuldom]

this isn't really in direct response to your post...... but whyyyy have kids if you think it's too much work to take care of them?!... she must have had SOME kind of hint before she got pregnant that it's not always rainbows and butterflies...putting him to BED at 5?! that seems crazy to me..how old exactly is dcb?

in my opinion, i would let her know ur policies/schedule/routine and tell her that it won't change because one one child, and if she needs to find alternate care, to do so..not forgetting ur _ weeks notice ofcourse

a lot of people have no clue about kids, and a lot of pregnancies are surprises. plus she is doing whatever works for her or her kid, doesnt really care if it works for the daycare

[cheerfuldom]

I would put him back to bed upon arrival and up at 830 for breakfast. Back down for nap at 1230 to 3 pm. He then can stay up with mom till 830 pm.

They need awake time in the evening. I wouldn't consider any other schedule. She's trying to shun her kid. She wants to do only sleep care parenting cuz it's easier. She can't have that.

I don't allow parents to decide the schedule. I decide it.

exactly! if he is sleeping at 4 or 5 for the night, she never sees him awake and never deals with or even sees these behaviors the provider is having an issue with. in her mind, "its not a problem at home" and she is going to care even less about finding a solution.

this mom is being really immature and selfish. i would imagine the poor behavior is him acting out his frustrations with his home situation. he NEEDS attention....from mom!!!