Can I OD This My Mother?

[Happy Hearts]

Logan, getting your driver's license is a privilege, not a right. You have to earn trust and show responsible behaviour before you should be allowed to drive. If you feel you don't have to apologize or pay for the people's clothes that you soiled because of your childish behaviour, then you are showing irresponsibility, disregard for people's property, rudeness and disrespect.

About you calling child services, that is something you should take very seriously. A mother who disciplines their children in public is something we need more of, so hurray for your mom. The name calling is the least of your worries, you owe your mother a huge thank you for doing the right thing by paying for the cleaning. How many hours did she have to work for that $45? 3 hours? 4 hours? 5 hours?

[logan]

Logan, getting your driver's license is a privilege, not a right. You have to earn trust and show responsible behaviour before you should be allowed to drive. If you feel you don't have to apologize or pay for the people's clothes that you soiled because of your childish behaviour, then you are showing irresponsibility, disregard for people's property, rudeness and disrespect.

About you calling child services, that is something you should take very seriously. A mother who disciplines their children in public is something we need more of, so hurray for your mom. The name calling is the least of your worries, you owe your mother a huge thank you for doing the right thing by paying for the cleaning. How many hours did she have to work for that $45? 3 hours? 4 hours? 5 hours?

wut about her lies saying i need pampers and other stuff also

[SilverSabre25]

Bottom line, NO you cannot report your mother for saying those things. They were perhaps harsh...but your behavior was very childish and well below your years. They weren't abusive, dear, they were angry.

Speaking also as a parent, while she probably shouldn't have said those things, most parents THINK those things sometimes, and our filters do, on occasion, fail. Usually, under duress. Which she clearly was. Your mother was probably
1) embarrassed for your behavior. You're 15. Not 3.
2) angry (rightly so!) at having to pay $45 for someone's clothing.
3) embarrass for herself because she was being judged as a parent by your behavior.
4) possibly (I don't know your family's financial situation) stressed out about having to spend $45 unexpectedly. I know that in my family right now, if we had to pay $45 for anything, we would be in big trouble. We currently have $6 to get us through to Friday. We have no credit cards, we have no savings, no cash. $6 in the bank account. That's IT.

So. She said what she did about you and your brother being babies and needing diapers and pacifiers and rattles because she was angry. You probably say mean things to her when you get angry. I'm certain you say mean things to your brother when you get angry. It happens.

As for your punishment, I'm sorry honey but it is her right as your parent to punish you. She wants to see you learn proper behavior, which tonight you most certainly did NOT display. Grounding you is legal. Taking away your X-Box is legal. Driving is a privilege, NOT a right. It doesn't matter who started it; since he started it you had the power to ignore it or to react in a more mature fashion.

If you want her to relent, unground you sooner, and perhaps let you take driver's ed, the first thing you need to do is take your punishment like a grown-up. You screwed up, now you take the punishment. Second, think about writing her--HAND writing!-- a letter, apologizing for your behavior and admitting wrongdoing. Be very polite. Use your best handwriting, proper spelling, all that. Like you're writing a paper for school, but better. In the letter, propose a time limit on the grounding and offer to do housework to earn the $45 that she had to spend as a result of your behavior. Then, if you can, give her the note along with a bar of chocolate or her favorite candy. Tell her you love her and that you're sorry--and mean it!

Be very contrite. Take your punishment like an adult. You might be surprised at what being mature can win you. Especially if your brother is taking his punishment worse.

[Michael]

no i never watch it..can i ask you this? is it mom thing what shes doing? with her comments

Well, it sounds somewhat normal in some of the households of my daughter's friends. My daughter has a friend that is also in her webisode and the family is having a lot of $$$ problems. It really made their household toxic. It seems like the mother was overwhelmed with everything and her kids were not helping her out. The parents ending up getting a divorce which was very hard for the younger girls. Sometimes just a little help around the house or even just asking if there is something you could do to help makes ALL the difference. It feels like one person is not carrying the whole load.

I hope you can work things out. I am glad you came here to tell us your story. I upgraded your status here so you can post freely. I trust that you will be responsible with your new membership.

I have to sit down for supper.

[Willow]

I realize you probably don't understand this now, but your mother wasn't the one that did anything wrong here.





Do you think the way you behaved was acceptable?

What do you think would have been an appropriate consequence for the way you acted out in public?

[logan]

my mom goes to school and works at a diner..she has money.lastweek she bought like 100 bucks worth of art supplies for my sister for school. i was there at wallmart with her when she got them.

[logan]

I realize you probably don't understand this now, but your mother wasn't the one that did anything wrong here.





Do you think the way you behaved was acceptable?

What do you think would have been an appropriate consequence for the way you acted out in public?

if she called me a jerk or an ass i wouldnt care that much. but she stood there and ask me and my bro if we needed our pampers change in front of people.

[Willow]

wut about her lies saying i need pampers and other stuff also

I'm not sure why you believe her saying that is any worse than you calling her the *b* word.....

Although it's incredibly disgusting language she couldn't report you for that either.

[Willow]

if she called me a jerk or an ass i wouldnt care that much. but she stood there and ask me and my bro if we needed our pampers change in front of people.

Tough!

That's life. Sometimes people are going to say things you don't like. Your mother is no exception.

In my opinion she's your mother and she's entitled to her opinion about how you behaved. I personally would have said much MUCH worse......

If that's seriously the worst she's ever said to you the woman is a saint and you ought to be counting your lucky stars......

[Michael]

I realize you probably don't understand this now, but your mother wasn't the one that did anything wrong here.

I don't agree with this. Verbal abuse is not good. Logan started her initial post with "ok here it is. first my mom never hits me. "

But she verbally hits her. I think the mother needs to learn better tools to navigate with her children. It goes both ways. I hope someone in the family takes a different approach. I still have not heard if there is a father in the mix.

[jen]

Logan, I say this with a mother's heart. You are sounding really immature right now. You were in the wrong, being a man means owning up to your mistakes. Time to grow up kiddo. At 15, I would suggest you start earning that money back however you can.

As for reporting your mother...

Have you considerd life in foster care? Not so great, I imagine.

[logan]

Tough!

That's life. Sometimes people are going to say things you don't like. Your mother is no exception.

In my opinion she's your mother and she's entitled to her opinion about how you behaved. I personally would have said much MUCH worse......

If that's seriously the worst she's ever said to you the woman is a saint and you ought to be counting your lucky stars......

how am i luck miss willow. like i said she stood there in front of people asking us if we needed out pampers change in front of people. isnt that like calling a black person the n word or something isnt it the same thing. i dont understand

[logan]

Logan, I say this with a mother's heart. You are sounding really immature right now. You were in the wrong, being a man means owning up to your mistakes. Time to grow up kiddo. At 15, I would suggest you start earning that money back however you can.

As for reporting your mother...

Have you considerd life in foster care?

they would take her way not me

[Willow]

my mom goes to school and works at a diner..she has money.lastweek she bought like 100 bucks worth of art supplies for my sister for school. i was there at wallmart with her when she got them.

You mention she's in school and works at a diner.

And that you have a brother and sister, but don't mention a father figure.


I'm betting she had to save for quite some time to be able to buy those art supplies. Just because you see her with money doesn't mean she has an unlimited supply or that it's been easy to come by.....just something to consider.

[MaritimeMummy]

LOL. Guys, you've been had.

This is a very regular troll post. All over the internet. Posted by various people but the post is always the same and the anonymous poster is always referred to as "Ketchup Ed".

Bottom line: did not happen. You've all been had. Google Ketchup Ed and you'll see. ::