Pacifier Issues

[DaycareMomma]

I don't allow pacifiers past the age of one here anymore. Too many hazards with teething children in my opinion.

I have one little girl that would come in with it in her mouth and once her parents left, she'd hand it to me to put in her bag. I would tell her parents this and they just shrugged me off and would walk in the door at night and pop it back into her mouth.

I think you need to do what makes you feel comfortable while the child is in your care. The parents will realize that if he can go hours at your house without it, he'll be just fine at their house without it.

[wdmmom]

I don't allow any pacifiers for any age here.

They're too much of a pain to keep track of, continuously clean and sanitize after they fall on the floor and there are other kids that tend to use them at home and will try to nab them from babies that do use them.

My simple solution was to eliminate them here while they are young so they don't get that attachment you have to break from them later.

If dcb is 2 and he is coming with them, I would give them to dcm/dcd right at drop off and not let them in your door. Dcb needs to be engaging in activities and toys, not teething equipment.

[Meeko]

I hate, loathe and detest pacifiers. I do not allow them anymore at all. I see parents forcing the darn things into their kids mouths to shut them up and it drives me crazy.

It's the PARENTS who train their child into believing they can't live without it.

My mother is retired, but worked as an assistant to the oral sugeon at the local hospital. They would get children with problems sent to them from local dentists. The number of kids with pallete and teeth problems due to pacifiers was amazing. The parents would act shocked and say "But we only used "orthodontic/dentist approved" ones! They would be so shocked when the surgeon told them the claim is hogwash. There is no such thing as a good pacifier.

It is actually better for a child to **** their thumb as an infant than use a pacifier. Thumb-****ing is the child SELF-soothing. Pacifiers are the parent FORCING them to use it, until it becomes the norm. Even tiny babies soon learn that whenever they cry...they MUST have a plug inserted.

Thumb-****ing can cause problems too and some kids can become chronic ****ers. But the majority of babies stop on their own when the ****ing need diminishes. Pacifier use is often only stopped when the parent is ready to give it up, not the child.

It drives me crazy in church, watching mothers use them.

Baby is hungry? Plug it.
Baby is cooing too loudly? Plug it.
Baby is fussy? Don't find out why...just plug it.

It's a "shut-up" tool for the parents and not a need for the child. The child is trained to believe it "needs" it.

[Blackcat31]

I hate, loathe and detest pacifiers. I do not allow them anymore at all. I see parents forcing the darn things into their kids mouths to shut them up and it drives me crazy.

It's the PARENTS who train their child into believing they can't live without it.

My mother is retired, but worked as an assistant to the oral sugeon at the local hospital. They would get children with problems sent to them from local dentists. The number of kids with pallete and teeth problems due to pacifiers was amazing. The parents would act shocked and say "But we only used "orthodontic/dentist approved" ones! They would be so shocked when the surgeon told them the claim is hogwash. There is no such thing as a good pacifier.

It is actually better for a child to **** their thumb as an infant than use a pacifier. Thumb-****ing is the child SELF-soothing. Pacifiers are the parent FORCING them to use it, until it becomes the norm. Even tiny babies soon learn that whenever they cry...they MUST have a plug inserted.

Thumb-****ing can cause problems too and some kids can become chronic ****ers. But the majority of babies stop on their own when the ****ing need diminishes. Pacifier use is often only stopped when the parent is ready to give it up, not the child.

It drives me crazy in church, watching mothers use them.

Baby is hungry? Plug it.
Baby is cooing too loudly? Plug it.
Baby is fussy? Don't find out why...just plug it.

It's a "shut-up" tool for the parents and not a need for the child. The child is trained to believe it "needs" it.

My son had one until he was 3.5 yrs old.

I was one of those mother's in church.

...but if you knew my son then...you would have given him one too.

You are 100% right, he didnt need it one single bit......but I sure did.

Even now at 21 yrs old, I kind of wish he wouldn't have given it up. :: ::

[Meeko]

My son had one until he was 3.5 yrs old.

I was one of those mother's in church.

...but if you knew my son then...you would have given him one too.

You are 100% right, he didnt need it one single bit......but I sure did.

Even now at 21 yrs old, I kind of wish he wouldn't have given it up. :: ::

LOL ::::

[lovemykidstoo]

BC your post cracked me up!! LMAO!!!

I have 2 dcb's right now, this one being one of them. They BOTH come in with the pacifier AND blanket. As soon as mom or dad leave, they both go put them both in their beds. They don't see them again until nap. As soon as nap is over, they put them in their bags. The second they see their parent they immediate go to the bag and start yanking things out until they get their blanket and their pacifier. The parents BOTH help them look for it and plug it in their mouths. DRIVES ME NUTS!! I say each and every time that they dont' have it all day. Well, at least one of them will be done with that routine!

[Meyou]

My son had one until he was 3.5 yrs old.

I was one of those mother's in church.

...but if you knew my son then...you would have given him one too.

You are 100% right, he didnt need it one single bit......but I sure did.

Even now at 21 yrs old, I kind of wish he wouldn't have given it up. :: ::

From your stories your ds is the exception to EVERY childcare rule!!! :::::: I love your stories about him. One of my dd's is a wild child but your stories always put her in perspective for me.

[Blackcat31]

From your stories your ds is the exception to EVERY childcare rule!!! :::::: I love your stories about him. One of my dd's is a wild child but your stories always put her in perspective for me.

