Tweet
Interesting segment on Good Morning America. Here's an article that has the video embedded. What do you guys think about this???
-
-
i this too, and alot of those comments where the same one that I was thinking too. Esp. the one that said if she needed a break at 10 weeks what are you going to do when they are older. Oh, what made me mad was the excuse the mom gave, "we are pregnant for 9 months so our bodies suffer so we need a vacation" ya whatever! And going to work is totally different. -
Well, I only have one child right now and I know when she was a newborn I couldn't even think of leaving her alone for a night. It wasn't until our daughter was 41/2 months old that my hubby and I finally took a vacation to Mexico and left our daughter with my parents. At that point i thought the break would be nice but still stressed over leaving our daughter. I made list upon list ensuring my mom knew everything I thought she needed to (and probably much more!
). We went on vacation and thought of our daughter all the time but still had a blast. It wasn't until day 5 or 6(out of 7) that I was starting to get super anxious and when we got home I was so glad to have her back in my arms!!
Now, hoping to have another child in the future I'm not sure I would be as anxious and stressed to leave them, especially with someone I completely trusted.
I can't really judge as I'm not in this woman's shoes but my opinion is if her baby is with someone they trust, and is well taken care of...why can't mom go on a little vacation? After all, don't all great mom's need a little time away sometimes to refresh themselves?
I don't fault this woman at all from what I've read. To each their own and if that's what they felt was right for their family, then so be it. Then again, I try not to judge, especially since I don't walk in their shoes...but that's just me.Comment
-
personally I wouldn't do it - but I will not judge someone else. You don't know what someone elses limits are and if there was any PPD in there, etc. that made going away for a week the best solution for their family.
people thought I was crazy for taking my 4 month old son with us to Disney - I thought they were crazy for thinking I would leave him behind. To each their own.Comment
-
I feel there are different perceptions to this issue and we all have our "opinions".
After seven years of thinking my husband and I could never have children, we all at once had two sons within twenty-four months when I was 35 and 37. Therefore, unlike the mother in the article, I enjoyed the WHOLE nine months both times. THANKFUL is how I felt to have two healthy sons. Sometimes I do feel those months are "mind over matter". I refused to let myself become depressed over the sickness. I wanted a baby wayyyy tooo long!happyface
I do, occasionally, leave my children to enjoy the evening out or attend child care event/conferences but I do not feel I will "fall apart" if I don't get away. My children are my life. They will be grown soon enough and I want to make lots of memories just as I did when I was a child. I am blessed with a large-extended family so get-togethers are the norm around here, kids included regardless of age!
Comment
-
different strokes for different folks... I wouldnt judge, to each their own.
I take 6 kids on my own on a field trip and when I am out I see parents completely losing it and they have one or two children. Are they bad parents, NO, they just can only take so much....
I think this mom just feels guilty about it,but she opened this can of worms on herself and got the attention I am sure she was looking for.Comment
-
I nursed both of my boys so a vacation without them at 2 months wasn't going to happen, nor would I have wanted to leave them at that age.
"I think a happy mom makes a happy child and you know your child better than anyone else."
I don't know too many people that can truly know anyone after 2 months, do you?::
I personally feel she brought the criticism upon herself with her online bragging.
“Yes, I’m ditching my baby… I think that, even from his early age, I’m teaching him a sense of independence.”
Whatever
Comment
-
I watched the video. I know there are all types of parents out there and I do agree with the part that IF you were working (ie HAD TO GO BACK TO WORK) at 6 weeks or whatever you would be away from your child for extended periods of time but this was a choice. To each their own.
My son is 3. He has slept at grandmas (30 min away) about 2x a year since he was about 10 months old. I am always very purposeful about this experience. He usually leaves around 5 or 6 pm after a full day of family time with myself and my husband. He goes with my mom to her house, sleeps over and dad or myself will pick him up around 10 am. He also goes to her house for day trips so she can have time with him but we limit the extended periods away. My dd has slept at grandmas 2 times, both so my husband and I could work or volunteer on a weekend day. The first one was miserable since we didnt know about any of her medical needs yet and the second was was better but still a lot of stress. I agree with the person in the piece who said it wouldnt be relaxing leaving their kids for that long.
