Son Summarily Dismissed Because of Parents Question

[hutchison4life]

Hi everyone,
I'm rather new to this, please bear with me. My question is:
My sons teacher/coordinator dismissed my son from attending pre-k this year because I asked if any Gay Pride activities were planned; that we be notified and he be excused from those activities.
she already cashed the deposit and the first payment. within 72 hours of the question (Friday) we received a letter and certified check for the money. Stating that we did not trust her and that she only had our sons interest at heart.
Our son, she told us, was exemplary, no troubles, very kind and helpful the previous school year.
Can a facility get away with this? Especially this late in the year?
We as parents have done everything she asked of us. this whole episode has been a shock to us.
Any comments welcome. Thank you

[Golden Rule]

They can break the agreement, as stated in the contract, at any time and for any reaon, just as you could.

[judytrickett]

Well, legally I don't think you have any grounds as you received a full refund of monies paid.

And, although you are entitled to your belief systems I have to say that if a parent displayed any discriminatory qualities I might have done just the same.

I guess for me it's not about religious beliefs but more of a standpoint of seeing it as discrimination against gays and lesbians and not wanting your child 'subject' to that.

I think it is our job as "teachers" to young children to foster acceptance of ALL religions, cultures and lifestyles. It is our job to teach children that differences should be embraced and not shunned or silenced. Understanding that everyone is different is HEALTHY and gives a child a more realistic impression of the world they will enter in adulthood.

I know I am not adequately conveying what I am trying to say but all in all, if I had a huge philosophical difference with a parent I too, would bid you farewell and wish you the best in securing other daycare.

Perhaps if you sought out a faith-based daycare you might find it fits your needs and philosophical beliefs better.

[swaddlebees]

I agree with judy. Sorry, I would have kicked you out too. I don't teach kids to discriminate

[Golden Rule]

I agree with judy. Sorry, I would have kicked you out too. I don't teach kids to discriminate

Could not agree more......

I got that "warning flag" from her as well.....


Added : (My concern would be the tone of the conversation. The post says the provider stated that she felt the parent did not trust her. To me this says that the child was terminated based on that. Reading between the lines, that would outline a history, not just a one time occurance. I don't feel this issue is so much about Gay Pride as it is a failure of two adult women to "mesh personalities" for lack of better terminology.)

[jen]

Hi everyone,
I'm rather new to this, please bear with me. My question is:
My sons teacher/coordinator dismissed my son from attending pre-k this year because I asked if any Gay Pride activities were planned; that we be notified and he be excused from those activities.
she already cashed the deposit and the first payment. within 72 hours of the question (Friday) we received a letter and certified check for the money. Stating that we did not trust her and that she only had our sons interest at heart.
Our son, she told us, was exemplary, no troubles, very kind and helpful the previous school year.
Can a facility get away with this? Especially this late in the year?
We as parents have done everything she asked of us. this whole episode has been a shock to us.
Any comments welcome. Thank you

WOW! I don't know your provider, obviously, but I love her!!! It is so awesome to see people put whats right above making a buck! I think you have single handedly restored my faith in humanity...or rather she has.

[judytrickett]

Side note.................


I find it interesting that the word .....L....E...S..B...I....A....N..... does not come up and has been tagged as a dirty word right up there with swear words.

If we are really fostering acceptance then that word should not be in the same class as many of the common "dirty" words.

Just a thought admin.......

[nannyde]

Hi everyone,
I'm rather new to this, please bear with me. My question is:
My sons teacher/coordinator dismissed my son from attending pre-k this year because I asked if any Gay Pride activities were planned; that we be notified and he be excused from those activities.
she already cashed the deposit and the first payment. within 72 hours of the question (Friday) we received a letter and certified check for the money. Stating that we did not trust her and that she only had our sons interest at heart.
Our son, she told us, was exemplary, no troubles, very kind and helpful the previous school year.
Can a facility get away with this? Especially this late in the year?
We as parents have done everything she asked of us. this whole episode has been a shock to us.
Any comments welcome. Thank you

We are too busy worshiping the devil here to have time for gay pride activities so I can't say whether or not they can "get away with it".

[Golden Rule]

Side note.................


I find it interesting that the word .....L....E...S..B...I....A....N..... does not come up and has been tagged as a dirty word right up there with swear words.

If we are really fostering acceptance then that word should not be in the same class as many of the common "dirty" words.

Just a thought admin.......

Oh, wow!! I was wondering why you did that... It never occurred to me the site did it. Too weird?