::::

Oh, I have tons of them (stories) too so whenever you need one, just let me know.

I can tell you about wire coat hangers and why we do not have them in our house anymore (not for the same reason Mommy Dearest had though)

or maybe stories about drinking beer, hating Barney, obese people, 25 lbs of sugar in my carpet, toothpaste in EVERY.SINGLE. hole/crack/space in my house...(including electrical outlets), calling Disney reservations/booking a trip, live mice in the bottom of the toybox, peeing in the clothes dryer etc etc

Yes, my list goes on and on!

In the photo I posted in the private social group, he looks very serious and mellow but we all know how looks can be deceiving. ::

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I hate them for the simple fact that they never talk or make noises when they have a plug in their face.

I take them and put them away till the end of the day.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I hate, loathe and detest pacifiers. I do not allow them anymore at all. I see parents forcing the darn things into their kids mouths to shut them up and it drives me crazy.

It's the PARENTS who train their child into believing they can't live without it.

My mother is retired, but worked as an assistant to the oral sugeon at the local hospital. They would get children with problems sent to them from local dentists. The number of kids with pallete and teeth problems due to pacifiers was amazing. The parents would act shocked and say "But we only used "orthodontic/dentist approved" ones! They would be so shocked when the surgeon told them the claim is hogwash. There is no such thing as a good pacifier.

It is actually better for a child to **** their thumb as an infant than use a pacifier. Thumb-****ing is the child SELF-soothing. Pacifiers are the parent FORCING them to use it, until it becomes the norm. Even tiny babies soon learn that whenever they cry...they MUST have a plug inserted.

Thumb-****ing can cause problems too and some kids can become chronic ****ers. But the majority of babies stop on their own when the ****ing need diminishes. Pacifier use is often only stopped when the parent is ready to give it up, not the child.

It drives me crazy in church, watching mothers use them.

Baby is hungry? Plug it.
Baby is cooing too loudly? Plug it.
Baby is fussy? Don't find out why...just plug it.

It's a "shut-up" tool for the parents and not a need for the child. The child is trained to believe it "needs" it.

. Yes ma'am and a heck yeah!!

[Country Kids]

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Oh, I have tons of them (stories) too so whenever you need one, just let me know.

I can tell you about wire coat hangers and why we do not have them in our house anymore (not for the same reason Mommy Dearest had though)

or maybe stories about drinking beer, hating Barney, obese people, 25 lbs of sugar in my carpet, toothpaste in EVERY.SINGLE. hole/crack/space in my house...(including electrical outlets), calling Disney reservations/booking a trip, live mice in the bottom of the toybox, peeing in the clothes dryer etc etc

Yes, my list goes on and on!

In the photo I posted in the private social group, he looks very serious and mellow but we all know how looks can be deceiving. ::

My daughter and I cracked up on the disney one and the clothes dryer.

Sorry-

Every once in awhile I'll read what someone posts and she loves it.

But we need the whole story-not just the 'Title"-

So if you would like to share any of the above it would be a great read I'm sure.

I see a book written about these stories somewhere in the future!

[daycarediva]

I hate pacifiers too!

It's a personal parenting preference though, and I don't say anything until it's an issue for me.

If there was biting of the pacifier, I wouldn't allow them to even ENTER my house. Too much of a chance he could get it and choke. SOOOO not worth the risk. I'm really surprised your dcm was so nonchalant about it!

I have a dcb starting (just turned 2) in two weeks who is a chronic pacifier kid (one in mouth, one in hand) and I told Mom that I would be weaning them down to nap, she was ECSTATIC. She can't 'be the bad guy'.

[Play Care]

I actually don't have a problem with paci's if the *child* needs them to nap. At my house the only time they can have these comfort items is for nap. So no issues with kids wandering around with them, not talking because of them etc. Of course this is only for children who are using them appropriately - not biting them, etc.
I'm actually having a situation right now with a 2 1/2 dc boy. Up until Monday he napped okay for me with his paci. Mom asked if I could take it as they did at home. We've had two days of no naps, with alternate loud chattering, getting out of bed, etc.

[lovemykidstoo]

I actually don't have a problem with paci's if the *child* needs them to nap. At my house the only time they can have these comfort items is for nap. So no issues with kids wandering around with them, not talking because of them etc. Of course this is only for children who are using them appropriately - not biting them, etc.
I'm actually having a situation right now with a 2 1/2 dc boy. Up until Monday he napped okay for me with his paci. Mom asked if I could take it as they did at home. We've had two days of no naps, with alternate loud chattering, getting out of bed, etc.

That takes a bit to transition without them at nap. I"m expecting a fight today because it will be his first day back without having his. So does this mom let him have it any other time or is he without it totally?

[lovemykidstoo]

Well daddy just brought dcb and guess what? He had the pacifier in his mouth. I said, ahhh what is that in his mouth? Dad said that they had him at the dr yesterday for checkup and he had a complete meltdown because he didn't have a pacifier, so they made an emergency run to Target and bought him 2 more. Can you hear me slapping my head? I told him that he wasn't going to get them here anymore that I was just not comfortable with that choking hazard. He said that they had a "talk" with him and that they told him that if he bites them, he will have to throw them away. Oh yea, I'm sure that almost 2 year old totally understood that. Idiots!