Pacifier Issues

[Blackcat31]

Well daddy just brought dcb and guess what? He had the pacifier in his mouth. I said, ahhh what is that in his mouth? Dad said that they had him at the dr yesterday for checkup and he had a complete meltdown because he didn't have a pacifier, so they made an emergency run to Target and bought him 2 more. Can you hear me slapping my head? I told him that he wasn't going to get them here anymore that I was just comfortable with that choking hazard. He said that they had a "talk" with him and that they told him that if he bites them, he will have to throw them away. Oh yea, I'm sure that almost 2 year old totally understood that. Idiots!

I get where you are coming from but in all honesty, there is no way that I (as the provider) would try to wean a child from his paci or with hold it from him if the parents are just going to relent and give him one (or two).

That means YOU are the only one dealing with this and the only one trying to figure out a solution. :confused:

I would give the issue right back to the parent and tell them if they are simply going to re-stock his paci every time he throws a tantrum then you are going to call them for IMMEDIATE pick up each and every time he tries to bite or does bite the end off his paci.

That IS dangerous but it isn't YOUR problem to fix.

I guess if you don't mind, that is one thing but from an outsiders' perspective, the daycare boy AND the parents are simply letting you do all the worrying and work to address the issue. :confused:

[lovemykidstoo]

I get where you are coming from but in all honesty, there is no way that I (as the provider) would try to wean a child from his paci or with hold it from him if the parents are just going to relent and give him one (or two).

That means YOU are the only one dealing with this and the only one trying to figure out a solution. :confused:

I would give the issue right back to the parent and tell them if they are simply going to re-stock his paci every time he throws a tantrum then you are going to call them for IMMEDIATE pick up each and every time he tries to bite or does bite the end off his paci.

That IS dangerous but it isn't YOUR problem to fix.

I guess if you don't mind, that is one thing but from an outsiders' perspective, the daycare boy AND the parents are simply letting you do all the worrying and work to address the issue. :confused:

I hear ya, but how in the world can I let him have it at naptime knowing that he has bitten the tips off of several pacifiers? What is going to happen if he does that while in his pnp and chokes and dies? It could happen. It IS a choking hazard. I can just see if he were to choke on it and maybe not even die, they would sue me and say that i KNEW that he was doing it. See what I mean? He only has it here during nap, so I don't think it's going to be a big deal. He has bitten the ends off of every single one of his paci's. Why would he stop now? I guess they can do whatever they want on their end, I'm just not really into the risk. My state licensor is coming next week for my audit. I'm curious to see what her opinion is. I know it works so much better when weaning a child together with the parent, but this is the first time I've actually had a child that bit the top off. We talk about how we don't give kids hotdogs at lunch because they could choke. The piece he's biting off is not much smaller than a hotdog bite.

[LittleD]

I took my dcb off his paci at 2. Never had one here at all.

They still gave it to him at home for another year

After the 1st week I didn't have any problems with him asking for it. The first week was tough, especially at nap, I won't lie. He was a stubborn kid and would cry almost all the way through nap the first day.
Each day got a little easier, by the end of the week he cried for 5 mins then was out like a light. He slept better too because he wasn''t looking for the thing if he woke.

[Blackcat31]

I hear ya, but how in the world can I let him have it at naptime knowing that he has bitten the tips off of several pacifiers? What is going to happen if he does that while in his pnp and chokes and dies? It could happen. It IS a choking hazard. I can just see if he were to choke on it and maybe not even die, they would sue me and say that i KNEW that he was doing it. See what I mean? He only has it here during nap, so I don't think it's going to be a big deal. He has bitten the ends off of every single one of his paci's. Why would he stop now? I guess they can do whatever they want on their end, I'm just not really into the risk. My state licensor is coming next week for my audit. I'm curious to see what her opinion is. I know it works so much better when weaning a child together with the parent, but this is the first time I've actually had a child that bit the top off. We talk about how we don't give kids hotdogs at lunch because they could choke. The piece he's biting off is not much smaller than a hotdog bite.

I guess the way I see it you have two choices (if you want to give the issue back to the parents).

