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  • proudmommyofthree
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Apr 2012
    • 179

    Do I have to call this in to licensing

    Sorry this may be long;

    Back in August I started a new family. Dcb was 1 1/2. He was part time while dad attended school and mom worked full time. Around October dad leaves mom and asks for a divorce, but came back to mom a few days later. December - Early February I do not have dcb since dad is on winter break. Now dcb was to start back up at the end of February. Dcm contacts me to let me know that dcd has left again and this time he has filed for divorce and dcb wil not be returning.

    Fast forward to now. Dcm has called me a few times and I have watched dcb as drop in. I also had to write a letter to her attorney stating that dcb had been in my care from August to December part time ( dad claimed he was home full time with dcb).

    . anyways dcb was here a couple of weeks ago. Dad has supervised visits wih dcb (dcd has PTSD and apparently is unstable at the moment). He had a visit with him on a Thursday and I had dcb that next day on a Friday.

    Yesterday dcm calls me and tells me I need to write another letter because dcd is claiming mom is abusing dcb. That he saw bruises and burns on dcb's hands. Since I had him in care Friday she wants a letter stating there were no bruises or burns.

    I did write the letter and in the letter I also mentioned how I am a mandated reporter and must report any suspecion of child abuse ( mom is not abusing her son., dad is trying to son away).

    So my question is, should I make a call to licensing and give them a heads up, this is getting ugly and now I'm worried that dcd will try to say I'm a abusing the child next. Dcb is on a drop in basis only and I've only had him about 3-4 times since all this happened in January.

    What should I do. My hubby thinks I shouldn't watch him anymore, but I love this little guy and want to help out as much as I can. Any thought?

    Btw if dad was to call me I would tell him the truth. I never saw any type of abuse by neither parents. Both seem like loving caring parents to dcb so I'm not taking sides.

    Thanks
  • SilverSabre25
    Senior Member
    • Aug 2010
    • 7585

    #2
    I probably would.

    And document, document document. You might even consider taking a picture of the boy, time stamped, with something like a smartphone (that i don't think you can change the time), everyday at drop off and again at or just before pick up...just to further CYA.
    Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!

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    • daycare
      Advanced Daycare.com *********
      • Feb 2011
      • 16259

      #3
      Sounds like they are putting you in the middle of their arguments. I would never get involved.

      Someone on here had a great form you give to divorced parents. I have a copy of it let me see if I can find it.

      I would call my analyst and let her know what's going on.

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      • Play Care
        Daycare.com Member
        • Dec 2012
        • 6642

        #4
        I would call licensing and let them know. I would keep detailed notes on the situation (sticking to the facts) "DC boy came into day at 8:00 am, seemed happy and ready to play. No marks, bruises or sores noted during diaper changes." So sorry you are dealing with this and so sad for the little guy!

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        • daycare
          Advanced Daycare.com *********
          • Feb 2011
          • 16259

          #5
          I also wanted to say unless you really need the money, maybe just not take the boy anymore.

          I had a young family full of drama and I saw it was headed in a bad direction so I cut ties. The boy was also a drop in. Luckily the boys grandma took him.

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          • Blackcat31
            • Oct 2010
            • 36124

            #6
            I would definitely call your licensor.

            Being proactive is absolutely necessary.

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            • crazydaycarelady
              Not really crazy
              • Jul 2012
              • 1457

              #7
              I could use that divorce paper, I have a set divorcing right now.

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              • sharlan
                Daycare.com Member
                • May 2011
                • 6067

                #8
                I don't think you "have" to, but I would just to give them a head's up.

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