What do you think about kids sleeping in their clothes?

[crazydaycarelady]

This just really surprises me, especially since it is a first child. Anyway, dcgirl comes here straight from her bed. But sometimes she is not in jammies and is still wearing the clothes she had on the day before. She is 18mo.

I guess it is not life-threatening or anything but it makes me sad. She obviously has no bath/bedtime routine.

[countrymom]

make a casual comment to mom. really thats gross to me

[SunshineMama]

Do they not have enough money for clothes? Is the mom mentally unstable? Was the mom sick? Those are the only things I can think of as to why a child would wear the same clothes all day, all night, and the next day, especially to daycare where someone else would notice:confused:

[Scout]

Does this happen often or is it just maybe because they were out & she fell asleep in the car? I know that can happen & personally I would not wake up my kids to change their clothes. Unfortunately, mine always wake up when I get them out of the car!

[crazydaycarelady]

PLENTY of money, mom seems fine (although a little obsessed with working out,) and not sick. Dcd does work night shift so mom is home alone some evenings, but it's one little kid to take care of. And it happens quite a bit and yesterday she had food stains all over the front of her shirt from the day before!

Her parents seem TOTALLY normal, except this one little thing.

[SunshineMama]

PLENTY of money, mom seems fine (although a little obsessed with working out,) and not sick. Dcd does work night shift so mom is home alone some evenings, but it's one little kid to take care of. And it happens quite a bit and yesterday she had food stains all over the front of her shirt from the day before!

Her parents seem TOTALLY normal, except this one little thing.

I would definitely mention it to mom then, and say that she needs to come in clean clothes, dressed for the day.

Or... you could highlight it in your handbook as a revision, and mention to all dcp's you made a change to the book.

[littlemissmuffet]

This upsets me.

I have a little dcb who I have had on and off for years. Mom and dad are very young, immature and very much lack both life and parenting skills. They try to get out of paying, drop off late, pick up late and just generally annoy me. I keep dcb because he needs me. He's so sweet, he loves me and I love him. I would adopt him without giving it a second thought!

When he first started with me, I threw him a birthday party. He got to wear a "Birthday Boy!" pin all day (which I removed during nap time). The next day, hubby notices that the boy has the pin on his shirt. Hubby assumed he just wanted to wear it again - but no, I knew immediately that the boy was still in his outfit from the day before.

I chalked it up to being a long night for him because he had another birthday party at home after daycare...

That is, until, it started happening more and more often and he was coming in a night diaper (which, was always 2 sizes too small)!

Anyways, I confronted mom and dad about it and told them that he needed to arrive to daycare is clean clothing (this kid sweats like CRAZY even while sleeping, so even after nap I sometimes have to change him). They didn't think it was a big deal and said it saved them time in the morning

This is the same kid who's nails I have to clip, who's hair I often wash and who I regularily give a cat bath to in the sink (full on shower if hubby is home to watch the other kiddos).

The boy always feels AWESOME after I clean him up and/or change him and he goes and shows off his new clean look to his friends - his attitude is different with me than with his parents. It's strange, but not suprising.

These parents often claim they have no money - but they both smoke, both carry cellphones, both have recently started getting tattoos and buy big screen tvs and electronics like there is no tomorrow.

There is a thrift store not even a block from my home they could stop in at if necessary.

It's a sad situation.

I know they love him... but they don't know how to CARE for him.



I guess jammies aren't necessary - but I think feeling/being clean is... even for a young child. Even if this family was dirt poor and only had 2 outfits, the child should be in a new one each day!
Do they not change the child's diaper in the morning?
Are there any other issues with cleanliness at this point?

[SquirrellyMama]

Unless it is a daily occurrence I probably wouldn't worry about it. I remember sleeping in my clothing as a kid and not changing the next day. I grew up to be a reasonably well adjusted adult My kids will sometimes do this too. They are reasonably normal children.

K

[daycarediva]

This upsets me.

I have a little dcb who I have had on and off for years. Mom and dad are very young, immature and very much lack both life and parenting skills. They try to get out of paying, drop off late, pick up late and just generally annoy me. I keep dcb because he needs me. He's so sweet, he loves me and I love him. I would adopt him without giving it a second thought!

When he first started with me, I threw him a birthday party. He got to wear a "Birthday Boy!" pin all day (which I removed during nap time). The next day, hubby notices that the boy has the pin on his shirt. Hubby assumed he just wanted to wear it again - but no, I knew immediately that the boy was still in his outfit from the day before.

I chalked it up to being a long night for him because he had another birthday party at home after daycare...

That is, until, it started happening more and more often and he was coming in a night diaper (which, was always 2 sizes too small)!

Anyways, I confronted mom and dad about it and told them that he needed to arrive to daycare is clean clothing (this kid sweats like CRAZY even while sleeping, so even after nap I sometimes have to change him). They didn't think it was a big deal and said it saved them time in the morning

This is the same kid who's nails I have to clip, who's hair I often wash and who I regularily give a cat bath to in the sink (full on shower if hubby is home to watch the other kiddos).

