Black and White

[Starburst]

I would like to add to the other ideas that he may not be thinking of black and white in racial terms, but could be thinking of it very literally.

If he is lighter skinned, to him "black" may mean that he will TURN black, or blackER, KWIM?

Yeah, I think I know what you mean. When I was a kid I was always confused why AA were called black because to me black is like pure black. I thought darker skin looked maybe like a dark bronze or golden color.

[kathiemarie]

My niece, who is in my child care and is bi-race, did this to for the longest time. I would just say yup, you are darker than me, or something like that and then talk about how flowers are different, trees are different and how wonderful things are because they are different. She out grew it, she understands that her skin color is different and its no big deal.

Here is a cute story. My brother (white) is not her bio dad but is her dad in every meaning of the word. We, his family, think of her as our niece/grand daughter/cousin. Her mom is white also. She has a relationship with her bio dad and his family. One day when she was trying to figure out her family she said Oh! I have a pink dad (my brother) and a black dad (bio dad). She said this with a big smile. I said yup, you sure are lucky to have so many people that love you.

[rmc20021]

Thanks for all the suggestions. I'm going to check into some of the ideas, but I think first I should speak to mom about his 'obsession' with color and see if she will work with me.happyface