Breasts ARE Sexual. (Because We Clearly Need This Talk)

[just_peachy]

Okay um as a married male! I find it completely inappropriate to do right in public view, its an intimate moment between baby and mom. You kind of contradict yourself in your post anyway.

...did you even read any of the provided links? Nope, you already have your "beliefs" firmly in place. Married male, schmarried male. Many would disagree.

[Crystal]

...did you even read any of the provided links? Nope, you already have your "beliefs" firmly in place. Married male, schmarried male. Many would disagree.

hmmmm.....weren't you the one talking about "social blacklisting"? This thread was meant for MEANINGFUL discussion.....why would you intentionally "offend" like this?

[Heidi]

Okay um as a married male! I find it completely inappropriate to do right in public view, its an intimate moment between baby and mom. You kind of contradict yourself in your post anyway.

I don't think she's contradicting. I think she's saying "yes, breasts are sexual AND for feeding babies. We need to get over it"

If seeing a man's hands turns me on, should all men now have to wear gloves?

Just because you are married, doesn't mean you can't find other women attractive or even arousing. It's how you act on it that counts. If it's too enticing, then look away.

Or...as I say to my hubby "I don't care where you wet your appetite, as long as you eat all your meals at home" ::::

[dave4him]

Same reason i wont let my daugthers out of the house in a shirt that shows too much breast is the same reason i dont like seeing mothers breast feeding in public. I happen to have that view.

[bunnyslippers]

...did you even read any of the provided links? Nope, you already have your "beliefs" firmly in place. Married male, schmarried male. Many would disagree.

And many more would agree. Jeeeeeeez Louise.

[Crystal]

Same reason i wont let my daugthers out of the house in a shirt that shows too much breast is the same reason i dont like seeing mothers breast feeding in public. I happen to have that view.

[Hunni Bee]

My feelings on breast-feeding in public are:
If your baby needs to eat, feed your baby. Please don't leave your boob out there for everyone to look at. I don't want to see it, and I don't think it is necessary. If you cover your bare boob, people will still know you are feeding your baby, and you are still getting your point across.

I remember my first day of college, I was sitting in class. We all had to give one fact about ourselves, and one woman next to me said, "I am ___, and I am a lesbian." I remember thinking to myself, "Why does that have to be what defines her?" I am a firm believer that the world needs all kinds of people. I am also a firm believer that our beliefs - religious, sexual, child-rearing, etc. do NOT need to be the defining factor of who we are. I do not think I need to see another person's boob, sexual preference, or political views crammed in my face to educate me or anyone else.

Personal choices are, and should remain, personal.

lovethishappyface

[just_peachy]

Same reason i wont let my daugthers out of the house in a shirt that shows too much breast is the same reason i dont like seeing mothers breast feeding in public. I happen to have that view.

But... that's... the... whole... point of... oh, just never mind. I've already harmed my reputation enough.

[youretooloud]

Okay um as a married male! I find it completely inappropriate to do right in public view, its an intimate moment between baby and mom. You kind of contradict yourself in your post anyway.

I'm just saying that I respect that. I would hope that others would also, and not be all in your face with it. But, if you happen to pass someone sitting down and feeding the baby, just politely avert your eyes and say nothing.

But, if I KNEW that you felt that way, it would be selfish to force it on you.

I also know that you live in an area where it's not really acceptable. So, for that reason alone, i'd already assume most people there would appreciate if I was more discreet.

[AmyLeigh]

I remember my first day of college, I was sitting in class. We all had to give one fact about ourselves, and one woman next to me said, "I am ___, and I am a lesbian." I remember thinking to myself, "Why does that have to be what defines her?" I am a firm believer that the world needs all kinds of people. I am also a firm believer that our beliefs - religious, sexual, child-rearing, etc. do NOT need to be the defining factor of who we are. I do not think I need to see another person's boob, sexual preference, or political views crammed in my face to educate me or anyone else.

Personal choices are, and should remain, personal.

Could you expound on that a bit? Everything that defines who I am are related to my beliefs and worldview. Otherwise I am just a body moving through space. I'm not being snarky, really. I'm curious how can one define oneself without including their personal beliefs?

