Drug & drop!

[MarinaVanessa]

I feel so horrible for you and for DCB . Maybe it's time to spruce up your illness policy and add a medication policy in there somewhere.

I personally tightened up my sickness policy and added a medication policy which I will give out next week. As of the new year I don't allow any child to attend daycare if they have taken any type of medication OTC or prescribed. If they are taking medication then they are too sick to attend daycare. The only exception that I have made so far has been antibiotics but they stay home for the first 24 hours after administering the first dosage and if they show any symptoms of exclusion (fever etc) then they must still stay home until symtoms subside.

I got so tired of the drug and drop that I had no choice. I won't administer medication either NONE and kids stay home for 48 hours after vaccines now too. Kids are too miserable and should be home with mom or dad.

[Play Care]

She left me NO options. It was "I am not picking up dcb, it's not an emergency."

I called dcd, left a voicemail, no response.

I will be terming them at pickup.


I did NOT make it sound like there was an 'option'. Dcm decided that she was NOT going to follow through. The whole thing was SO RUDE. My dh read the texts (dcm's preffered communication method) and was shocked at her response.

I basically said "dcb is too sick to participate and needs to go home asap" (then got the fever response) we went back and forth for almost an hour this morning and she finally just said NO, It's not enough to come get him. It's not like dcm has a job she cannot leave (she can). I was/am SO PISSED. I feel so disrespected and I honestly feel like she is neglectful of her son through all of this. If she can take a sick day for herself, she can dang sure take one for dcb!


You are all right though, it is MY FAULT. I should have told her that no was not an option and that I would expect her within 30 minutes or she would accrue late fees. But then I know that dcb would have spent his day miserable, at her office/in her cubicle. Instead he got lots of rest here, pedialyte (that my dh bought and brought him on his lunch break), and warm chicken soup for lunch and is now taking a nice long nap!

what's pathetic is dcb is old enough to ask/understand. When I told him that I sent his Mom a text he got up, put his boots on and was getting ready. It broke my heart to tell him that she couldn't come.

I hope you didn't feel that I implied this was your fault! This rests entirely on the mom's shoulders And what kind of boss would allow her to bring her ill child? And what kind of corworkers would think that was okay? How terrible!

[daycarediva]

I termed them effective immediately. Dcb woke up with a fever and she still didn't come. I got no call back from DCD. I didn't want to put dcb through the hassle of CPS, because I really think Mom woud have called my bluff.

I handed her the term notice, effecive immediately, the remainder of the pedialyte and his things.

What makes me SO UPSET is that dcb had a STREAM of things to get off his chest at pickup and said right to dcm "Why didn't you come get me? Miss ***** let me snuggle on her special couch, ONLY ME too. I got to watch Mickey Christmas. I got soup and Mr. ***** brought me magic feel better juice. I am SICK and NOT FEELING GOOD. I need to go to the dr and get medicine I think and I want to go home. I want to go home at BREAKFAST MOM! No, you don't do my shoes Miss. ***** will do my shoes. I love you Miss. *****."

^ all said while Mom is reading the term notice and my note on the bottom/copied and pasted from my parent handbook.

About decongestant-Dcb's pediatrician allows him to have 1/2 tsp(6.25mls) of childrens benadryl as needed since he gets pretty nasty sinus infections.

[daycarediva]

I feel so horrible for you and for DCB . Maybe it's time to spruce up your illness policy and add a medication policy in there somewhere.

I personally tightened up my sickness policy and added a medication policy which I will give out next week. As of the new year I don't allow any child to attend daycare if they have taken any type of medication OTC or prescribed. If they are taking medication then they are too sick to attend daycare. The only exception that I have made so far has been antibiotics but they stay home for the first 24 hours after administering the first dosage and if they show any symptoms of exclusion (fever etc) then they must still stay home until symtoms subside.

I got so tired of the drug and drop that I had no choice. I won't administer medication either NONE and kids stay home for 48 hours after vaccines now too. Kids are too miserable and should be home with mom or dad.

Working on this tonight! All parents are getting an updated policy and it will be VERY CLEAR.

[daycare]

I termed them effective immediately. Dcb woke up with a fever and she still didn't come. I got no call back from DCD. I didn't want to put dcb through the hassle of CPS, because I really think Mom woud have called my bluff.

I handed her the term notice, effecive immediately, the remainder of the pedialyte and his things.