The boy always feels AWESOME after I clean him up and/or change him and he goes and shows off his new clean look to his friends - his attitude is different with me than with his parents. It's strange, but not suprising.

These parents often claim they have no money - but they both smoke, both carry cellphones, both have recently started getting tattoos and buy big screen tvs and electronics like there is no tomorrow.

There is a thrift store not even a block from my home they could stop in at if necessary.

It's a sad situation.

I know they love him... but they don't know how to CARE for him.



I guess jammies aren't necessary - but I think feeling/being clean is... even for a young child. Even if this family was dirt poor and only had 2 outfits, the child should be in a new one each day!
Do they not change the child's diaper in the morning?
Are there any other issues with cleanliness at this point?

THIS was my dcb as well. It was SOOOOO sad. It sounds eerliy similar. I cut nails, clean ears, bath him regularly and change his clothes at my house and wash the others. It's disgusting, and after repeated conversations with his Mom about it, they are FINALLY straightening up. I actually told her that dcb sleeps better when he is cleaned up (which was my excuse for requesting an extra change of clothes, he wanted to be clean after lunch-) and they started doing it at home because his 'bedtimes' were whenever he crashed on the couch and they didn't want him up until 11-12! So, now dcb gets a bath every night (and he is CLEAN AND he sleeps like a champ, no more grumpy mornings!)

[melilley]

This upsets me.

I have a little dcb who I have had on and off for years. Mom and dad are very young, immature and very much lack both life and parenting skills. They try to get out of paying, drop off late, pick up late and just generally annoy me. I keep dcb because he needs me. He's so sweet, he loves me and I love him. I would adopt him without giving it a second thought!

When he first started with me, I threw him a birthday party. He got to wear a "Birthday Boy!" pin all day (which I removed during nap time). The next day, hubby notices that the boy has the pin on his shirt. Hubby assumed he just wanted to wear it again - but no, I knew immediately that the boy was still in his outfit from the day before.

I chalked it up to being a long night for him because he had another birthday party at home after daycare...

That is, until, it started happening more and more often and he was coming in a night diaper (which, was always 2 sizes too small)!

Anyways, I confronted mom and dad about it and told them that he needed to arrive to daycare is clean clothing (this kid sweats like CRAZY even while sleeping, so even after nap I sometimes have to change him). They didn't think it was a big deal and said it saved them time in the morning

This is the same kid who's nails I have to clip, who's hair I often wash and who I regularily give a cat bath to in the sink (full on shower if hubby is home to watch the other kiddos).

The boy always feels AWESOME after I clean him up and/or change him and he goes and shows off his new clean look to his friends - his attitude is different with me than with his parents. It's strange, but not suprising.

These parents often claim they have no money - but they both smoke, both carry cellphones, both have recently started getting tattoos and buy big screen tvs and electronics like there is no tomorrow.

There is a thrift store not even a block from my home they could stop in at if necessary.

It's a sad situation.

I know they love him... but they don't know how to CARE for him.



I guess jammies aren't necessary - but I think feeling/being clean is... even for a young child. Even if this family was dirt poor and only had 2 outfits, the child should be in a new one each day!
Do they not change the child's diaper in the morning?
Are there any other issues with cleanliness at this point?

Wow! My mouth dropped open when I read this! I also almost cried when I read all that you do for the child... I would be embarrassed to bring my children to daycare like that! I hate to say it, but this sounds like borderline neglect.? I'm not saying they don't love him, but if you can't bathe your child or change their diaper in the morning then there is something wrong. Being young is not an excuse either, it doesn't take much effort to dress a child or change a diaper. And the fact that they have material things that aren't necessary really gets to me too. I could go on and on about parents having nice and often unnecessary things and then seeing their child being taken care of like you mentioned! I grew up with a single mom and my sis and I were always first, we didn't have all this fancy electronic stuff, heck I never had cable until I was on my own... Maybe these parents were raised differently and they do not know any better, but like I said you can at least change clothes and diapers! Maybe these parents need parenting classes or something. This child is lucky to have someone like you! I bet he will remember you for the rest of his life!

[pandamom]

Are the clothes clean? Do you know for sure that the child slept in the clothes? Does the child come in clean?

I'm just asking because in some cultures, as long as the clothes aren't dirty, they're reworn. I'm in Germany and have come across this- they think it's wasteful to wash things after one use if it's cleanish. A coworker also experienced this in Italy.

Just thought I'd throw in another view point

[My3cents]

This upsets me.

I have a little dcb who I have had on and off for years. Mom and dad are very young, immature and very much lack both life and parenting skills. They try to get out of paying, drop off late, pick up late and just generally annoy me. I keep dcb because he needs me. He's so sweet, he loves me and I love him. I would adopt him without giving it a second thought!

