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she is not new to my dc, dcb has been here 2 of his 2 1/2 years. Recently they have had a LOT of changes, dcb used to be per diem/1-2x per week as space would allow and is now FT. That started in early December, then they were off for Christmas break and dcb came today because dcm wanted to get some things done around the house.
Dcb was upset at drop off. Dcm stayed (made it worse) and he screamed bloody murder for a good 30 minutes. NEVER a tear though, so he was just throwing a temper tantrum, (imho) and dcm insisted he was upset about coming here. I told her that she either had to leave so dcb would stop crying or take him with her. It was THAT bad, he was kicking me/her and generally being a stinker. I told her to stand outside the door and wait for him to stop crying, she did, it took 30 seconds!!!
At lunch I get an email notification from her with this big long email stating that she is SO WORRIED about dcb being upset at drop offs. This is the first time he has outright cried at drop off since he was around a year old. I just told her this is something that ALL children go through, and that we can lessen it by keeping goodbyes short and reassuring dcb she will be back. (even a dcb I have had forever who NEVER gets upset at drop off cried after coming back from Christmas vacation).
Then she popped in right after lunch. Dcb thought she was picking up. NOT. She just wanted to 'check in'. Dcb did the same thing when she left, only this time I told her after 5 minutes to PLEASE either take him or LEAVE. Dcb stopped the second she closed the door!
Then she showed up early to pick him up/during naptime. I literally said "If you are here to pick him up this time, I will go get him. If you aren't, then you can come back when naptime is over."
This same dcm is a little nutty when it comes to dcb. She overly babies him, he can't dress himself at all (and even refuses to help get dressed, like pull up pants or even push hands through shirts), when we come in from outside all of the kids kick off their boots or will atleast try. Dcb will stand there and whine/grunt until I help him. He is 2 years, 8 months. She told me point blank at pick up today that him crying is 'unacceptable' (in response to it's NORMAL) and that she never wants dcb to cry. Then she asked me when else dcb cries, and I responded truthfully. Sometimes when he isn't first, sometimes when he has to transition from preferred to non-preferred activites, and sometimes before nap. ALL NORMAL. She looked, and I am NOT exaggerating, HORRIFIED and took dcb and left. I sent her an email asking if she wanted to discuss anything we talked about before dcb came Wednesday to please call me between X and X tonight or X & X tomorrow.
just..wow. Any advice or links to give her PROVING this is NORMAL behavior?
Dcb was upset at drop off. Dcm stayed (made it worse) and he screamed bloody murder for a good 30 minutes. NEVER a tear though, so he was just throwing a temper tantrum, (imho) and dcm insisted he was upset about coming here. I told her that she either had to leave so dcb would stop crying or take him with her. It was THAT bad, he was kicking me/her and generally being a stinker. I told her to stand outside the door and wait for him to stop crying, she did, it took 30 seconds!!!
At lunch I get an email notification from her with this big long email stating that she is SO WORRIED about dcb being upset at drop offs. This is the first time he has outright cried at drop off since he was around a year old. I just told her this is something that ALL children go through, and that we can lessen it by keeping goodbyes short and reassuring dcb she will be back. (even a dcb I have had forever who NEVER gets upset at drop off cried after coming back from Christmas vacation).
Then she popped in right after lunch. Dcb thought she was picking up. NOT. She just wanted to 'check in'. Dcb did the same thing when she left, only this time I told her after 5 minutes to PLEASE either take him or LEAVE. Dcb stopped the second she closed the door!
Then she showed up early to pick him up/during naptime. I literally said "If you are here to pick him up this time, I will go get him. If you aren't, then you can come back when naptime is over."
This same dcm is a little nutty when it comes to dcb. She overly babies him, he can't dress himself at all (and even refuses to help get dressed, like pull up pants or even push hands through shirts), when we come in from outside all of the kids kick off their boots or will atleast try. Dcb will stand there and whine/grunt until I help him. He is 2 years, 8 months. She told me point blank at pick up today that him crying is 'unacceptable' (in response to it's NORMAL) and that she never wants dcb to cry. Then she asked me when else dcb cries, and I responded truthfully. Sometimes when he isn't first, sometimes when he has to transition from preferred to non-preferred activites, and sometimes before nap. ALL NORMAL. She looked, and I am NOT exaggerating, HORRIFIED and took dcb and left. I sent her an email asking if she wanted to discuss anything we talked about before dcb came Wednesday to please call me between X and X tonight or X & X tomorrow.
just..wow. Any advice or links to give her PROVING this is NORMAL behavior?
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