Did Daycare kill your love life?

[SilverSabre25]

First off, OP, I'm sorry you're feeling this way but it's good to get some advice from other people. Hopefully we can help.

Second off, this thread is cracking me up! Heidi, laundrymom in particular. *snicker*

Thirdly, I know how ya feel but I *do* have kids of my own. I've come to terms with a few things in my life and my marriage.
1. DH wants it--a lot.
2. I just naturally don't need it as much.
3. This is okay.
4. Sometimes, in this case, I just let him get what he wants, nothing fancy, and if I don't want, ahem, reciprocation, then its' okay <---this has been harder for DH, not for me.
5. Sometimes, by letting him just get it, I get in the mood and reciprocation is welcome.
6. Creativity.
7. Sometimes it's okay to say, "oh will you just take care of it yourself..." and whip your shirt off and start to go to sleep.

[AnneCordelia]

I've been married ten years now with four children of our own. We have had good sexy times and times of less loving. I know that for us, our love life is best when we both make time to exercise, make time to eat a meal together daily, and make a point to keep our household and financial clutter to a minimum. We are less stressed and more likely to want extracurriculars. Lol.
Personally I feel my best in a proper top and tailored jeans/pants. I try to do a little makeup and my hair daily. I feel good about myself this way, and dh is more apt to noticing my butt in cute jeans rather than sweat pants. ;-)

[laundrymom]

Its only been 3 yrs.

Takes a while to build up resistance to their germs. I wish you the best of luck.

Well laundry I used to be part rabbit. I look back and it was great to look hot walking into the office (no slutty) even though toward the end the job bored me and I hated it.

He would be happy for me to quit completely but I need a bit of money for my own. I think even though I shut off when the leave the issue is with no having enough time in between to truly recharge. Even though I like it I think the kids are draining every last bit of energy out of me. I get sick all the time even when they are healthy.

****s to finally find something you love and feel there is a purpose to what you are doing but it drains you and have negative repercussions.

[itlw8]

men are microwave ovens and women are crock pots.

As we age it gets worse. there is a solution... foreplay is not just what you do in bed before, it is what happens during the day before. Romance.

Does he help with the chores. Does he give back rubs without expecting you to get all hot and bothered?

And for you.... trashy romance novels.

[AnneCordelia]

And for you.... trashy romance novels.

Yes! Love em. Lol.

[laundrymom]

men are microwave ovens and women are crock pots.

As we age it gets worse. there is a solution... foreplay is not just what you do in bed before, it is what happens during the day before. Romance.

Does he help with the chores. Does he give back rubs without expecting you to get all hot and bothered?

And for you.... trashy romance novels.

Lol.. like reading!!!!!! (And writing!!!!) Rofl.

[love111]

I am enjoying this thread. Many good words of advice.

[Heidi]

I wish I could climb through this keyboard and grab your shoulders. Shaking you saying. Hey ding dong!!!! You have no kids at home!!! Have HIM wash you!!!! Nekkid house after hours! Period!!!

Laundry-you are crazy woman!

So, I am picturing "laundrymom" as some lady wearing fussy slippers, curlers, and one of those "housecoats".

Like this:

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/cluckva/cluckva1101/cluckva110100011/8567642-housewife-in-hair-curlers-beside-with-a-washing-machine-and-pure-the-washed-clothes.jpg

and then you go and talk all naughty! ::

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/mindof/mindof1107/mindof110700033/9878738-housewife-smoking-a-cigar-after-hanging-clothes-to-dry-on-clotheslines-she.jpg

Is she leaning on a trampoline??????? ::::::

[My3cents]

Well laundry I used to be part rabbit. I look back and it was great to look hot walking into the office (no slutty) even though toward the end the job bored me and I hated it.

He would be happy for me to quit completely but I need a bit of money for my own. I think even though I shut off when the leave the issue is with no having enough time in between to truly recharge. Even though I like it I think the kids are draining every last bit of energy out of me. I get sick all the time even when they are healthy.

****s to finally find something you love and feel there is a purpose to what you are doing but it drains you and have negative repercussions.

simple fix, hire some help.

Don't give it up if you love it. Being in a relationship with someone should not take away your personal self. Sounds like he is doing all the asking but you don't tell him what your needs are too? Guessing.

[laundrymom]

Rofl!!!!!!

Think. Gosh.
Long reddish brown curls, no bangs, cargo shorts, tank or tshirt, and keen sandles or fivefinger shoes sitting in a hammock with my laptop, sweet tea, and fluffy black dog. Think a fluffy treehugging Lora croft. Rofl by fluffy I mean size 10. Lol. I wont say overweight. Lol. Oh and I have a tattoo on my foot. .

Laundry-you are crazy woman!

So, I am picturing "laundrymom" as some lady wearing fussy slippers, curlers, and one of those "housecoats".

Like this:

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/cluckva/cluckva1101/cluckva110100011/8567642-housewife-in-hair-curlers-beside-with-a-washing-machine-and-pure-the-washed-clothes.jpg

and then you go and talk all naughty! ::

http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/mindof/mindof1107/mindof110700033/9878738-housewife-smoking-a-cigar-after-hanging-clothes-to-dry-on-clotheslines-she.jpg

Is she leaning on a trampoline??????? ::::::

[laundrymom]

OP - got sidetracked. Sorry.
talk to your hottie.
tell him how you feel. If you love him, AND working....... you will figure it out.

(In the meantime......... well. I will hush. Lool.) happyfacehappyfacelovethislovethislovethislovethislovethishappyface and when you're done happyfacehappyfacelovethishappyfacehappyface then finish with an eye catching dismount. Go for the gold baby!!!!!! More than once.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Nominating Laundry mom as "Comedian of the Day". Rofl! ::

[Heidi]

Nominating Laundry mom as "Comedian of the Day". Rofl! ::

I second that motion...all in favor, say "aye"

[laundrymom]

men are microwave ovens and women are crock pots.

As we age it gets worse. there is a solution... foreplay is not just what you do in bed before, it is what happens during the day before. Romance.

Does he help with the chores. Does he give back rubs without expecting you to get all hot and bothered?

And for you.... trashy romance novels.

Crock pots???? I'm thinking steam baskets!!! @@

[laundrymom]

I second that motion...all in favor, say "aye"

Whoo hoo!!! Thanks ladies!!!! I'm honored!!! Rofl