What makes me SO UPSET is that dcb had a STREAM of things to get off his chest at pickup and said right to dcm "Why didn't you come get me? Miss ***** let me snuggle on her special couch, ONLY ME too. I got to watch Mickey Christmas. I got soup and Mr. ***** brought me magic feel better juice. I am SICK and NOT FEELING GOOD. I need to go to the dr and get medicine I think and I want to go home. I want to go home at BREAKFAST MOM! No, you don't do my shoes Miss. ***** will do my shoes. I love you Miss. *****."

^ all said while Mom is reading the term notice and my note on the bottom/copied and pasted from my parent handbook.

About decongestant-Dcb's pediatrician allows him to have 1/2 tsp(6.25mls) of childrens benadryl as needed since he gets pretty nasty sinus infections.

she did not say anything else?

OMG poor DCB............ I honestly would still call CPS...... the mother flat out refused to provide care for her child when asked to come and pick him up due to illness.

I wonder what the school district would do about this???

[MarinaVanessa]

Wow ... poor kid. Out of the mouths of babes. So sad when it's common sense to the Little but not so much to the Big . He just wanted to go home and rest with his mommy.

What did DCM say or how'd she react? Anything? No huffing or puffing? Resignation? Shock? Mortification? Anything?

[daycarediva]

Pretty mortified as other dcp's were there as dcb was saying this. Lots of raised eyebrows. Akward situation for sure. She signed and left, and literally said not one word about it.

[Nickel]

I wish I had the backbone to do this! Good for you, you did the right thing. I bet dcm never in a million years would you term. I hope she really learned her lesson. maybe she won't be so neglectful in the future.

[julie]

Kudos to you for terming. I did the same thing for the same reason. I just can't fathom people that make this okay in their heads. Still think about the poor kids now and then, especially in the cold and flu season.

Kudos also to the little boy for speaking his mind. So sad to hear he knew EXACTLY what was going on at such a young age. He was very lucky to have you and your husband today.

[angelicpretty]

ugh that really ****s

[daycarediva]

I know I did the right thing, and I rarely term immediately, it has to be something VERY major. This just blew my mind. My poor dcb, who I will really, really miss! I feel awful for him!

[Scout]

I termed them effective immediately. Dcb woke up with a fever and she still didn't come. I got no call back from DCD. I didn't want to put dcb through the hassle of CPS, because I really think Mom woud have called my bluff.

I handed her the term notice, effecive immediately, the remainder of the pedialyte and his things.

What makes me SO UPSET is that dcb had a STREAM of things to get off his chest at pickup and said right to dcm "Why didn't you come get me? Miss ***** let me snuggle on her special couch, ONLY ME too. I got to watch Mickey Christmas. I got soup and Mr. ***** brought me magic feel better juice. I am SICK and NOT FEELING GOOD. I need to go to the dr and get medicine I think and I want to go home. I want to go home at BREAKFAST MOM! No, you don't do my shoes Miss. ***** will do my shoes. I love you Miss. *****."

^ all said while Mom is reading the term notice and my note on the bottom/copied and pasted from my parent handbook.

About decongestant-Dcb's pediatrician allows him to have 1/2 tsp(6.25mls) of childrens benadryl as needed since he gets pretty nasty sinus infections.

poor kid! She must & better feel like the worst mother on earth! I can not imagine leaving my kids at someone's house when sick. When I worked I got a call, "He just threw up all over my living room.". My reply, I will be there as quick as I can. I did stop to get soup, ginger ale, popsicles, and straws real quick but, I was there within 35 minutes to get him! I couldn't imagine taking him to the store with me in case he got sick again. Then we came home & snuggled.

[Scout]

I know I did the right thing, and I rarely term immediately, it has to be something VERY major. This just blew my mind. My poor dcb, who I will really, really miss! I feel awful for him!

I really think it's a shame that these kids lose the care of person they trust due to their parent's stupidity & selfishness. I am sorry they have to suffer the consequences of the older person's actions!

[My3cents]

I can't believe the parent didn't say anything-

If you felt so strongly to term, I think I would not have messed around with this and let it go so long. I would have called her back ups, or her again and told her to come get the child that it was not up for discussion or called her place of employment if needed.

Why allow the sickness to contaminate your home, you and the other children any longer then you had too-

Good for you for letting her go. I hope you don't come down with it and the other kiddo's.

We all do what we think is best and sometimes it is a process to get there.

Stinks for the little tyke-

[shelby]

I feel bad for that little boy. He sounded like he really needed his mom and wanted his mom, but mom was more concerned about her job!

YOU did the right thing, but poor guy... my heart just hurts for him.