Breasts ARE Sexual. (Because We Clearly Need This Talk)

[Country Kids]

I'm sorry you went through that, that's REALLY messed up. :hug: I'm sure that left an awful taste in your mouth, so more props to you that you're so accepting of today's nursing mom!

I went on to nurse the next three-one for 4 months, one for 5 or six and the next one-1 year!!!!

[allsmiles]

Heres my take on the whole breast issue whether feeding a child or just dressing.

I had a horrible experience with my first child while breastfeeding and was made to feel horrible about it by moms who breastfeed. I was told there was no reason a child couldn't breastfeed even though the lactacion specialist couldn't figure it out (why I was having such an issue).

I was shunned/kicked out of LaLeche league (still bad feelings 20 years later) because I couldn't nurse. A child was suppose to just eat, no one had ever had a child or heard of a child that wasn't able to nurse. Well here you go ladies-thats me and my child.

I was told by a very earthy older mom-isn't breastfeeding just the best-kinda orgasmic=

When I see people that pull it up and over the shirt or just bring it out in a public situation I always wonder who is watching that mom and thinking things that might not be appropriate while watching a mom nurse. I've seen moms do this during childrens story time at the library and who knows when the wrong person maybe sitting there watching this.

I know some nurse during interviews. You don't know these people from adam so how would you know if they aren't thinking sexual things while you nurse. Just ask (Meeko or Heidi) can't remember which that had the dad that hung out and wasn't such a nice guy. I can't imagine if she was a nursing mom at that time!

Believe me when I say woman need to be covered up whether nursing, dressing, being in a swimsuit or whatever. We would be appauld if a man ran around showing private areas and a man uses it for more then one thing.

I guess leave something for the imagination and something special for just you, your husband if nothing else. Not everyone needs to see what should be just for you/your husband and if you are a bf mom, leave that for a time between you and your baby. All women have them but it doesn't mean I need to see them. I know we have them, I know the functions of them but I don't have to have it affirmed time and time again.

Also, for the Hispanic culture breastfeeding. I would say that is definetly a younger generation thing. I have many hispanic relatives and know many hispanic ladies 5 years older then me and older and none of them would have openly bf in public and probably many not even around their husbands. I was told by many of them-not to be out of bed before 40 days after having a baby, no lifting my other children (the baby was 3 months old by then), and many other things that made me think-older women that did things much different then even my generation!

Please remember this is just my opinion and what I feel. Doesn't mean we can't have a very civil conversation. Also, our country is vast and what happens in one area doesn't mean it happens in another. I've seen this even in my own state and we have some pretty libral areas.

exactly..

[AmyLeigh]

Of course I can elaborate on my point. I agree, personal choices are what define us as people. I do not, however, think that everything we personally believe needs to be announced for all to hear at every opportunity. I believe you can be firm in your own personal beliefs, but not need to proclaim them to anyone who will listen.

When I wrote about the woman in college who needed to immediately announce to the class that she was a lesbian, I should have explained why I was so turned off by that statement. I felt that she, as a person, probably had more interesting things to share then what she likes to do in a bedroom. That is personal information, and something that she didn't need to share in order for me to understand her personality. I think it is sad when someone becomes more about a cause than about being a human.

Thank you. Now that makes more sense to me. I have seen it happen, too. Sometimes we get so wrapped up defending our own choices that we go to extremes.

[Jewels]

I must say I think I get out alot, and I have NEVER yet seen a woman breastfeeding where I could see a boob, Never, I think most all women do it very discreetly, maybe a few don't, but most do. I'm all for breastfeeding, I loved breastfeeding, and I had to do it in public once in a while, completely covered, I am not modest in the least, but I'm still not going to just whip it out, and I have yet to see anyone do it, if I did, I sure would do a double take, like "did I just see that", breasts are sexual, but I Don't think they are sexual while feeding, just like a butt is sexual, but I'm pretty sure for most, its not while sitting on a toilet. I just don't see why this debate keeps coming up, are women really walking around all over the place with their shirts off nursing babies??

[just_peachy]

I went on to nurse the next three-one for 4 months, one for 5 or six and the next one-1 year!!!!

lovethislovethislovethis

[dave4him]

Ill just smile, nod, and say, have you thought about switching to soy

[just_peachy]

Ill just smile, nod, and say, have you thought about switching to soy

NOOO not soy! You'll get me started on a whole new tangent! ::::::

I'm glad that a smile and nod is what you'd offer, not a scowl and a criticism, opposing views aside.

[dave4him]

Oh i always smile and moms with babies.... everyone needs a smile.

[Country Kids]

lovethislovethislovethis

Believe me though, I think that is why I was concious of not being in your face with my bf. I would quietly go off to nurse, because I never knew if there was another mama nearby that maybe wasn't able to for some reason. I have also met mamas that did bf but hated it but felt that if they didn't they would be lectured on it.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I always see A LOT MORE boob from young women scantily clad than I do from breastfeeding mothers. I find popping out breasts to be offensive. I do not find feeding your child with your breast (sexual breast/baby feeder/whatever you want to call it) to be offensive at all.