When he first started with me, I threw him a birthday party. He got to wear a "Birthday Boy!" pin all day (which I removed during nap time). The next day, hubby notices that the boy has the pin on his shirt. Hubby assumed he just wanted to wear it again - but no, I knew immediately that the boy was still in his outfit from the day before.

I chalked it up to being a long night for him because he had another birthday party at home after daycare...

That is, until, it started happening more and more often and he was coming in a night diaper (which, was always 2 sizes too small)!

Anyways, I confronted mom and dad about it and told them that he needed to arrive to daycare is clean clothing (this kid sweats like CRAZY even while sleeping, so even after nap I sometimes have to change him). They didn't think it was a big deal and said it saved them time in the morning

This is the same kid who's nails I have to clip, who's hair I often wash and who I regularily give a cat bath to in the sink (full on shower if hubby is home to watch the other kiddos).

The boy always feels AWESOME after I clean him up and/or change him and he goes and shows off his new clean look to his friends - his attitude is different with me than with his parents. It's strange, but not suprising.

These parents often claim they have no money - but they both smoke, both carry cellphones, both have recently started getting tattoos and buy big screen tvs and electronics like there is no tomorrow.

There is a thrift store not even a block from my home they could stop in at if necessary.

It's a sad situation.

I know they love him... but they don't know how to CARE for him.



I guess jammies aren't necessary - but I think feeling/being clean is... even for a young child. Even if this family was dirt poor and only had 2 outfits, the child should be in a new one each day!
Do they not change the child's diaper in the morning?
Are there any other issues with cleanliness at this point?

lazy and selfish!

Good for you for making a difference in that little boys life!!!

[MarinaVanessa]

This is one of my personal pet peeves so I have a policy about it. I don't care about them arriving in jammies exactly as long as they are arriving before 8am because it's easy enough for me to just change them BUT my policy is that they have to arrive clean and in a fresh diaper.

If her clothing is obviously not fresh clothing (as in it's the same outfit from the day before and you know it wasn't laundered because the mac'&'cheese spot from yesterday is still there) then I would personally say something about it. In my case I'd remind the parents that clean means fresh clothing (other than jammies if arriving before 8am for me).

But make sure that the clothes isn't the smae outfit that was just laundered before coming. I do that sometimes. My 2yo DS already has a favorite shirt and I have to peel it off of him once I put him down for the night after he's fallen asleep and throw it in the washer because he doesn't ever want to take it off (he's worn it Mon & Tues of this week). In the morning most days it's the first thing he asks for so I quickly throw it on him.

What about the diaper? Is that fresh at least?

[Country Kids]

I have had parents in the past offer clothing to a couple of families because they noticed the child wearing alot of the same clothes day after day after day.

Well mom washed clothes every night/dried/folded to put away. So most of the time the same clothes were on top of the drawer. I know when I'm really on top of washing clothes this even happens to my own children and believe you me they are not lacking clothes.

If the child has stains on the clothes are the fresh or ones that just didn't come out?

[Scout]

This upsets me.

I have a little dcb who I have had on and off for years. Mom and dad are very young, immature and very much lack both life and parenting skills. They try to get out of paying, drop off late, pick up late and just generally annoy me. I keep dcb because he needs me. He's so sweet, he loves me and I love him. I would adopt him without giving it a second thought!

When he first started with me, I threw him a birthday party. He got to wear a "Birthday Boy!" pin all day (which I removed during nap time). The next day, hubby notices that the boy has the pin on his shirt. Hubby assumed he just wanted to wear it again - but no, I knew immediately that the boy was still in his outfit from the day before.

I chalked it up to being a long night for him because he had another birthday party at home after daycare...

That is, until, it started happening more and more often and he was coming in a night diaper (which, was always 2 sizes too small)!

Anyways, I confronted mom and dad about it and told them that he needed to arrive to daycare is clean clothing (this kid sweats like CRAZY even while sleeping, so even after nap I sometimes have to change him). They didn't think it was a big deal and said it saved them time in the morning

This is the same kid who's nails I have to clip, who's hair I often wash and who I regularily give a cat bath to in the sink (full on shower if hubby is home to watch the other kiddos).

The boy always feels AWESOME after I clean him up and/or change him and he goes and shows off his new clean look to his friends - his attitude is different with me than with his parents. It's strange, but not suprising.

These parents often claim they have no money - but they both smoke, both carry cellphones, both have recently started getting tattoos and buy big screen tvs and electronics like there is no tomorrow.

There is a thrift store not even a block from my home they could stop in at if necessary.

It's a sad situation.

I know they love him... but they don't know how to CARE for him.


I guess jammies aren't necessary - but I think feeling/being clean is... even for a young child. Even if this family was dirt poor and only had 2 outfits, the child should be in a new one each day!
Do they not change the child's diaper in the morning?
Are there any other issues with cleanliness at this point?

This boy is blessed to have you in his life! I would so the same if I needed to.