Ridiculous Questions/Expectations...

[blandino]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

These had me laughing. How on earth are you supposed to provide breast milk ?

[MarinaVanessa]

These had me laughing. How on earth are you supposed to provide breast milk ?

THAT was my question . But she whole heartedly thought that I was required to provide it. I tried explaining to her that she needed to call them back and get clarification because I was allowed to serve it but that the mom needed to supply it, not me. She never called back. ::

[apick]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

OMG this had me laughing so hard!!!

[apick]

I've been asked a number of odd questions and they were all by the same mom during the same interview.

1. How many sq ft was my house
2. What was my drivers license #
3. What my and my husbands background registry #'s were

She also had to see my CPR card for herself to make sure it was current. I wanted to be like lady this is what the state does for you and why I'm licensed! She also wrote down the license plate #'s of both are cars when she left. I wasn't sorry when I didn't hear back from her!

[Starburst]

These had me laughing. How on earth are you supposed to provide breast milk ?

That just adds another job title discription of the daily duties of a daycare provider: business woman, teacher, nurse/doctor, sanitation cordinator, interior designer, conflict resolution councilor, accountant, chauffer, chef, and 24 hour wet nurse/ human milk factory (or community cow).

[blandino]

I know there are some women here who have been breastfeeding surrogates for children in their care, but for someone to think that you are legally required to BF their child is outrageous.

Also, what if she had not had a young child. Would I, who has never been pregnant - so clearly hasn't produced milk, be legally required to provide breast milk for this woman's child ? :roll eyes:

[Starburst]

I know there are some women here who have been breastfeeding surrogates for children in their care, but for someone to think that you are legally required to BF their child is outrageous.

Also, what if she had not had a young child. Would I, who has never been pregnant - so clearly hasn't produced milk, be legally required to provide breast milk for this woman's child ? :roll eyes:

At one home daycare I worked at one mom donated some of her milk to another mom (I think she didn't make enough and didn't want formula). All most all the daycare families went to the same church so they so they she knew well and had kids thier first kids close to the same age too; I think their second kids were probably only a few days to a few weeks apart. But I personally would at least have them sign an agreement that the one mom acknowleges that her baby will be drinking milk provided by the other mom because it still is a bodily fluid and can potentaly pass some illnesses such as HIV/AIDs and I don't want to be liable for that (since daycare parents legally do not have to tell providers if them or their children have any illness) but I also don't want to discourage this if it is the what the parent thinks is best for their child and they cannot produce enough milk and have a willing donor.

[Meyou]

I had a family tell me my husband wouldn't be allowed in our home when their child was there or it just wouldn't work for them. Ummmm....he lives here. ::

[Play Care]

Wow, compared to you all I've got nothing!::

I recieved a phone call inquiring about day care. When I told the woman my hours she got very offended because I close at 4:45 and she works until 5:00. She went on about it, and I just thought it so odd that she felt it appropriate to complain about my hours - this was just the inital call. If it doesn't work a simple thank you for your time and on to the next call should be how you handle it. I didn't start complaining to her about her paid vacations, 401K and health insurance. Every job has it's perks...

I had one woman when I first started out who wanted me to make major changes to my contract for her. I initally said I would, but after she left thought about it and decided not to take her on. I realized that if I gave in initially I would essentially be allowing her to be the "boss" of my business and anytime she had an issue I would be expected to change things in her favor. Um sorry, it doesn't work that way.

[MissAnn]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

Reality TV idea. I'm going to get some of those glasses that have a camera. Then I'm going to go to a provider's house and pretend I am a potential client and ask all of these questions. Would't that be hilarious?

[MissAnn]

Okay this wasn't actually a request but it was outrageous. I had a mom come for an interview and she revealed her husband's sperm count with him standing right there. He seemed to act like this was a normal conversation. The interview went well until I asked for the name of his previous daycare. She seemed very nervous at that point. The interview ended and she never called back.

[BumbleBee]

That just adds another job title discription of the daily duties of a daycare provider: business woman, teacher, nurse/doctor, sanitation cordinator, interior designer, conflict resolution councilor, accountant, chauffer, chef, and 24 hour wet nurse/ human milk factory (or community cow).

I just choked on my coffee at the community cow comment!

[Unregistered]

Hilarious

You guys are making my day. I thought it was just me that goes through these things!

I had a mom bring another Mom's breakstmilk here too to feed to her baby. They are friends and I get that, but was not comfortable with someone else body fluids being brought into my home. Yikes, what if she had HIV or hepatitis or something?

[CedarCreek]

I had a family tell me my husband wouldn't be allowed in our home when their child was there or it just wouldn't work for them. Ummmm....he lives here. ::

I haven't had too many crazies yet but I have had this also! What the heck are people thinking?

[Play Care]

Can you help my 7 yr old wipe his bum???

Um nope!!! And they still ask me every once in a while. Can you make sure jonny has a clean bum when he is done?

Still nope!!!

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I have a 4 yo that just started in my care in October (previous dc retired). First day he goes in to the bathroom - a few minutes later he calls out "K, I just pooped!" Um, okay? He then asked if I could wipe him....um no. I told him I do not wipe potty trained kids and he would need to do it. Mom had told me he was "fully" potty trained. IMO, that means they can wipe.