[Unregistered]

Heres my take on the whole breast issue whether feeding a child or just dressing.

I had a horrible experience with my first child while breastfeeding and was made to feel horrible about it by moms who breastfeed. I was told there was no reason a child couldn't breastfeed even though the lactacion specialist couldn't figure it out (why I was having such an issue).

I was shunned/kicked out of LaLeche league (still bad feelings 20 years later) because I couldn't nurse. A child was suppose to just eat, no one had ever had a child or heard of a child that wasn't able to nurse. Well here you go ladies-thats me and my child.

I was told by a very earthy older mom-isn't breastfeeding just the best-kinda orgasmic=

When I see people that pull it up and over the shirt or just bring it out in a public situation I always wonder who is watching that mom and thinking things that might not be appropriate while watching a mom nurse. I've seen moms do this during childrens story time at the library and who knows when the wrong person maybe sitting there watching this.

I know some nurse during interviews. You don't know these people from adam so how would you know if they aren't thinking sexual things while you nurse. Just ask (Meeko or Heidi) can't remember which that had the dad that hung out and wasn't such a nice guy. I can't imagine if she was a nursing mom at that time!

Believe me when I say woman need to be covered up whether nursing, dressing, being in a swimsuit or whatever. We would be appauld if a man ran around showing private areas and a man uses it for more then one thing.

I guess leave something for the imagination and something special for just you, your husband if nothing else. Not everyone needs to see what should be just for you/your husband and if you are a bf mom, leave that for a time between you and your baby. All women have them but it doesn't mean I need to see them. I know we have them, I know the functions of them but I don't have to have it affirmed time and time again.

Also, for the Hispanic culture breastfeeding. I would say that is definetly a younger generation thing. I have many hispanic relatives and know many hispanic ladies 5 years older then me and older and none of them would have openly bf in public and probably many not even around their husbands. I was told by many of them-not to be out of bed before 40 days after having a baby, no lifting my other children (the baby was 3 months old by then), and many other things that made me think-older women that did things much different then even my generation!

Please remember this is just my opinion and what I feel. Doesn't mean we can't have a very civil conversation. Also, our country is vast and what happens in one area doesn't mean it happens in another. I've seen this even in my own state and we have some pretty libral areas.

Men use their genitals for peeing and sex. Why would they be running around with their junk out?

[youretooloud]

We would be appauld if a man ran around showing private areas and a man uses it for more then one thing.

I think it depends on where you live too...so, if you live on a tropical beach, you expect this....

But, I like my neighbor Dane... he's a nice guy. But, he needs to lose about 50lbs, and has more body hair than I think is normal...He's 55 yrs old, has man boobs, and hair from his shorts to his neck.

Sometimes he will come over to our driveway in nothing but P.J shorts. It's beyond offensive. When he leaves, the rest of us feel like we need a shower.

[Heidi]

I think it depends on where you live too...so, if you live on a tropical beach, you expect this....

But, I like my neighbor xxxx he's a nice guy. But, he needs to lose about 50lbs, and has more body hair than I think is normal...He's 55 yrs old, has man boobs, and hair from his shorts to his neck.

Sometimes he will come over to our driveway in nothing but P.J shorts. It's beyond offensive. When he leaves, the rest of us feel like we need a shower.

....why is my husband in YOUR neighborhood?


Seriously, he's not 50 lbs overweight, closer to 25, but he's practically the missing link.

[Heidi]

Men use their genitals for peeing and sex. Why would they be running around with their junk out?

Yeah, I don't think anyone was suggesting public urination or sex...:: is ok.

[just_peachy]

Believe me though, I think that is why I was concious of not being in your face with my bf. I would quietly go off to nurse, because I never knew if there was another mama nearby that maybe wasn't able to for some reason. I have also met mamas that did bf but hated it but felt that if they didn't they would be lectured on it.

My son didn't latch for the first 6 weeks of his life. It was hell. We tried everything. We ended up using a supplemental nursing system, and eventually he just "got" it.

Then my best friend got pregnant, survived a ruptured uterus, (but barely, she flat-lined at one point,) and had troubles nursing. I kept telling her "you can do it, try this, there are ways, try that." She suffered from horrible PPD but didn't want to seek help or be on meds, cause of the pumping and attempted nursing she was doing. After many heart-to-hearts, it became clear that she had to take care of HER health first. It NEEDED to be a priority, for the sake of her child. She went on meds, pumped and supplemented for a year, and is doing great now.

I was so humbled after that experience. I can definitely see why the "in your face" nursers could cause so much pain to a non-nurser. I'd never thought of it that way before.