We are too busy worshiping the devil here to have time for gay pride activities so I can't say whether or not they can "get away with it".

Thank you!!!! I needed that laugh today!!! :: I have had the worst two weeks

[momofsix]

I agree with judy. Sorry, I would have kicked you out too. I don't teach kids to discriminate

Are you guys all serious????? A four year old/prek class needs to have a gay pride day? PLEASE tell me this does not really happen. I do not feel it is my job as a childcare provider to teach any child about gay/lesbian issues any more than I would teach them about other issues beyond their interests/thought processes. This includes religion/affirmitive action/animal rights/birth control/polygamy/abortion/undocumented workers...whatever, it is not my job. (and yes I know, that list is over the top, but where would it really end?) This is not what prek should be about.
I DO teach that we are to be kind and love others, even if they are different. I DO have a very multicultural setting. I DO NOT promote hate and/or discrimination in any form, but I WILL NEVER have a gay pride day in my chilod care.

[judytrickett]

Are you guys all serious????? A four year old/prek class needs to have a gay pride day? PLEASE tell me this does not really happen. I do not feel it is my job as a childcare provider to teach any child about gay/lesbian issues any more than I would teach them about other issues beyond their interests/thought processes. This includes religion/affirmitive action/animal rights/birth control/polygamy/abortion/undocumented workers...whatever, it is not my job. (and yes I know, that list is over the top, but where would it really end?) This is not what prek should be about.
I DO teach that we are to be kind and love others, even if they are different. I DO have a very multicultural setting. I DO NOT promote hate and/or discrimination in any form, but I WILL NEVER have a gay pride day in my chilod care.

Well, I'm gonna give the centre in question the benefit of the doubt that gay pride day wasn't going to include couples making out in the corner or men walkikng around in saddle pants with exposed buttocks.

I mean, really..................................

[Janet]

I would drop the family immediately

No ifs, ands, or buts about it! I WILL NOT EVER TOLERATE BIGOTS IN MY DAYCARE SETTING! I'm sorry, but the OP is a part of what is wrong with the world these days! I'm glad that the provider dismissed her. I have always taught the children in my care that we should love ALL PEOPLE, not just the straight ones.

OP, what is wrong with you? I really hope that your child doesn't learn to be homophobic like you are. I don't even know what to say right now. I just don't have the words to express how disgusting you are, OP.

[Crystal]

Well, I'm gonna give the centre in question the benefit of the doubt that gay pride day wasn't going to include couples making out in the corner or men walkikng around in saddle pants with exposed buttocks.

I mean, really..................................

OMG, this has me roflmao!!! TOO funny!

[tmcp2001]

Are you guys all serious????? A four year old/prek class needs to have a gay pride day? PLEASE tell me this does not really happen. I do not feel it is my job as a childcare provider to teach any child about gay/lesbian issues any more than I would teach them about other issues beyond their interests/thought processes. This includes religion/affirmitive action/animal rights/birth control/polygamy/abortion/undocumented workers...whatever, it is not my job. (and yes I know, that list is over the top, but where would it really end?) This is not what prek should be about.
I DO teach that we are to be kind and love others, even if they are different. I DO have a very multicultural setting. I DO NOT promote hate and/or discrimination in any form, but I WILL NEVER have a gay pride day in my chilod care.

If you re-read the op's statement it did NOT say that the provider/center was planning any gay pride activities - the parents asked to be notified IF there was anything planned. (And, seriously, why would there be??? I have never heard of any provider/center planning gay pride activities. Overly concerned parent, IMHO.)

I too would terminate this family. Their beliefs are not in line with my own and discrimination in any form is not something I can tolerate. People are allowed to believe what they will BUT, that does not mean I have to do business with them.

[Golden Rule]

Hi everyone,
I'm rather new to this, please bear with me. My question is:
My sons teacher/coordinator dismissed my son from attending pre-k this year because I asked if any Gay Pride activities were planned; that we be notified and he be excused from those activities.she already cashed the deposit and the first payment. within 72 hours of the question (Friday) we received a letter and certified check for the money. Stating that we did not trust her and that she only had our sons interest at heart.
Our son, she told us, was exemplary, no troubles, very kind and helpful the previous school year.
Can a facility get away with this? Especially this late in the year?
We as parents have done everything she asked of us. this whole episode has been a shock to us.
Any comments welcome. Thank you

Nowhere is it listed that the daycare was having a gay pride event. I feel the post was prompted by the recent decision on Proposition 8..... and not a daycares activities.