Shutting Down

[professionalmom]

If you were following "Rock Bottom" from a while back, you know that we have been struggling to get clients and having financial problems. The 2 brothers I took on 2 weeks ago, their mom is unsure if she will be staying because she may not be able to handle to copay. It's only $40 a week, for the 2 kids, but I am already giving them discounts and need every penny of it. I can't give them any more breaks. Well, my husband and I have talked extensively about it. And since I have been advertising like crazy and not getting calls or getting calls to set up appointments then they no-call, no show. It's been horrible. We have decided to give up our home and move in with family. Once we made the decision on Saturday, the stress started to lift. Plus with me pregnant with twins, it just seemed like the best decision for us at this time. Then all day yesterday, I was having extreme abdominal pain and ended up in the hospital. I am only 20 weeks pregnant and was having contractions every 2-3 minutes. They gave me a shot to stop them and it worked. But they came back. I'm not dilating so they put me on a medication to take every 6 hours to keep stopping the contractions. I was dehydrated or had any infections (bladder, yeast, etc.), so they do not know why I was contracting so much. Plus, they do not think the abdominal pain is related to the contractions since I was still in severe pain and almost unable to move even when the contractions stopped. They gave me a muscle relaxer and Tylenol and nothing worked on the pain at all. My husband called off work today so he can take care of our DD since I am completely unable to right now. So, I am even more secure in my decision to shut down. I have to take care of my unborn babies. Oh, and based on the u/s, they look like they are girls. They are doing fine. But I have to keep them in a while longer and that means eliminating stress. And one of my biggest stressors is clients who argue about payment, which has been a problem with approx 80% of my clients. So, we are going to have to hire movers to do the packing and moving because I can't do anything right now. I go back to my OB in a couple hrs for a recheck and am hoping they can do something about this pain. I can't even let anyone touch my belly at all - it causes searing pain. So please pray for my babies and that I can keep them in until they are viable, hopefully to full term (16 more weeks for twins).

I thank all of you for all the support you have given me. This is like a community of friends and all of you have given me the strength to be a better provider. And no matter what anyone else tells any of you, YOU are all SUPERWOMEN!! You are raising the next generation. You ARE important, and don't let anyone tell you that you are just a babysitter or treat you like you are a second class citizen. Without you, your clients wouldn't be able to work. Without you, these children would merely be warehoused in overcrowded centers (I'm not knocking centers, just saying they would be cramped). God Bless each and every one of you.

[kitkat]

I'm so glad you were able to make a decision and you feel comfortable with the one you made. You were in such a tough position and I'm sure the choice was very difficult to make. You are absolutely correct, you need to take care of your family first and relieving stress right now is the best thing to do. I hope you guys have a smooth move.

Even though you are shutting down, don't be a stranger to the board! You'll at least have to update us on when you have the babies I got so teary as I was reading the last bit of your post (I'm trying to be a big girl and not cry)! Your words were so kind and touching and just made me feel better about what I do! You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[swaddlebees]

I just wanted to say good luck! I had twins in march and was in the hospital from 23 weeks to 28 weeks on bedrest for shortening cervix. I finally had them at 32 weeks and they were 19 inches long at 6lbs each! They were in the NICU one week. Don't stress, it only makes things worse. I had a pain similar to yours, it was a muscle that was being trampled on so they gave me a belt to wear and it helped a ton, once one of them moved I was fine HUGS

[Daycare Mommy]

I will pray for you and your family! I know you're going to be incredibly busy, but do keep us updated if you find the time. You were an incredible asset to this board and I wish you all the best in the future.

[My4SunshineGirlsNY]

I think you are doing the right thing here...I'm sure it's hard to give up your house but this move will help you focus on what matters..you and those twins and your family. This business is VERY stressful and right now you need to concentrate on yourself. I pray all will be ok with the preganancy, I know you will find yourself a lot less stressed shutting down daycare, at least until a while after the twins are born.

[judytrickett]

Best of luck to you, professionalmom. I always enjoyed your candor and point of view on children and daycare.

Hey, you gotta take care of YOU and YOUR family first. Everything happens for a reason.

I hope all goes well for you. Pop in and say HI once in a while!