We have never left our kids for a vacation away. I feel like being a parent is my primary job and soon enough they will be busy with their own things and we can take all the trips we want without so much as them noticing. We have date nights and put our kids to bed at a reasonable time so that most week nights we have 1-3 hous together alone. I feel like that is enough for us and works for our kids too. I did find the part about infant developement and trust an interesting aspect. Since we will never know if this vacation really affected the infants trust cycle that will be left to opinion I guess.Comment
-
Did I write this??? Why as Americans do we feel we have to teach a baby independence? They would die without someone taking care of them, they can't walk to get to a food source.I nursed both of my boys so a vacation without them at 2 months wasn't going to happen, nor would I have wanted to leave them at that age.
"I think a happy mom makes a happy child and you know your child better than anyone else."
I don't know too many people that can truly know anyone after 2 months, do you?::
I personally feel she brought the criticism upon herself with her online bragging.
“Yes, I’m ditching my baby… I think that, even from his early age, I’m teaching him a sense of independence.”
Whatever
MnMum married to DH 9 years
Mum to Girl 21, Girl 18, Boy 14.5, Boy 11Comment
-
I wouldn't have done it, but I'm not going to pass judgment on anyone who would. There's enough guilt that goes along with motherhood as it is, who am I to add to it?Comment
-
Looking at it from the baby's perspective, I don't think it would be harmful to the baby. You've bonded already for 2 1/2 months, so I don't think there would be any harm done. I just think it would be difficult emotionally for the mom. I don't see her as being selfish or a bad mom in any way, but I think a new mom would miss the touch and smell of her baby. But in the big picture, I really don't think there's anything wrong with this. Just my opinion.Comment
-
I'm bothered by the way she presented it she says that she's "ditching" the baby and that she "needed" a vacation just by those statements she sounds like a selfish person. If she didn't want us to judge her then she shouldn't have announced it to the world what she was doing. I now "dump and run" but my children are way olderComment
-
What I have a problem with this case in particular is she is rationalizing too much. In the "me thinks thou dost protest too much" sense. If she just said she was overwhelmed and needed a little break, I doubt any mom would be judgemental of her. But this whole "9 months is a long time to have a baby inside you" and "teaching the baby independence" crap is ridiculous. If you need a break, take a break and be done with it. She made childcare arrangements with her future MIL and had a nanny. No neglect, just an overwhelmed mommy. Nothin' wrong with that in my mind. I had to laugh at the point about not leaving the older child until she was 3 months old. Ummm isn't that only 2 weeks older? So she had done it before. Its something she needs, apparently.
Personally, I left my children overnight for the first time just last year. My kids were 8, 4, and 2 yo. The oldest had the hardest time with it,. It was only because we had to see Michael Buble in concert. DH and I just haven't felt the need to leave them for that long of a time before that nor since. We may do so in the future, who knows? Well, when Michael comes back to town.....heeeheeeheee
Crazy8, I took my son to Disneyland at 6 weeks old! I was still on medical maternity leave when we went. It's a small world ride was perfect for sitting down and nursing. ::
Comment
-
ha, I took ydd on the niagra falls maid of the mist at the age of 2 weeks. FIL paid so thats why we went. We laugh so much about this, and when I was pregnant with her, we went to florida, we joke about how she went but didn't see anything!
Comment
-
I think a lot of the reactions to this story have been too judgmental (not here because most people here just tend to disagree, not condemn, but anytime I have seen this story brought up). One suggested that she wasn't ready for motherhood if she needed a break.
Let's put this is perspective, as far as we know she is an amazing mother, and her baby is happy, healthy, and taken care of. Would I leave my child at 10 weeks? No. But that doesn't make me a better Mom. No.
We don't have to agree with people's choices, but we do have to respect their right to make them.
And this type of article is usually written in a tongue-in-cheek, funny sort of way. I doubt she actually thinks her small baby will learn independence from this..
Comment
Comment