[Sugar Magnolia]

I never breast fed, wasn't for me. Also don't give a hoot what some moms do in public.
I'm.45 and my breasts are fantastic. ::::
Thought this thread needed a little levity. ::

[just_peachy]

hmmmm.....weren't you the one talking about "social blacklisting"? This thread was meant for MEANINGFUL discussion.....why would you intentionally "offend" like this?

You're right, that was hypocritical. I apologize. I was just frustrated that he jumped in with a one sentence opinion seemingly without reading any of the previous rebuttles or informative links.

[bunnyslippers]

Of course I can elaborate on my point. I agree, personal choices are what define us as people. I do not, however, think that everything we personally believe needs to be announced for all to hear at every opportunity. I believe you can be firm in your own personal beliefs, but not need to proclaim them to anyone who will listen.

When I wrote about the woman in college who needed to immediately announce to the class that she was a lesbian, I should have explained why I was so turned off by that statement. I felt that she, as a person, probably had more interesting things to share then what she likes to do in a bedroom. That is personal information, and something that she didn't need to share in order for me to understand her personality. I think it is sad when someone becomes more about a cause than about being a human.

[Country Kids]

Heres my take on the whole breast issue whether feeding a child or just dressing.

I had a horrible experience with my first child while breastfeeding and was made to feel horrible about it by moms who breastfeed. I was told there was no reason a child couldn't breastfeed even though the lactacion specialist couldn't figure it out (why I was having such an issue).

I was shunned/kicked out of LaLeche league (still bad feelings 20 years later) because I couldn't nurse. A child was suppose to just eat, no one had ever had a child or heard of a child that wasn't able to nurse. Well here you go ladies-thats me and my child.

I was told by a very earthy older mom-isn't breastfeeding just the best-kinda orgasmic=

When I see people that pull it up and over the shirt or just bring it out in a public situation I always wonder who is watching that mom and thinking things that might not be appropriate while watching a mom nurse. I've seen moms do this during childrens story time at the library and who knows when the wrong person maybe sitting there watching this.

I know some nurse during interviews. You don't know these people from adam so how would you know if they aren't thinking sexual things while you nurse. Just ask (Meeko or Heidi) can't remember which that had the dad that hung out and wasn't such a nice guy. I can't imagine if she was a nursing mom at that time!

Believe me when I say woman need to be covered up whether nursing, dressing, being in a swimsuit or whatever. We would be appauld if a man ran around showing private areas and a man uses it for more then one thing.

I guess leave something for the imagination and something special for just you, your husband if nothing else. Not everyone needs to see what should be just for you/your husband and if you are a bf mom, leave that for a time between you and your baby. All women have them but it doesn't mean I need to see them. I know we have them, I know the functions of them but I don't have to have it affirmed time and time again.

Also, for the Hispanic culture breastfeeding. I would say that is definetly a younger generation thing. I have many hispanic relatives and know many hispanic ladies 5 years older then me and older and none of them would have openly bf in public and probably many not even around their husbands. I was told by many of them-not to be out of bed before 40 days after having a baby, no lifting my other children (the baby was 3 months old by then), and many other things that made me think-older women that did things much different then even my generation!

Please remember this is just my opinion and what I feel. Doesn't mean we can't have a very civil conversation. Also, our country is vast and what happens in one area doesn't mean it happens in another. I've seen this even in my own state and we have some pretty libral areas.

[just_peachy]

Heres my take on the whole breast issue whether feeding a child or just dressing.

I had a horrible experience with my first child while breastfeeding and was made to feel horrible about it by moms who breastfeed. I was told there was no reason a child couldn't breastfeed even though the lactacion specialist couldn't figure it out (why I was having such an issue).

I was shunned/kicked out of LaLeche league (still bad feelings 20 years later) because I couldn't nurse. A child was suppose to just eat, no one had ever had a child or heard of a child that wasn't able to nurse. Well here you go ladies-thats me and my child.

I'm sorry you went through that, that's REALLY messed up. :hug: I'm sure that left an awful taste in your mouth, so more props to you that you're so accepting of today's nursing mom!