[Unregistered]

If you were following "Rock Bottom" from a while back, you know that we have been struggling to get clients and having financial problems. The 2 brothers I took on 2 weeks ago, their mom is unsure if she will be staying because she may not be able to handle to copay. It's only $40 a week, for the 2 kids, but I am already giving them discounts and need every penny of it. I can't give them any more breaks. Well, my husband and I have talked extensively about it. And since I have been advertising like crazy and not getting calls or getting calls to set up appointments then they no-call, no show. It's been horrible. We have decided to give up our home and move in with family. Once we made the decision on Saturday, the stress started to lift. Plus with me pregnant with twins, it just seemed like the best decision for us at this time. Then all day yesterday, I was having extreme abdominal pain and ended up in the hospital. I am only 20 weeks pregnant and was having contractions every 2-3 minutes. They gave me a shot to stop them and it worked. But they came back. I'm not dilating so they put me on a medication to take every 6 hours to keep stopping the contractions. I was dehydrated or had any infections (bladder, yeast, etc.), so they do not know why I was contracting so much. Plus, they do not think the abdominal pain is related to the contractions since I was still in severe pain and almost unable to move even when the contractions stopped. They gave me a muscle relaxer and Tylenol and nothing worked on the pain at all. My husband called off work today so he can take care of our DD since I am completely unable to right now. So, I am even more secure in my decision to shut down. I have to take care of my unborn babies. Oh, and based on the u/s, they look like they are girls. They are doing fine. But I have to keep them in a while longer and that means eliminating stress. And one of my biggest stressors is clients who argue about payment, which has been a problem with approx 80% of my clients. So, we are going to have to hire movers to do the packing and moving because I can't do anything right now. I go back to my OB in a couple hrs for a recheck and am hoping they can do something about this pain. I can't even let anyone touch my belly at all - it causes searing pain. So please pray for my babies and that I can keep them in until they are viable, hopefully to full term (16 more weeks for twins).

I thank all of you for all the support you have given me. This is like a community of friends and all of you have given me the strength to be a better provider. And no matter what anyone else tells any of you, YOU are all SUPERWOMEN!! You are raising the next generation. You ARE important, and don't let anyone tell you that you are just a babysitter or treat you like you are a second class citizen. Without you, your clients wouldn't be able to work. Without you, these children would merely be warehoused in overcrowded centers (I'm not knocking centers, just saying they would be cramped). God Bless each and every one of you.

Thats right YOUR family comes first. Good luck sweetie and even thou I never registered I followed your questions good luck and keep all of us updated about your babies.

[momma2girls]

If you were following "Rock Bottom" from a while back, you know that we have been struggling to get clients and having financial problems. The 2 brothers I took on 2 weeks ago, their mom is unsure if she will be staying because she may not be able to handle to copay. It's only $40 a week, for the 2 kids, but I am already giving them discounts and need every penny of it. I can't give them any more breaks. Well, my husband and I have talked extensively about it. And since I have been advertising like crazy and not getting calls or getting calls to set up appointments then they no-call, no show. It's been horrible. We have decided to give up our home and move in with family. Once we made the decision on Saturday, the stress started to lift. Plus with me pregnant with twins, it just seemed like the best decision for us at this time. Then all day yesterday, I was having extreme abdominal pain and ended up in the hospital. I am only 20 weeks pregnant and was having contractions every 2-3 minutes. They gave me a shot to stop them and it worked. But they came back. I'm not dilating so they put me on a medication to take every 6 hours to keep stopping the contractions. I was dehydrated or had any infections (bladder, yeast, etc.), so they do not know why I was contracting so much. Plus, they do not think the abdominal pain is related to the contractions since I was still in severe pain and almost unable to move even when the contractions stopped. They gave me a muscle relaxer and Tylenol and nothing worked on the pain at all. My husband called off work today so he can take care of our DD since I am completely unable to right now. So, I am even more secure in my decision to shut down. I have to take care of my unborn babies. Oh, and based on the u/s, they look like they are girls. They are doing fine. But I have to keep them in a while longer and that means eliminating stress. And one of my biggest stressors is clients who argue about payment, which has been a problem with approx 80% of my clients. So, we are going to have to hire movers to do the packing and moving because I can't do anything right now. I go back to my OB in a couple hrs for a recheck and am hoping they can do something about this pain. I can't even let anyone touch my belly at all - it causes searing pain. So please pray for my babies and that I can keep them in until they are viable, hopefully to full term (16 more weeks for twins).

I thank all of you for all the support you have given me. This is like a community of friends and all of you have given me the strength to be a better provider. And no matter what anyone else tells any of you, YOU are all SUPERWOMEN!! You are raising the next generation. You ARE important, and don't let anyone tell you that you are just a babysitter or treat you like you are a second class citizen. Without you, your clients wouldn't be able to work. Without you, these children would merely be warehoused in overcrowded centers (I'm not knocking centers, just saying they would be cramped). God Bless each and every one of you.