You can let him have a new paci (new only) as it won't be as easy to bite the tip off of and the second you notice he is trying to bite it off, I would call the parent and have them come pick up. Rinse and repeat.

The other option is to not allow him to have the paci at all and when nap time comes, if he throws a fit, call the parent for immediate pick up.

That is the only way to return the issue to the parents. They HAVE to take control and not just sit back and let you worry about this. That is so disrespectful.

Personally since you already discussed with DCM him being weaned off and she said she was going to do it, I woud have turned them away this morning and said no way. I just can't believe that they went out and bought him some more paci's....that is the part that throws me for a loop.

[lovemykidstoo]

I guess the way I see it you have two choices (if you want to give the issue back to the parents).

You can let him have a new paci (new only) as it won't be as easy to bite the tip off of and the second you notice he is trying to bite it off, I would call the parent and have them come pick up. Rinse and repeat.

The other option is to not allow him to have the paci at all and when nap time comes, if he throws a fit, call the parent for immediate pick up.

That is the only way to return the issue to the parents. They HAVE to take control and not just sit back and let you worry about this. That is so disrespectful.

Personally since you already discussed with DCM him being weaned off and she said she was going to do it, I woud have turned them away this morning and said no way. I just can't believe that they went out and bought him some more paci's....that is the part that throws me for a loop.

I googled this issue this morning and every single site I found said absolutely to take it away. Huge choking issue. I can't believe they left the doctors office and bought 2 new ones. blew me away. I wish I would have asked if they asked the dr about it. Mom picks up today, I"m going to ask her. I guess they can do what they want at home and thankfully he only has it here at nap, so I don't think it's going to be that hard, but I just wish they would pitch them. Parents today just can't handle their kid crying for 1 second. They don't like to say no to their kid even though it could cost them dearly.

Just a thought, maybe I could hang a baggie outside my door (in garage) and have him deposit it in there when he comes and he can take it out when he leaves. That way it's not sitting in his diaper bag and being a tease.

[Country Kids]

Does he still **** on it after he bites the tip off or does he no longer want it?

I would beat him at his own game and cut the tip off it off or what ever he chews off and then offer it to him.

[lovemykidstoo]

I guess after he bites it off he hands it to them and says "broken".

I actually have a couple of pacifiers that were extras for kids that don't want them anymore. I should sanitize one and do that LOL!

[daycarediva]

I guess after he bites it off he hands it to them and says "broken".

I actually have a couple of pacifiers that were extras for kids that don't want them anymore. I should sanitize one and do that LOL!

That's not a bad idea! Show him a broken paci and have him throw it away! Maybe then at nap, you can remind him "Oh no, paci is broken. You put it in the trash."


I can't believe they bought him more! crazy!

[TheGoodLife]

I have a DCM that looked at me weird when I told her that her DD doesn't use the pacifier anymore here. (First-time mom and a friend from college) She's been here since her mom went back from maternity leave and is now almost 8 months old. I just figured since she was never fussy or seemed to need it that I didn't need to offer it. She only really used it with me sometimes when she was in an exersaucer as a younger baby. Now that she's mobile she never gets too fussy or shows any desire for it, so I've always just put it away! I never used pacifiers for any of my 3 girls- if there's no real need, why chance them getting "addicted"?

[Play Care]

That takes a bit to transition without them at nap. I"m expecting a fight today because it will be his first day back without having his. So does this mom let him have it any other time or is he without it totally?

They are strict about nap/bed only and I'm sure they are not giving in BUT they have to lay down with him so he will sleep

On a side note this particular family is so quick to remove comfort objects, I wish they were as quick to encourage independence with actual life skills like self dressing, behaving appropriately, etc. For some reason it's all about the paci.

[lovemykidstoo]

They are strict about nap/bed only and I'm sure they are not giving in BUT they have to lay down with him so he will sleep

On a side note this particular family is so quick to remove comfort objects, I wish they were as quick to encourage independence with actual life skills like self dressing, behaving appropriately, etc. For some reason it's all about the paci.

