Shutting Down

[momofboys]

I wish you the best! I have enjoyed your posts & will keep you in my thoughts that you will have a healthy pregnancy. Please pop on from time to time & keep us posted. That is great that you have a MIL who is willing to help & take your DD so you can do the bedrest that you need. You are truly blessed that you have family that is helping you. Praying for you!

[JJPlaycare]

Just wanted to say good luck to you and your growing family! I think that you have made a good decision and it will pay off in the end! Your family should always come first and I am happy that you have decided to do what you can for yourself and for your family! Keep us posted on those twins of yours. I am due Dec 19, only with one baby though, but I would still love to hear how the rest of your pregnancy goes and would love to hear the news of the babies arrival! Good luck to you and God Bless! Everything happens for a reason, take care! : D

[Lilbutterflie]

Wow! I have never been able to talk to anyone who also had an "irritable uterus". (o: The best advice I can give is to really take your bed rest seriously... b/c the more up and down you are throughout the day, the more contractions you will have. You have the right mindset about not being superwoman anymore!! But your husband is absolutely right, you have the most important job right now, keeping those babies healthy!
I have a feeling that bed rest is going to get real old real quick for you! Definitely get yourself some things that can occupy you while you're laying in bed or on the couch. I learned how to crochet & knit when I was on bedrest for 11 weeks with my daughter! It kept me busy and occupied so that my mind could clear itself every once in a while.
I will keep you in my prayers, and please keep us posted!

[professionalmom]

I thank all of you for your support. I have another question. My DD has always been with me. By her first birthday, she had only been out of my direct care for approximately 50 hours TOTAL! And most of that was when she was sleeping. The longest she has been away from me is only 3-4 hours a handful of times, except one 8 hour day for me to attend training and one 40 hour trip to grandma J's, while I took care of grandma N after grandma N had major surgery. So, here's the dilemma: my MIL (grandma J) has offered to take DD 12 hours away to their lake house in WI while DH and I are dealing with packing and supervising movers, attending a court date against a former client, and attending OB appointments. The problem is that she would be away form me for 2-3 weeks. My MIL and I are concerned about the emotional trauma that could cause. Like, would she think that mommy and daddy abandoned her? I could drive to IL (my mom's) after 7-10 days of DD being away, stay the night at my mom's to rest, then drive the 8 hours to WI to pick DD up. Then I could stay a day or two in WI with everyone up there, then head back to mom's (IL - 8 hrs drive). Then DD & I could stay another 2 weeks with my mom and dad and visit my brothers, sisters-in-law, nieces, nephew, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. I would be able to relax while everyone tends to DD. But my MIL, mom, and DH are all concerned about me driving that much.

FYI - my pain has finally subsided. I took Tylenol with codeine yesterday around 5pm and have not needed to take any more. Pain dropped from 10 to 4, so I'm doing great and feel fine, as long as I keep taking the meds to stop contractions.

So, what do you ladies think? Should I let my MIL take DD for a while. If DD stays with us, I'm concerned about taking care of her while everything else is going on. I feel like she's not getting the attention she needs, because I am lying on the couch most of the time, trying to rest for the babies. I can't lift her and we are constantly telling her to be gentle with my belly (she's used to climbing all over me). Would I be pushing it to drive to get her after 10 days, so she's not away from me twice as long? Am I being an neurotic mom? How do I choose between what's best for my daughter and what's best for my unborn babies? Don't they all need me? My DD will be 2 in 10 days. So if she goes with my MIL, we will technically miss her birthday, even though we would just celebrate before she leaves. I feel like an absolutely terrible mother for letting her go away for that long, even though she would be with her adoring grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, and 2 doggies (which she LOVES) and get to go on a boat, swimming, etc. They all think DD hung the stars and the moon, so I know she would get tons of attention (maybe spoiled), but it's not mom and dad. Please help me to figure out what would be the best solution, or at least what would be the lesser or the two evils.

[JJPlaycare]

I say send her with them! You need to rest for your two growing babies! Your daughter will probably enjoy all of the attention and I think it would also be good for her to have some time away from you!! I have a hard time leaving my girls too, rarely if ever, but they always have fun when they leave and rarely want to return to me! LOL She will be well taken care of and will really enjoy all of the attention you cannot give her at the moment! I think it would be good to try it now, because you are probably going to need help and need someone to take her once and awhile once you have twins - so why not try it now and get her use to being away from you so that the transition of adding two babies and staying away from mom for awhile isn't so traumatic! Once step at a time! 2 - 3 weeks is a very long time, call her, send her things!! If all else fails try it and if it isn't working then go get her!! Just play it by ear and see how it all plays out, maybe they would be willing to do some driving to meet you at your Moms so you don't have SOOO far to go if it really isn't working! Sounds like you have a great family and I am sure they would do this for you and your daughter!! I say go for it and give the babies the rest and time they need and let your daughter go on an adventure with out you and let her recieve some spoiling and an over abundance of attention - because in just a few months life is going to change BIG time, so let her enjoy some alone time with others as much as possible!! : ) Get some rest!!

[boysx5]

I think sending her with the family is a good thing for you and her you need the rest and with her home you might not rest the way you should be resting. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers