So Upset And Mad!!!!

[daycare]

1st thing I would have done is bagged up the child's lunch and sent him home with it. I never entertain parents who show up during meal or snack time.

But, because the parent stayed and this began to occur, I feel you should have taken control and commanded respect from the children.

Here is what works for me when the kids start getting unruly....although it is rare, and I have different people....students, professors, etc here almost daily....I shout out One, Two, Three EVERYBODY LOOK AT ME!!! That instantly grabs their attention, they stop dead in their tracks and all eyes focus on me.

Then I remind them that 1. my rules do not change when another adult is here. 2. If they do not sit down (in this instance because you were at the lunch table) and eat their meal, I am going to assume that they are not hungry and they will be done and be getting ready for nap. 3. The VERY FIRST time one of them act up, remove the plate, have them potty and put down for nap

They have to KNOW and FEEL that you will not tolerate it AT ALL. Trust me, I have children who are beyond wild and crazy for their parents but do not give me any flack whatsoever, and it is not because I am mean or bossy....actually quite the opposite....but they know I say what I mean and mean what I say. EVERY SINGLE TIME

I don't care who is here, i control my group at all times as if they were not here. I would have told this parent, sorry looks like they can't handle a guest, we need to get moving on. I would then have done exactly as Crystal stated..... I don't back down just becuase the parents or another adult is here. The kids know this and therefore, they don't change their behavior when others are around.

Sometimes I will even say. Johnny, do you want sally's mommy see you go to time out????? When I demand their attention for acting up, the parents can usually see that they are the cause of it and move on quickly.

[NeedaVaca]

We were actually eating lunch so that should have solved the problem but no-I had 3 out of 6 get down without eating! They have been eating so great lately do but they were all messing around so much that lunch time got over and I had them get down.

I don't let me kids get up from lunch or snack when they feel like it. They all eat together and they all get up together and move on to the handwashing and next steps. If someone is done or not hungry they sit until everyone is finished. I just find it's so much easier to keep them together at all times!

[Country Kids]

I don't let me kids get up from lunch or snack when they feel like it. They all eat together and they all get up together and move on to the handwashing and next steps. If someone is done or not hungry they sit until everyone is finished. I just find it's so much easier to keep them together at all times!

This is what I do and was attempting to do. One though decided to throw a tantrum on top of everything because they wanted down. Then the child kept running around when they were to be laying down. After all this, I still had one child that wouldn't nap and everytime someone came in they kept jumping up to see who it was.

I'm putting a letter out and letting parents know that if they show up during lunch their child will be getting up immediately and leaving. They will just have to forgo lunch.

[Unregistered]

It doesn't sound like that was what you were doing.If one kid was screaming and one was running around and the other was not staying on their bed for nap then they weren't ALL sitting at the table together.It sounds like a zoo at your daycare!

[Country Kids]

It doesn't sound like that was what you were doing.If one kid was screaming and one was running around and the other was not staying on their bed for nap then they weren't ALL sitting at the table together.It sounds like a zoo at your daycare!

Funny if you read this and read it carefully you would see where I said "After all this" a child wouldn't nap. I had everyone else sleeping but one.

Also, the one throwing the tantrum was also the same one that decided to run around.

I also said that is what I do and was ATTEMPTING to do. Please do not call my childcare a zoo if you cannot read my post and quote it correctly.

Thank you-

[Unregistered]

I've read all your post.You said the mom came early and was waiting for her child to finish lunch.So how could some children be napping,some running around,some throwing a fit because they wanted to get down.You said 3 of the 6 got down early because they weren't eating.So no,you weren't attempting to do that.As the previous poster mentioned.All children sit at the table until everyone is done,then everyone gets cleaned up,diapers,nap,everything at the same time.This will eliminate half of he problems right there.You can't have kids doing what ever they want whenever they want.Yes,it sounds like a zoo!

[Meeko]

1st thing I would have done is bagged up the child's lunch and sent him home with it. I never entertain parents who show up during meal or snack time.

But, because the parent stayed and this began to occur, I feel you should have taken control and commanded respect from the children.

Here is what works for me when the kids start getting unruly....although it is rare, and I have different people....students, professors, etc here almost daily....I shout out One, Two, Three EVERYBODY LOOK AT ME!!! That instantly grabs their attention, they stop dead in their tracks and all eyes focus on me.

Then I remind them that 1. my rules do not change when another adult is here. 2. If they do not sit down (in this instance because you were at the lunch table) and eat their meal, I am going to assume that they are not hungry and they will be done and be getting ready for nap. 3. The VERY FIRST time one of them act up, remove the plate, have them potty and put down for nap

They have to KNOW and FEEL that you will not tolerate it AT ALL. Trust me, I have children who are beyond wild and crazy for their parents but do not give me any flack whatsoever, and it is not because I am mean or bossy....actually quite the opposite....but they know I say what I mean and mean what I say. EVERY SINGLE TIME

This!

Don't feel shy at taking control...it's you job! If any parent has a problem with you keeping control, they need to look for another daycare.

I will send a child to sit on the couch if they try and run around when a parent comes to the door. I don't care if they cry about it. I have even done it to a child who's own parent is in the doorway.

My house. My rules.

I don't have a problem with telling a parent "You can't take John home right now. He isn't behaving the way he knows he needs to at my house." The parents are fine with it. They will tell their child to listen to me and stop misbehaving.

I have it in my handbook that I will discipline a child in front of their parent if needs be.

The trick is to have a set of rules set in stone for the kids. They learn quickly and when they know you will enforce them EVERY SINGLE TIME, they fall into line much easier. Someone will always have a bad day of course, but you won't get the whole group playing up if they know there are consequences.

[Crystal]

I've read all your post.You said the mom came early and was waiting for her child to finish lunch.So how could some children be napping,some running around,some throwing a fit because they wanted to get down.You said 3 of the 6 got down early because they weren't eating.So no,you weren't attempting to do that.As the previous poster mentioned.All children sit at the table until everyone is done,then everyone gets cleaned up,diapers,nap,everything at the same time.This will eliminate half of he problems right there.You can't have kids doing what ever they want whenever they want.Yes,it sounds like a zoo!

hmmmm.....I don't make my children sit at the table when they are finished eating. I allow them to get down, wash up and play in the playroom or outside. They all behave VERY well.....in fact, I dare to say they behave better being allowed to leave the table when they are finished eating than they would be if I forced them to sit, bored, at the lunch table- THAT is when things take an ugly turn. My daycare is anything BUT a zoo.

You however, seem to be a jack@$$. You have alot of nerve to come here and judge her when she is trying to seek help resolving an issue that she clearly isn't happy about.

[daycare]

hmmmm.....I don't make my children sit at the table when they are finished eating. I allow them to get down, wash up and play in the playroom or outside. They all behave VERY well.....in fact, I dare to say they behave better being allowed to leave the table when they are finished eating than they would be if I forced them to sit, bored, at the lunch table- THAT is when things take an ugly turn. My daycare is anything BUT a zoo.

You however, seem to be a jack@$$. You have alot of nerve to come here and judge her when she is trying to seek help resolving an issue that she clearly isn't happy about.

Crystal......youre in time out....

[Crystal]

Crystal......youre in time out....

Sorry, but that really hit a nerve. Going to my corner now

[Country Kids]

Sorry, but that really hit a nerve. Going to my corner now

Thank you so much Chrystal! I was really holding back and thinking about numbering it per child how it went but decided not to.

You can come out of your corner!

[Oneluckymom]

It doesn't sound like that was what you were doing.If one kid was screaming and one was running around and the other was not staying on their bed for nap then they weren't ALL sitting at the table together.It sounds like a zoo at your daycare!

It sounds like a troll to me.

If you look back at their other comments, they sound like they're here to stir up trouble.

Back to the topic at hand, you can only do so much. If the kids are acting up (and they always will) you do your best and try implementing different techniques to find THE ONE that works. The kids love you and I am sure you will find the magic recipe to get them to behave. What works with one group doesn't always work with another...as you already know.

Good luck!

[Oneluckymom]

OK CRYSTAL SAID WHAT I WANTED TO SAY.....BUT I WAS TOO NICE::

[Blackcat31]

It sounds like a troll to me.

If you look back at their other comments, they sound like they're here to stir up trouble.

There are two unregistered posters. They are not one and the same although the one who called CountryKids care a zoo has made more than one post.


I don't think her intent was to cause trouble (although her words could have been chosen more carefully). I could also be wrong about that but I try really hard to always see both sides.

She (unregistered) said she has read alot of CK's other posts and because of those, she made the comment about her environment being like a zoo. That part wasn't very constructive or helpful but she is entitled to her opinion, whether we like it or not.

I agree to some extent that the first couple posts made by CK were confusing as I too thought she first said that only half the kids were still sitting down and a couple had gotten up and then in a post farther down she says she makes them all sit at the table until they are ALL done which to me was saying two different things.

Going back now and re-reading, I am thinking she NORMALLY makes then all stay sitting down until done but this partiular time, she allowed a couple to leave the table so I was confused too at first.

Anyways, not saying the unregistered is helpful or nice, but she is certainly entitled to her opinion. If we, as members have issues with unregistered posters, I think the best thing to do is to reply in a "professional" manner or not reply at all.

[Meeko]

hmmmm.....I don't make my children sit at the table when they are finished eating. I allow them to get down, wash up and play in the playroom or outside. They all behave VERY well.....in fact, I dare to say they behave better being allowed to leave the table when they are finished eating than they would be if I forced them to sit, bored, at the lunch table- THAT is when things take an ugly turn. My daycare is anything BUT a zoo.

You however, seem to be a jack@$$. You have alot of nerve to come here and judge her when she is trying to seek help resolving an issue that she clearly isn't happy about.

LOL! Go Crystal!happyfacehappyface