I was just talking to my husband about that kind of thing today. I find it funny that the parents that want me to teach their children their colors, abc's, numbers, sign language etc, have no problem not allowing their child to learn how to put their shoes on. Let them put their own coat on, hat on etc. These are valuable lessons that a kindergarten teacher will LOVE!

DCB went to bed without his pacifier just fine. Actually surprised me. I took the advice and found an old pacifier and cut the tip off. Showed it to him and told him it was broken. He threw it in the trash and went to bed with only his blanket. He had 2 of his pacifiers in his diaper bag, so I put them in a baggie and put them high on the shelf. Dcb immediately started ripping everything out of his bag when he saw dad. I kept saying, they're not in there remember they're broke. Told dad that he was fine without it and please don't bring them in the house again. Said, out of sight, out of mind. We'll see how tomorrow goes. IF he comes in with it in his mouth, I"m just going to have him put it in his bag like I always do and when dcb turns around I will grab it out of bag and give it back to dad.

[LoraJenkins]

When my oldest DCB was 2 (he is 4 now) his mother came in one morning at drop-off laughing hysterically. When I asked her why she said thar the DCB had gotten to where when they pulled into my driveway he would pull out his binky and hide it. I had to inform her that I had taken his binky away 6 month before here. She took it away at home that day.

I cannot STAND a baby older than 12 months walking around with a plug in their mouth. Lol...

[Meyou]

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Oh, I have tons of them (stories) too so whenever you need one, just let me know.

I can tell you about wire coat hangers and why we do not have them in our house anymore (not for the same reason Mommy Dearest had though)

or maybe stories about drinking beer, hating Barney, obese people, 25 lbs of sugar in my carpet, toothpaste in EVERY.SINGLE. hole/crack/space in my house...(including electrical outlets), calling Disney reservations/booking a trip, live mice in the bottom of the toybox, peeing in the clothes dryer etc etc

Yes, my list goes on and on!

In the photo I posted in the private social group, he looks very serious and mellow but we all know how looks can be deceiving. ::

My dh laughed HARD at your list because it makes ours seem so small. Raw bacon in her bed, hanging out on the top of the fridge (obsession at about 15-16 months), scalping herself with scissors right to the skin, coloring herself solid with sharpie (face and body), having a tea party with my good crystal, my grandmother's china and about 20 lbs of fruit she hacked into fruit salad, breaking childlocks systematical as we installed them...she's only 8 so I'm sure there is more to come.

[lovemykidstoo]

Well mom brought today and he didn't have one in his mouth like usual which was great. Thought we were in the clear. Then as she's getting ready to leave, she puts 2 of them in his bag under his blanket and says oh I'll put these here in case he needs them. I said, "he won't". I said he did fine yesterday without them as long as he doesn't see them. She says, so he's just playing us at home huh? I said, yup! LOL! So I took them out of the bag and put them back on the shelf so he can't see them.

[Blackcat31]

My dh laughed HARD at your list because it makes ours seem so small. Raw bacon in her bed, hanging out on the top of the fridge (obsession at about 15-16 months), scalping herself with scissors right to the skin, coloring herself solid with sharpie (face and body), having a tea party with my good crystal, my grandmother's china and about 20 lbs of fruit she hacked into fruit salad, breaking childlocks systematical as we installed them...she's only 8 so I'm sure there is more to come.

Raw bacon.....????? :confused: WTH????? LOL!! :: (Sometimes I don't want to know why) ::

Only 8?! Yeah, there is much more to come! ::

My DS has always loved tools and since my DH is a tool hoarder we started buying our DS real expensive tools at a young age so he has a pretty big set. Well one day we made the comment that if he couldn't behave when we had company over, we were going to have him stay in his bedroom and would lock the door. I think my DS was about 5 at the time.

Well he must have been a little freaked out about being locked behind a closed door because the next morning when we woke up every single door in our house had been removed from the hinges and their door knobs removed.

It took us all morning to put them all back on. He had hidden some of the hardware.

We figure he must have been up all night.....I also have no idea why we didn't hear him but he was also pretty sneaky so....

I am grateful our children aren't the same age or in the same age range.....what if they ever got together and had a child together.

...could you imagine!?!? I would NOT be their child care provider.....no way!! ::::