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What mother doesn't *need* a vacation? I am trying really hard not to be judgmental but a 10 week old baby needs to be with mom for so many reasons. Leaving your older child for a little while with a trusted adult is fine, but a 10 week old baby....really?
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I always wonder why moms need breaks so much. When I was little moms stayed home with their children day in day out. Non of our parents went on vacations by themselves or just the mom with a group of girlfriends. Kids weren't always left with babysitters either.
I actually only had a babysitter 2 times in my life. I did stay with friends and relatives over night twice to so about 4 times.
I was also one that didn't leave my kids with people and didn't feel the need to get away from them for a break. Even with the job I do.:
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I personally I think she has a few screws missing.
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ok, I think all those who are saying not to be judgemental should think about this, its not the vacation part I think is the main issue, its the fact that she went to ANOTHER country (mexico) and was GONE for a WEEK. What would have happened if there was an accident, how would she get home. And I grew up with a mom who didn't do vacations either, and I have to agree with "why do all these moms need a vacation" I would love a vaca from my kids (any takers on 4 kids, they are older but they like to bicker with each other oh and you need to drive them to all their activities) maybe I'm old fashion????Comment
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sorry, but life does not end when you have kids...I travel the world. some times with my kids and some time without.
I have always left my children with family, so if there was an emergency, I would be leaving them to care for my child and make a decision. An accident or emergency can occur at any time. My best friend died in a car accident on the way to pick up her son....... she was 19 minutes away..
I live for my children and give them all the time in the world, but I need me time and I take it when I need it.
When my grandpa died I up and flew to Egypt and stayed for 9 days. My son was 4 weeks at the time. And he's just fine.....Comment
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OH MAN, that Pooor baby, what did it do without its mommy for a week..well it still got fed, changed, and loved. pretty sure there will be no emotional trauma on a 10 week old...no I personally wouldn't ever do it, I couldn't, just as I could not continue working, I had to quit my job, but I know many mothers that could, and they are all GREAT moms, its amazing the judgement that is passed, she is not harming her baby. I have a 4 night 5 day vacation with my hubby next week, I am so excited, I will miss my kids right away, but I am very much looking forward to not being needed for a few days, sleep when want, do whatever I want with my husband whenever I want, And I think it is great for my kids to spend some time with grandma and grandpa, and uncles and aunties, for a while, they really know that ALOT of people love and care for them, and they get a lot of extra spoiling for a few days, which creates great memories for them, I remember sleep overs at grandmas house were my favorite when I was little, and I always got a bowl of ice cream after dinner with grandma, I will never forget.Comment
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Being a mother doesn't mean being physically tied to your children 24/7.
I took my sisters second child at 5 weeks old and kept him for 10 days. She lives 4 hours from me.
She is ANYTHING but a bad mom. She just really needed the break....and I highly doubt her DS even remembers that she was gone those 10 days.
Oh and she left him again for two whole weeks with our mom while she took her oldest to Disney Land. He was about 10 months at the time.
I am sure she left him several other times for extended periods in his life but so far he doesn't show one iota of emotional scarring or any type of issues relating to being left by his mother all those time.
He is 11 now and they are really close. He is a great kid.Comment
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I wonder if this article has increased traffic to her blog at all? Idk, but it seems to me like she's fishing for a controversy, increased exposure and increased blog traffic. Mission accomplished
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Hubby and I get "break nights" each week when we go out separately (or together) for a few hours. When my babies were little, I would go out for two hours in between nursing. I totally understand needing a break.
However, I've been reading alot about adoption issues and attachment disorders. One of my adoption books mentioned that a disruption in care by the primary caregiver, even if it's very early in life, and even if the primary caregiver resumes care, could cause serious attachment issues later in life. IMO, 10 weeks is still too early in the bonding process to mess with things.
I'm too far from perfect to try to tell someone else how to parent, but if someone were asking for my opinion (
), I'd say this blogger mom is putting her blogging career ahead of her child's needs. I think she did it primarily for the shock value and for the controversy. JMHO, of course.
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Sadly, I think you are probably spot on about this mom wanting the attention.I wonder if this article has increased traffic to her blog at all? Idk, but it seems to me like she's fishing for a controversy, increased exposure and increased blog traffic. Mission accomplished.
I'm too far from perfect to try to tell someone else how to parent, but if someone were asking for my opinion ( ), I'd say this blogger mom is putting her blogging career ahead of her child's needs. I think she did it primarily for the shock value and for the controversy. JMHO, of course.
Apparently 15 minutes of fame is no longer enough in today's world
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thats exactly what I was saying....this women got the attention that she wanted by making this non-issue an issue. People do it every day, it's just how she went about it. She knew what she was doing and she was smart to gain the exposure, had it be negative or positive......Comment
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