Can I OD This My Mother?

[jen]

Tough!

That's life. Sometimes people are going to say things you don't like. Your mother is no exception.

In my opinion she's your mother and she's entitled to her opinion about how you behaved. I personally would have said much MUCH worse......

If that's seriously the worst she's ever said to you the woman is a saint and you ought to be counting your lucky stars......

Hey, look at that. Here is a topic we totally agree on!!!!

[daycare]

Bottom line, NO you cannot report your mother for saying those things. They were perhaps harsh...but your behavior was very childish and well below your years. They weren't abusive, dear, they were angry.

Speaking also as a parent, while she probably shouldn't have said those things, most parents THINK those things sometimes, and our filters do, on occasion, fail. Usually, under duress. Which she clearly was. Your mother was probably
1) embarrassed for your behavior. You're 15. Not 3.
2) angry (rightly so!) at having to pay $45 for someone's clothing.
3) embarrass for herself because she was being judged as a parent by your behavior.
4) possibly (I don't know your family's financial situation) stressed out about having to spend $45 unexpectedly. I know that in my family right now, if we had to pay $45 for anything, we would be in big trouble. We currently have $6 to get us through to Friday. We have no credit cards, we have no savings, no cash. $6 in the bank account. That's IT.

So. She said what she did about you and your brother being babies and needing diapers and pacifiers and rattles because she was angry. You probably say mean things to her when you get angry. I'm certain you say mean things to your brother when you get angry. It happens.

As for your punishment, I'm sorry honey but it is her right as your parent to punish you. She wants to see you learn proper behavior, which tonight you most certainly did NOT display. Grounding you is legal. Taking away your X-Box is legal. Driving is a privilege, NOT a right. It doesn't matter who started it; since he started it you had the power to ignore it or to react in a more mature fashion.

If you want her to relent, unground you sooner, and perhaps let you take driver's ed, the first thing you need to do is take your punishment like a grown-up. You screwed up, now you take the punishment. Second, think about writing her--HAND writing!-- a letter, apologizing for your behavior and admitting wrongdoing. Be very polite. Use your best handwriting, proper spelling, all that. Like you're writing a paper for school, but better. In the letter, propose a time limit on the grounding and offer to do housework to earn the $45 that she had to spend as a result of your behavior. Then, if you can, give her the note along with a bar of chocolate or her favorite candy. Tell her you love her and that you're sorry--and mean it!

Be very contrite. Take your punishment like an adult. You might be surprised at what being mature can win you. Especially if your brother is taking his punishment worse.

I have to agree with Silver here.

Sorry to hear that you are not happy with your mother. However, she does sound like a stand up woman. Your mother CHOSE to pay for something YOU ruined, because she is trying to teach you to be responsible for your actions. Ones that I am sure you regret.

One thing that you need to understand is that through life it is your mother's responsibility to teach you to be responsible for your actions. What you did at the Mac Donalds was not ok. How would you feel if that ketchup you were spraying went on the floor and one of those people in their 60s fell and slipped on it and BROKE their hip? You would be out a lot more than $45.00 an one xbox.

Think about what you did?
Think about what it cost your mother.
Think about how embarrassed your own mother feels about the way you behaved..

I tell my children that when I see them making bad decisions (which lets face it you and you brother both did) that I will do everything I can as a parent to help them make better ones. Sometimes this means that I will punish them by taking their things away, making them clean extra, no outings and so on. I tell my kids, if you hate me at some point throughout your life that is ok, because I am your parent, NOT your friend.

Again your mother is trying to teach you to be responsible for your actions and suffer the consequences of your bad decisions like a man, not a little boy. Sweetie, when you turn 18, no one is going to be there to forgive you and guide you when you make bad decisions. YOu do it then, you get to watch life from behind bars. I know you don't want that nor does anyone else.

If I were you, I would be saying sorry to your mother and offering a way to pay her back. I would also suggest writing a letter to the people that your ruined their clothing about your immature and inappropriate behavior.

As for the driving, I think that if you start making more MATURE decisions in your life you will prove to your mother that you are mature enough to drive.....

good luck

[Willow]

Edited - people seriously need to get a fricken life....... :P

[daycare]

wut about her lies saying i need pampers and other stuff also

LOgan, you should be so thankful that you are not my child. I would have done a lot mroe than what your mother did and if you think that its embarrassing for someone to tell you that you act like a baby....WEll then don't give them a reason to tell you this.

