Mom Wants DCB To Have AM Nap NOT PM...WWYD?

[LaLa1923]

Mom of the DCB that's been hitting seems to think he needs more sleep. She said he needs only an am nap, not pm. She wants to be able to put him to bed between 4-5pm. She said he needs the sleep since he gets up at 6.
She says this is the reason for his hitting.

1. I need an afternoon break.

2. My dcks and my own go to one nap as soon as possible, no later than 15 months.
(so I wont do 2, I've also tried it and it did not work)

She said he naps by 9am and then he's up for the day. Well this wont work here bc I have a group to consider. They will not be able to sleep through all of his noise. She wants me to not give him on an am nap.


BTW she wanted an am nap BEFORE the hitting started!!

What would you do??:confused:

[Heidi]

Because I care for a group of children, I cannot accommodate that request. I'm sure you can understand that group care is different than one-on-one care".

You said you wont do 2. How old is he? If he's under 18 months, he may still need 2 naps. Can you lay him down right after he arrives for and hour or so?

More sleep may improve his behavior, she could be right about that in general...

[CedarCreek]

I'd say that you cannot work that into your day when considering the group as a whole.

If his needs don't fit into your program, I'd let him go.

Also, a 4 to 5 pm bedtime seems ridiculous to me. But I wouldn't say that to dcm.

[Heidi]

I'd say that you cannot work that into your day when considering the group as a whole.

If his needs don't fit into your program, I'd let him go.

Also, a 4 to 5 pm bedtime seems ridiculous to me. But I wouldn't say that to dcm.

4-5 pm is ridiculous! When does she ever see the poor little guy?:confused:

[TheGoodLife]

"Sorry, our nap time is what works for the whole group. I can try to add an AM nap to get him more sleep, but the afternoon nap is required for daycare." (I have contracted my nap policy, if yours is too I'd mention "contracted nap time" in there as well!

[Blackcat31]

Mom of the DCB that's been hitting seems to think he needs more sleep. She said he needs only an am nap, not pm. She wants to be able to put him to bed between 4-5pm. She said he needs the sleep since he gets up at 6.
She says this is the reason for his hitting.

1. I need an afternoon break.

2. My dcks and my own go to one nap as soon as possible, no later than 15 months.
(so I wont do 2, I've also tried it and it did not work)

She said he naps by 9am and then he's up for the day. Well this wont work here bc I have a group to consider. They will not be able to sleep through all of his noise. She wants me to not give him on an am nap.


BTW she wanted an am nap BEFORE the hitting started!!

What would you do??:confused:

I'd be firm about my daily routine and let her know that if YOUR schedule does not work for her that she is free to find alternate care arrangements.

I don't change my routine for anyone. If my routine no longer works for a family then it is time to part ways.

Also, I wouldn't use the argument that you need the break though. Whether true or not, I don't think that should ever be a parent's concern...kwim?

[LaLa1923]

Because I care for a group of children, I cannot accommodate that request. I'm sure you can understand that group care is different than one-on-one care".

You said you wont do 2. How old is he? If he's under 18 months, he may still need 2 naps. Can you lay him down right after he arrives for and hour or so?

More sleep may improve his behavior, she could be right about that in general...

He's actually almost 20 months old! Sorry, I should've said that.

[LaLa1923]

I'd be firm about my daily routine and let her know that if YOUR schedule does not work for her that she is free to find alternate care arrangements.

I don't change my routine for anyone. If my routine no longer works for a family then it is time to part ways.

Also, I wouldn't use the argument that you need the break though. Whether true or not, I don't think that should ever be a parent's concern...kwim?

I never said that I needed a break but I really wanted to..,.

I tried a short morning nap and he was a bear the rest of the day. In the afternoon he ended up laying awake in his bed...

[Blackcat31]

I never said that I needed a break but I really wanted to..,.

I tried a short morning nap and he was a bear the rest of the day. In the afternoon he ended up laying awake in his bed...

Oh, don't get me wrong...I LOVE the quiet that rest/nap time brings but I just think from a parent's perspective it can be misconstrued...kwim?

I'd definitely let DCM know that her plan is not working.

Why should you (and the other kids) have to deal with a cranky kid just so he can go to bed at such a ridiculously early hour?

[Heidi]

I never said that I needed a break but I really wanted to..,.

I tried a short morning nap and he was a bear the rest of the day. In the afternoon he ended up laying awake in his bed...

What time does he get to your house? Is he crabby in the mornings, or ok until nap?

[Unregistered]

this isn't really in direct response to your post...... but whyyyy have kids if you think it's too much work to take care of them?!... she must have had SOME kind of hint before she got pregnant that it's not always rainbows and butterflies...putting him to BED at 5?! that seems crazy to me..how old exactly is dcb?

in my opinion, i would let her know ur policies/schedule/routine and tell her that it won't change because one one child, and if she needs to find alternate care, to do so..not forgetting ur _ weeks notice ofcourse

[Unregistered]

I'd be firm about my daily routine and let her know that if YOUR schedule does not work for her that she is free to find alternate care arrangements.

I don't change my routine for anyone. If my routine no longer works for a family then it is time to part ways.

Also, I wouldn't use the argument that you need the break though. Whether true or not, I don't think that should ever be a parent's concern...kwim?

haha i said almost the same thing!^ :P

[NeedaVaca]

4-5 pm is ridiculous! When does she ever see the poor little guy?:confused:

No kidding!! Plus, if she starts doing that and never spends any time with him imagine how much worse his behavior will be...

[LaLa1923]

What time does he get to your house? Is he crabby in the mornings, or ok until nap?

He gets here at 630, sometimes he's crabby.

[LaLa1923]

Here's DCBS day~


6am- Wake up

6:30-7- Arrive

3:30- Pick up

5- bedtime

He often stays late (1 time a week), yesterday he wasn't picked up until 5 pm.


She complained that when she got home she put him to bed and he played in his bed until 7:30.