Child In Care Is Very Aggressive, Don't Know What To Do?

[daycare]

I have tried talking to this girl, I have tried watching her whenever I can but what you must remember is that I run an in home daycare. The children range from newborn to 5yrs. At the current moment I have two children under 6 months old.
I teach preschool for the children, along with sign language. For me to keep constant watch on one child would be impossible.
I think I am going to try this chart and see what happens. I also feel that I can only do so much to change this childs behavior because if it is being done different at home then it won't matter. I have learned these parents are very stuborn, she is still in a crib even though she can climb in and out, she is lactose intolerant but they still give her diary. There are just alot of things I am not sure on with this family.
I am by no means going to give up on this child however I do have other children to think about. So I will do this chart with all of my children two and up and see if it helps.

As for the segregation, even something as simple as keeping them in the same room but putting them inside a playpen is not allowed.

what everyone is saying, it to be proactive about her behavior, instead of reactive....DOes this make sense?


If you are teaching the class, can she be your helper? I do this with the ones that are having issues for the day. It takes their attention as well as mine off of the bad behavior.

what about your rules? are they clearly laid out? do you have them written down with pictures on them so that the kids can clearly understand what is expected of them?

Do you have projects or activities to keep this one interested? Even if she is doing something on her own???

BTW what state are you in? This child cant sit and color in a coloring book in one room while in your sight, while others are doing something else within sight??

[Willow]

I have tried talking to this girl, I have tried watching her whenever I can but what you must remember is that I run an in home daycare. The children range from newborn to 5yrs. At the current moment I have two children under 6 months old.
I teach preschool for the children, along with sign language. For me to keep constant watch on one child would be impossible.

Ditto.

Many of us here are home providers (I sure am). Most of us home providers have children newborn through school age (I sure do). And same deal, I currently have two who are just 4 months old.

Only difference is I don't have an assistant like you do to help me.

And I still don't have any trouble supervising each and every one. No one is suggesting you sit there and stare at her, but keeping her next to you as she plays isn't difficult at all.

As for the segregation, even something as simple as keeping them in the same room but putting them inside a playpen is not allowed.

No one is asking you to put the child in a playpen. What is being suggested is that you keep her near you so you can properly supervise. Let her choose a toy and have her sit next to you to play with it. If she wants another one you walk with her to pick one out, then have her sit back down next to you wherever you need to be.

It's really not that big of a deal, is allowed across the board for all licensed homes without question, and is incredibly effective.



I'd be willing to bet with 100% certainty a sticker chart is not going to work here. If she thinks it's funny and is a perpetual problem a mere sticker isn't going to be incentive enough to stop her behaviors. Her payoff getting after other kids is worth waaaaay more than a sticker on a chart.

As daycare mentioned the word here is proactive, not reactive. You NEED to identify her triggers and catch her there, before she has time to react. I'd venture to say it's the only thing that's going to work in a situation like this.

[Unregistered]

Everyone mentioned some great things that could be the cause and solution. I honestly would call your local Early Childhood Intervention office and see if they can do anything, most of the time they only work with 3 and under but they can point you in the right direction. If this behavior is not fixed or the problem identified she will start school on the wrong front.

If it is as extreme as you say and the other options don't work I would stop spinning your wheels and have a therapist observe her and decide. It could be a sensory thing, or some form of Autism etc. We just don't know, but inability to behave correctly in a social setting, observe boundaries, having tantrums excessively is not healthy.

Poor mom has to feel terrible and I know it is exhausting for you. If the mom chooses not to do anything it will get handled in Kinder, teachers are not going to tolerate that behavior and neither should you, and mom will be forced to do something. All you can do is bring it up.

Wish you the best.