The "N" Word

[Binkybobo]

So is the op Binkybobo

This word is NOT common in my community. Does that answer your question. I'm still offended, and no one can tell me not to be. The same black person that thought it was ok to say it offended me.

[Binkybobo]

I found it difficut to work in ghetto daycares because of the things the children said. It is not a common word of endearment, don't get it twisted it is an ignorant word used by ignorant people who are wannabe thugs.

[Binkybobo]

So is the op Binkybobo

Are you suggesting that I shouldn't be offended because OP is black? Oh its ok now..I din't know she was a fellow black lady. I am totally ok with it!

[Binkybobo]

So is the op Binkybobo

This made my blood boil more than anything else. I get where the OP is coming from, but I don not agree with some othe generalzations by most posters. There is no point behind you pointing this out. Everyone on her eis an individula person regardless of the color of their skin. n I am surepeope of your race throw you off at times. I am sure that you do not always agree with DCP that are the same race as you.

[canadiancare]

It isn't an issue in my daycare but if it was I wouldn't accept the word. Whether used as a form of endearment or not it is a dangerous word that you should feel comfortable banning from your centre.
Tell his parents that because it is a word that can promote hate when used in the wrong context and because the children in your care are not equipped to understand when it is and isn't appropriate you have decided to make it an inappropriate word at all times. They need to be willing to support you on this or find alternate daycare.

[Binkybobo]

It isn't an issue in my daycare but if it was I wouldn't accept the word. Whether used as a form of endearment or not it is a dangerous word that you should feel comfortable banning from your centre.
Tell his parents that because it is a word that can promote hate when used in the wrong context and because the children in your care are not equipped to understand when it is and isn't appropriate you have decided to make it an inappropriate word at all times. They need to be willing to support you on this or find alternate daycare.

This is exactly how I think it should be handled. I just didn't think everyone needed to go into a spill about how black peope call each other this, and it's ok...blah blah blah..disgusting double standard etc. etc. I just thought we shoud have just stuck to the original issue and tried to solve it.

[Willow]

What culture? Are you saying America does not have a culture or that there are those that will not accept that culture? This is confusing to me. There shouldn't be an alternate culture or alternate America. When you write; "NOT allowing a child use a term that is accepted in his culture", it serves both those who are racists and those that see themselves as different. It keeps us divided.

I'm sure the KKK is perfectly fine with a "culture" that separates itself from America, even though that culture has just as much right to call themselves Americans. When will African Americans just call themselves American? Aren't we ALL from other countries?

Your thinking is far too simplistic.

While yes, we are all Americans, we are ALL further categorized into subtypes of people that can be distinguished from others based on our gender, race and appearance in general, occupation, religious affiliation, country of origin, age, health status etc etc etc (infinity).

I am a young, blond haired, fair skinned, woman with German roots, a mother, a wife, spiritual but not religiously affiliated, horse/country loving, licensed daycare provider.

George is an middle aged, black haired, dark skinned man with Kenyan roots, committed lifetime bachelor, diehard Roman Catholic, theater/city loving, executive CEO.

It is most definitely *not* offensive to point out those differences. It's not doing some sort of disservice to both of our additional claim of being American to identify and celebrate those differences. It doesn't make us any less American to further identify as other things. We are not *just* where we currently living.


The bulk of my college education was studying sociology and psychology. The who, what, where, why and how we identify ourselves and relate to our place in this world. As long as it's not made into an issue of hurting others we can be proud of our differences, they are exactly what makes this world so fascinating. I couldn't fathom a world where everyone was h*ll bent on identifying with everyone else in exactly the same ways and went tip-toeing around our biological differences if fear of offending.

How unbelievably sad and boring life would be.....

[Country Kids]

This is exactly how I think it should be handled. I just didn't think everyone needed to go into a spill about how black peope call each other this, and it's ok...blah blah blah..disgusting double standard etc. etc. I just thought we shoud have just stuck to the original issue and tried to solve it.

It was solved-they were kicked out of the center.

I was asking questions because of not having really any AA in the area I live in. Also, some of my questions did ask how to handle it since it was said that it is part of their culture.

[Binkybobo]

It was solved-they were kicked out of the center.

I was asking questions because of not having really any AA in the area I live in. Also, some of my questions did ask how to handle it since it was said that it is part of their culture.

I thnk this is the part that bothered me. The fact that you not having many black people in your area being told the opposite of what you already believed which is that it IS politically incorrect.

[Binkybobo]

I have a very strong stcance on this word. Not using it is a part of who I am. I hope that I am allowed to have an opinion without being accused of playing some card.

[Country Kids]

I thnk this is the part that bothered me. The fact that you not having many black people in your area being told the opposite of what you already believed which is that it IS politically incorrect.

I do have to say that the AA in my community do come from some large areas but come here to attend college (play basketball). I am not around them so I have no idea how they speak to each other or to friends. We have very few older AA more then anything.

[Binkybobo]

Let me also ponit out that I never thought original OP was racist. I just didn't like some of the wording. Maybe it's just not a common word of endearment in my area. Remind me not move to these areas where it's so common.

[Willow]

Country Kids - I'm sorry you attempted to learn more about this and are being ripped apart for it. Your lack of direct experience doesn't make your questions any less deserving of any answer.

In fact, your questions indicate you are incredibly culturally sensitive because you're keeping an open mind despite the initially offensive nature of the word itself.

Kudos to you

[Binkybobo]

Country Kids - I'm sorry you attempted to learn more about this and are being ripped apart for it. Your lack of direct experience doesn't make your questions any less deserving of any answer.

In fact, your questions indicate you are incredibly culturally sensitive because you're keeping an open mind despite the initially offensive nature of the word itself.

Kudos to you

Wait.. I though Country kids and I just ended this on very understanding and good terms. I was never offended by her.

[daycarediva]

This made my blood boil more than anything else. I get where the OP is coming from, but I don not agree with some othe generalzations by most posters. There is no point behind you pointing this out. Everyone on her eis an individula person regardless of the color of their skin. n I am surepeope of your race throw you off at times. I am sure that you do not always agree with DCP that are the same race as you.

No, I termed one dcb who was the whitest child I have ever seen for having a potty mouth. I don't discriminate.

" He will call his friends this as a term of endearment (common in the AA community). "

^ OP

Get for real this term is not ok in the Black commmunity. Only in the ghetto community. Not having your facts straight can be offensive. It's the rappers giving a whole community of people a bad name. That word is not ok, and the majority of black people do not use it. Don't try to speak for others and that it is a disgusting double standard. This is a word used by racists and ignorant wanna be and actual gang bangers. Issue at hand how to get the chid to stop. Leave your innacurate, offensive opinions to yourself.

Source:BLACK

^ you, and your source was that you are black. *I* was simply pointing out that the OP is also black.

I find it offensive that people who are no black can paint a picture of what is ok in my community

^ I assumed you were referring to the OP as you were quoting her.



I'm white & cuban, and grew up in a predominantly aa community. IN MY EXPERIENCE, that word is quite prevalent.

I'm sure it varies by community.