[daycare]

LOL. Guys, you've been had.

This is a very regular troll post. All over the internet. Posted by various people but the post is always the same and the anonymous poster is always referred to as "Ketchup Ed".

Bottom line: did not happen. You've all been had. Google Ketchup Ed and you'll see. ::

are you kidding@!!!! ahahahahahahahahahh Michael was that you????

[MaritimeMummy]

Guys, OMG, he's a TROLL! This is a fake story, been floating around the internet for YEARS. This kid is just bored tonight and sitting around smirking at how worked up you all are getting, and how you are easy prey!

This thread should really be deleted since it is a farce and contributes nothing to the community...

[Michael]

Some good conversation that WILL help someone when searching for solutions.

Remember, they had to take the time to engage in the conversation. Maybe we will get best Ketchup Ed thread! haha

[Happy Hearts]

Ketchup Ed... you need some pampers and a rattle. Immature troll that you are

[Michael]

are you kidding@!!!! ahahahahahahahahahh Michael was that you????

No! I spent some fatherly energy here.

[daycare]

No! I spent some fatherly energy here.

ditto..... oh I man motherly!!!

[Kaddidle Care]

LOL. Guys, you've been had.

This is a very regular troll post. All over the internet. Posted by various people but the post is always the same and the anonymous poster is always referred to as "Ketchup Ed".

Bottom line: did not happen. You've all been had. Google Ketchup Ed and you'll see. ::

I've been reading along saying to myself "Is this for real?" and then I got to your post. OK - makes perfect sense now.

Ketchup Logan - if your story is true all I can say is be happy that I'm not your mother. Your toys would be sold to pay me back and do you really think you would get the chance to eat at McDonalds again? HAH! I don't think so.

[Michael]

Well, we just got blasted by a high volume of traffic. So I would imagine someone posted us on redit or facebook and a lot of people are looking. Just know this. They clued me in and I registered www.KetchupEd.com! Now I RULE! haha

[youretooloud]

wut about my rights?

Honestly, she didn't really do anything wrong to you. She didn't hit you, or restrain you.

Just pay her back the $45. Apologize to her for embarrassing her in public, and promise to act more mature in the future.

Sorry honey, you are not entitled or owed anything in life unless you are willing to work for it. You will survive this. But, you don't get to throw ketchup in a public space.

http://www.myfoxboston.com/story/18720284/2012/06/06/full-transcript-youre-not-special-speech

All of this is as it should be, because none of you is special.

You are not special. You are not exceptional.

Contrary to what your u9 soccer trophy suggests, your glowing seventh grade report card, despite every assurance of a certain corpulent purple dinosaur, that nice Mister Rogers and your batty Aunt Sylvia, no matter how often your maternal caped crusader has swooped in to save you… you're nothing special.

Yes, you've been pampered, cosseted, doted upon, helmeted, bubble-wrapped. Yes, capable adults with other things to do have held you, kissed you, fed you, wiped your mouth, wiped your bottom, trained you, taught you, tutored you, coached you, listened to you, counseled you, encouraged you, consoled you and encouraged you again. You've been nudged, cajoled, wheedled and implored. You've been feted and fawned over and called sweetie pie. Yes, you have. And, certainly, we've been to your games, your plays, your recitals, your science fairs. Absolutely, smiles ignite when you walk into a room, and hundreds gasp with delight at your every tweet. Why, maybe you've even had your picture in the Townsman! [Editor's upgrade: Or The Swellesley Report!] And now you've conquered high school… and, indisputably, here we all have gathered for you, the pride and joy of this fine community, the first to emerge from that magnificent new building…

But do not get the idea you're anything special. Because you're not.

[Lucy]

I read the VERY FIRST original posting, and was scrolling down (without reading ANY replies) to type, "I call BS on this post. It smacks of a made up story by a really bored person."

As I was scrolling down, the post about it being a troll happened to catch my eye. LMAO. Did I call it or what??? I didn't even read any replies until I knew this was a fake posting. That made it REALLY, REALLY funny because people played into it.

I'm not making fun of anyone. I tend to be a total skeptic on EVERYTHING. It's hard for me to take anything seriously. Especially on the internet!! ::

[youretooloud]

I read the VERY FIRST original posting, and was scrolling down (without reading ANY replies) to type, "I call BS on this post.:

No way, because trolls only post on "Drama Friday".

Plus, also, the spelling is pretty awesome. Wat wud make somoen od that?