First Time Mom Thinks She Knows Everything

[laundrymom]

I remember growing up, and we went to Idaho on vac. which is probably 2-3 day trip for us. We had 5 siblings. My Mom and Dad had a car, and my little brother just fit in the back window. This is where he rode alot of it!! !!! Can you imagine? I can't even believe it! Ha!! THis was also 38-40 yrs. ago!! HA!!!

Back when cars were made of steel and had huge front and rear ends. In this society of compact hybrids even with the best safety belts and air bags, give me a 79 caprice anyday Lol

[Live and Learn]

Im the one who posted this to begin with. The little boy is 1 now and yes Mom is still a know it all LOL I either set her straight now a days or say nothing at all. I agreed to cloth diaper with her Son and honestly its no biggie its all in one cloth diapers I just change him like a regular diaper but put the diaper in a zip up bag. He is also rear facing for now I dont know if I will keep it up till he is 2 but I will try. She is a good daycare parent besides she knows it all but like I said I just try and let it roll off my back ot set her straight. She also turned out to not mind him eating non organic food so he eats what I cook the other think she brings is organic milk because I cant afford it.

Funny how things work out sometimes.

[Blackcat31]

every time i see carseat controversy, i always think about how my siblings and i rode in the bed of my dad's pick-up truck - and NOBODY cared! just sayin'

Rode from MN to Wyoming in back of pick up with a topper with my two younger brothers (age 1 & 2 at the time, I was 4) Only remember having a blast on the big air mattress my parents put back there!! Waaay better than watching a Spongebob video while riding in a car!

I remember growing up, and we went to Idaho on vac. which is probably 2-3 day trip for us. We had 5 siblings. My Mom and Dad had a car, and my little brother just fit in the back window. This is where he rode alot of it!! !!! Can you imagine? I can't even believe it! Ha!! THis was also 38-40 yrs. ago!! HA!!!

I also had 5 siblings and we always rode in back window or snuggled up on the footwell with our pillows like a nest....so comfy!

Back when cars were made of steel and had huge front and rear ends. In this society of compact hybrids even with the best safety belts and air bags, give me a 79 caprice anyday Lol

Back when there were no cell phones to distract drivers....... I think we had a '79 Caprice! LOL!! ::

[SandeeAR]

My folks built a platform with supports to the floor to make the back seat into a level bed for my brother and I to sit and nap on for long trips!

I also remember cliimbing in the back window to ride!

At 51, I was raised long before seat belting was enforced.

I also was thrown across the car head first in the front seat, at the age of 10. My head hit the steering column and I've had neck and back problems the rest of my life.

I'm VERY in favor of car seat!

[MMk9987]

Well I know in the state of Florida you have to be rear facing till you are two years old and you have to be in a carseat til you are 10 years old and 80lbs. all i have to say is how do they expect a 2 year old to face backwards I mean their poor feet will be scrunched up. I am going to keep my son Backwards facing as long as I can. he is only 11 months old and weights 24lbs

[jen]

Well I know in the state of Florida you have to be rear facing till you are two years old and you have to be in a carseat til you are 10 years old and 80lbs. all i have to say is how do they expect a 2 year old to face backwards I mean their poor feet will be scrunched up. I am going to keep my son Backwards facing as long as I can. he is only 11 months old and weights 24lbs

It is very easy to keep them rear facing...scoot up and watch a few of the videos listed.

[Danielle]

Well I know in the state of Florida you have to be rear facing till you are two years old and you have to be in a carseat til you are 10 years old and 80lbs. all i have to say is how do they expect a 2 year old to face backwards I mean their poor feet will be scrunched up. I am going to keep my son Backwards facing as long as I can. he is only 11 months old and weights 24lbs

Those laws are awesome! They cross them, hang them over the side, prop them up...they find a comfortable way. Much better than a possible internal decapitation...

Here's a bunch of pictures of older kids rear facing. I'm sure my son will turn 4 before I turn him forward facing.

http://www.google.com/images?hl=en&biw=1024&bih=446&gbv=2&tbs=isch%3A1&sa=1&q=extended+rear+facing+carseats&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=

[Symphony]

Well, I guess I am a "know-it-all" mom too. I babywear, extended breastfeed, cloth diaper, teething necklaces, and all four (soon to be five) of my kids are in carseats. My five year old turned forward facing at 4, and he stills complains about how uncomfortable his legs are and that they always fall asleep. Scandinavian countries skip the booster stage all together. They rear face until 6 or 7 and have the lowest vehicle fatalities in the world.

To the OP I would say that just because a mother has different views than you doesn't make her arrogant. She probably has put hours of research into her parenting. It just amazes me sometimes how if someone has different beliefs in parenting, they obviously are first timers and have no clue. Well, I must be really dense to have not grown out of these behaviors five kids later!

[Jewels]

I just turned my daughter forward facing, and shes almost 2......that is definatly not a know it all thing.....I hate the disrespect towards first time parents...........When I had my son in daycare, the provider once said to me "I know your a first time mom" and that started a bad relationship between us, keeping a child rear facing past 1 year of age does not matter to the child, they know no different. You might think the parent is a know it all first timer, and I bet they think your a know it all provider.....thinking to herself that her provider always treats her likes shes a stupid mother, and the provider thinks shes so much smarter.

[dEHmom]

As a child, i don't think I was ever in a booster. My car seat as an infant would never have met safety standards today.
It really irritates me when people, especially a little bit of older generations (no disrespect it's just a point I'm making) like my mother, and grandmother, state "well when you were kids _______________" or "when we were kids we never had any of this__________________________".
Fact is people, there are reasons the standards and regulations of safety keep changing. They do research and figure out ways to make everyone safer. And when it comes to children, they can't protect themselves. That's why we are parents, to protect them and make sure they are safe.
It's not up for debate, if they say a child should be rear facing until a certain age/weight/height, THEN END OF STORY! They will make a carseat that is suitable so their legs won't be scrunched up. They will make it work. There's no reason to debate it, you might not like it, but **** it up, your child's life is at risk. Accidents are accidents because no one meant for them to happen! Better safe than sorry.

[Danielle]

Well, I guess I am a "know-it-all" mom too. I babywear, extended breastfeed, cloth diaper, teething necklaces, and all four (soon to be five) of my kids are in carseats. My five year old turned forward facing at 4, and he stills complains about how uncomfortable his legs are and that they always fall asleep. Scandinavian countries skip the booster stage all together. They rear face until 6 or 7 and have the lowest vehicle fatalities in the world.

To the OP I would say that just because a mother has different views than you doesn't make her arrogant. She probably has put hours of research into her parenting. It just amazes me sometimes how if someone has different beliefs in parenting, they obviously are first timers and have no clue. Well, I must be really dense to have not grown out of these behaviors five kids later!

Just got to say..I heart you!! You sound so much like me. I could have wrote that second sentence except it would be 2 (hopefully 3 soon) kids.