I wish you all the luck in the world!! I hope you get thru the entire pregnancy, if not close to your due date!!
I don't blame you at all!! I had one baby who had seperation anxiety terrbily when I was preganant, I developed toxemia and my BP was going sky high. I told my DR. I know why it is alot higher now, and in a week, I will not have her any longer- due to the all day screaming!!! WOW!!!! I let her go after 3 weeks, and it went way down.
GOod luck and please stay in touch with us all!!! Let us all know how it is going, and after you have your girls!!!
Take Care!!!

[momofsix]

I'm so glad that you were able to make the tough choices that will benefit you and your family--good for you. i pray that your pain will be relieved, and that you'll have a good 16 weeks left of being pregnant! Your post brought tears to my eyes also.
Blessings & hugs
Keep us posted!

[MarinaVanessa]

Good luck with the babies. You are making a wise decision in thinking of yourself, your babies and your family first. You can always come back to doing childcare (or not ) if you ever find the longing. And yes please! Do NOT be a stranger on the boards. Let us know how your girls progress and how your family does.

[misol]

Professionalmom best of luck to you. I hope that the rest of your pregnancy is smooth sailing and your family will be in my prayers. Please keep us updated. God Bless.

[Lilbutterflie]

I am praying for you, Professionalmom! I was in a similar situation with both of my pregnancies... bed rest and meds to stop labor for 11 weeks with my daughter; and bed rest for 6 weeks with my son. They told me I had an irritable uterus! I carried both full term.
My heart goes out to you and your family, please keep us updated. I hope your OB visit today goes well and that they can figure out what is giving you such pain!

[originalkat]

Professionalmom-- I know that feeling of relief when some of the financial stress starts to lift! We have been there too and had to live with family for awhile to get back on our feet. It was the best decision for us. Plus being with family when the twins arrive safely in 16 weeks is sure to help...having a few extra hands around the house. Blessings to you and your family and the journey before you!

[bgmeyers]

Good for you for taking care of your babies and family! I hope the move goes smoothly and that less stress will help you have an easier time of it with your twins.

[professionalmom]

I am praying for you, Professionalmom! I was in a similar situation with both of my pregnancies... bed rest and meds to stop labor for 11 weeks with my daughter; and bed rest for 6 weeks with my son. They told me I had an irritable uterus! I carried both full term.
My heart goes out to you and your family, please keep us updated. I hope your OB visit today goes well and that they can figure out what is giving you such pain!

OMG!!! Irritable uterus is exactly the term they used at the hospital last night. I am doing online research about it now. What little bit I have read seems to point to it being an indicator of preterm labor. So I am a little scared. But hearing that you carried to full term twice with UI, I feel a little relived. But I think once we get moved and I get through a court date I have coming up, I am going to drive to IL to stay with my mom for awhile. That way I can have around the clock care. Even though my mom works 3 days a week, my dad and brother live there also and can help out with DD. Plus, I have a ton of family (aunts, cousins, etc.) that can help out. I will hate to be away from my husband, but I think we need to make the twins our top priority until they are to a safe gestational age. My MIL will be coming in a couple days to take DD to their lake house in WI for a couple weeks. I am terrified about that because DD has only been away from me for approximately 1-3 hours at a time, except for 8 hours of CPR/First Aid training and a 40 hours stay with my MIL while I took care of my mom after her surgery. So this will be very hard for both of us. But with movers coming in a couple weeks, my doctor's appointments, and self-imposed bed rest, it's best for her that she is with someone who can attend to her and give her the attention she needs.

I feel like I am having to choose between my children and it's killing me. But, I know all will be fine eventually. DD is too young to remember this separation and the twins are far too little and need me more, since I'm the only one who can feed them and protect them. Sometimes being the mommy ****s!! As much as I love it, it is the most heart-wrenching job in the world. The worry, the tears, the fears, etc. It's a wonder WE make it to see them all grown up!

I thank all of you for your support and prayers. I am the type of person who is always on the go, the superwoman, trying to take on the impossible schedules and burdens. This will be the first time in my adult life that I will truly be unemployed (except when I went to law school, but that WAS my job). I feel like I'm useless at this point and THAT just drives me nuts! But like my husband said, I'm not just useless, I'm doing what needs to be done for all our children and even though I will "just be a mom" for a while after the twins are born, that will be more than enough for one person (2 infants and a 2 yr old). So, I am trying to come to terms with not being superwoman for awhile. As I posted on facebook, "Superwoman has left the building". But I know that there are MANY superwomen out there and everyone on this website fits that title to a T. I love my daycare sisters!

Oh, and today the OB gave me Tylenol with Codeine. Probably not the best thing to take when pregnant, but it's either this or not be able to move. She also said that the babies could be pushing on old scar tissue from my gastric bypass from 2001! Or it could be bowel problems. No way to know for sure, but at least I have POSSIBLE answers.