Drug & drop!

[daycaremom76]

I still need to find my backbone when it comes to illnesses. Last year we had the nuro-virus shoot through my daycare and all the kids got it including me. I even had to close down for a day (no charge to my parent's) and this year we had strep go through the daycare, all the kids got it but me. Every kid that got it was out for over a week. Problem is running noses and coughs are normal this time of the year. I have bad allergies and my nose is stopped up and running the whole year, because of the drainage I get coughs too but I am not contagious. It's so hard to tell in little ones if it's something or not. They might not be running a fever but still be contagious!

[daycarediva]

It really is awful and after he woke up with a fever I sent dcm a text, and then called her phone and left a voicemail stating that dcb HAD TO GO HOME or they would be termed. She was warned. Dcd never called back AT ALL. She sent me an email late last night (that I got this morning) saying that she had a deadline at work and really couldn't afford to miss it and that she thought I woud be more understanding since dcb wasn't much of an inconvenience to me and I was already home. She asked me to please reconsider and let her know for tomorrow as she is keeping dcb home/working from home today. I am not even responding. It isn't worth my time/effort. I gave her cash refund and she signed saying that she had been paid back, that she understood why her contract was termed and that I gave her the # for resource and referral. We both have copies.

I feel bad for dcb in all of this. When he broke his leg/at home with Dad and had to have surgery they wanted him to come to my house the day after surgery! Um, NO! Dcb was on prescription painkillers! (surg was on a Thurs), he came back Monday. He was MISERABLE and I made a LOT of concessions for him/them. First mistake!

[Blackcat31]

It really is awful and after he woke up with a fever I sent dcm a text, and then called her phone and left a voicemail stating that dcb HAD TO GO HOME or they would be termed. She was warned. Dcd never called back AT ALL. She sent me an email late last night (that I got this morning) saying that she had a deadline at work and really couldn't afford to miss it and that she thought I woud be more understanding since dcb wasn't much of an inconvenience to me and I was already home. She asked me to please reconsider and let her know for tomorrow as she is keeping dcb home/working from home today. I am not even responding. It isn't worth my time/effort. I gave her cash refund and she signed saying that she had been paid back, that she understood why her contract was termed and that I gave her the # for resource and referral. We both have copies.

I feel bad for dcb in all of this. When he broke his leg/at home with Dad and had to have surgery they wanted him to come to my house the day after surgery! Um, NO! Dcb was on prescription painkillers! (surg was on a Thurs), he came back Monday. He was MISERABLE and I made a LOT of concessions for him/them. First mistake!

I'm sorry but when parents have priorities that are more important to them than their own child, I wouldn't reconsider taking them back. When what is important to you is so vastly different than what is important to them, it is a relationship that is doomed from the beginning.

It was only a matter of time before this happened. So sorry you lost a golden DCB because of his not so golden parents.

[daycaremom76]

It really is awful and after he woke up with a fever I sent dcm a text, and then called her phone and left a voicemail stating that dcb HAD TO GO HOME or they would be termed. She was warned. Dcd never called back AT ALL. She sent me an email late last night (that I got this morning) saying that she had a deadline at work and really couldn't afford to miss it and that she thought I woud be more understanding since dcb wasn't much of an inconvenience to me and I was already home. She asked me to please reconsider and let her know for tomorrow as she is keeping dcb home/working from home today. I am not even responding. It isn't worth my time/effort. I gave her cash refund and she signed saying that she had been paid back, that she understood why her contract was termed and that I gave her the # for resource and referral. We both have copies.

I feel bad for dcb in all of this. When he broke his leg/at home with Dad and had to have surgery they wanted him to come to my house the day after surgery! Um, NO! Dcb was on prescription painkillers! (surg was on a Thurs), he came back Monday. He was MISERABLE and I made a LOT of concessions for him/them. First mistake!

This drives me nuts when parent's act like this...............oh it's ok to send little johnny to the "babysitter" sick cause it's just like being at home all day!!! They don't care if they send their kid sick and get everyone else's kids sick but the first time they find out that someone else sent their kid sick and got johnny sick then they are up in arms!!! I used to work a job that wasn't family friendly, that's why I ended up quitting and opened my own daycare so I know how hard it is. But I can honestly say I never shipped my kids off to daycare sick and pumped with meds just so I could go to work cause I knew it was going to get others sick or worse the provider sick and then I would just be taking off work anyway!

[My3cents]

It really is awful and after he woke up with a fever I sent dcm a text, and then called her phone and left a voicemail stating that dcb HAD TO GO HOME or they would be termed. She was warned. Dcd never called back AT ALL. She sent me an email late last night (that I got this morning) saying that she had a deadline at work and really couldn't afford to miss it and that she thought I woud be more understanding since dcb wasn't much of an inconvenience to me and I was already home. She asked me to please reconsider and let her know for tomorrow as she is keeping dcb home/working from home today. I am not even responding. It isn't worth my time/effort. I gave her cash refund and she signed saying that she had been paid back, that she understood why her contract was termed and that I gave her the # for resource and referral. We both have copies.

I feel bad for dcb in all of this. When he broke his leg/at home with Dad and had to have surgery they wanted him to come to my house the day after surgery! Um, NO! Dcb was on prescription painkillers! (surg was on a Thurs), he came back Monday. He was MISERABLE and I made a LOT of concessions for him/them. First mistake!

If this daycare child is a gem, and basically the parent has been a good client. I might think about this. I would have a serious sit down and one on one and spell it clear out to this women how you operate. That she needs to have back up care available if she can't come and get him if he is sick and that you are the judge of if he can stay in care for the day or not. I would explain to her that if you get sick and have to close she will have no care and it is not right to make the other kids ill by ex-poser. Explain you have rules not to make her life hard for her but to make the daycare run as smooth as possible. I would also tell her and have it in your policy that if a child is not able to participate with everyone else he doesn't belong at care. We have to have understanding that parents have to work, if they didn't we would all have no jobs, but it also has to be known clearly that back up care is mandatory and it is not the providers responsibility to find this, provide this etc.. Some parents are worth working with, they just don't know, don't stop to think about anything but their own circumstances and all the responsibilities they have on their shoulders to carry. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing- being walked on is not. Only you know where this is at this point. I feel for the child too. This mother probably loves her child more then anything. If you do decide to try again, I would have a sit down and spell out your rules to make sure she is going to be a good fit for you. During interviews I have a check list they sign that is blunt on each policy ( recommended here) This helps but doesn't solve every issue, because parents forget and some push because they are looking out for their own needs. Good luck.

[daycarediva]

If this daycare child is a gem, and basically the parent has been a good client. I might think about this. I would have a serious sit down and one on one and spell it clear out to this women how you operate. That she needs to have back up care available if she can't come and get him if he is sick and that you are the judge of if he can stay in care for the day or not. I would explain to her that if you get sick and have to close she will have no care and it is not right to make the other kids ill by ex-poser. Explain you have rules not to make her life hard for her but to make the daycare run as smooth as possible. I would also tell her and have it in your policy that if a child is not able to participate with everyone else he doesn't belong at care. We have to have understanding that parents have to work, if they didn't we would all have no jobs, but it also has to be known clearly that back up care is mandatory and it is not the providers responsibility to find this, provide this etc.. Some parents are worth working with, they just don't know, don't stop to think about anything but their own circumstances and all the responsibilities they have on their shoulders to carry. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing- being walked on is not. Only you know where this is at this point. I feel for the child too. This mother probably loves her child more then anything. If you do decide to try again, I would have a sit down and spell out your rules to make sure she is going to be a good fit for you. During interviews I have a check list they sign that is blunt on each policy ( recommended here) This helps but doesn't solve every issue, because parents forget and some push because they are looking out for their own needs. Good luck.

Dcb is a sweet kiddo, but no gem by far. Her parenting style is non existent and he runs rampant through the house Monday & Tuesday, is better by Wednesday & Thursday and is an angel on Friday only to rinse and repeat. He is JUST getting back on track after Thanksgiving break. We have had sit downs before, mostly about dcb's behavior, schedule and consistency. she has threatened to pull him to put him in 'real school' when I wouldn't allow her to drop him off from open-close every day, then decided that she will just pay the additional rate ($10 extra PER DAY) so dcb can come open-close. She is already complaining about paying for Christmas time off (I just went through this with Thanksgiving, and she was here last year!), begging me to stay open the day after Christmas, and new years day, etc. There is almost a biweekly complaint, or issue. This was the final straw.

[Kaddidle Care]

I termed them effective immediately. Dcb woke up with a fever and she still didn't come. I got no call back from DCD. I didn't want to put dcb through the hassle of CPS, because I really think Mom woud have called my bluff.

I handed her the term notice, effecive immediately, the remainder of the pedialyte and his things.

What makes me SO UPSET is that dcb had a STREAM of things to get off his chest at pickup and said right to dcm "Why didn't you come get me? Miss ***** let me snuggle on her special couch, ONLY ME too. I got to watch Mickey Christmas. I got soup and Mr. ***** brought me magic feel better juice. I am SICK and NOT FEELING GOOD. I need to go to the dr and get medicine I think and I want to go home. I want to go home at BREAKFAST MOM! No, you don't do my shoes Miss. ***** will do my shoes. I love you Miss. *****."

^ all said while Mom is reading the term notice and my note on the bottom/copied and pasted from my parent handbook.

About decongestant-Dcb's pediatrician allows him to have 1/2 tsp(6.25mls) of childrens benadryl as needed since he gets pretty nasty sinus infections.

This just makes me want to cry. Now who knows what type of person will be caring for him. I'm glad you gave him comfort yesterday because it sounds like it's the last bit he'll get for a while.

Oh and BTW benadryl isn't really a decongestant, it's an antihistamine so if your child's symptoms stop with benedryl they're most likely having an allergy situation. Everyone is different though - it may help dry them up a bit.