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I guess this is the reason why I am hard on my daughter. Everybody thinks that I'm harsh with her (she's 5) but I see kids nowadays and am just amazed at how they treat their peers, their belongings and their superiors. I would never dream of ever talking back to my parents when I was growing up. I feared the consequences. Why? Because my parents were serious about it and consistent and never cut us any slack. We knew the rules and knew not to disobey them. We had to work hard for everything. We knew that if we were good we would get trips, sleepovers, rewards and love. My parents let us suffer from our consequences even if it hurt them or broke their hearts. When my mom told me not jump off of furniture and I did it anyway and I hurt myself she didn't rush over and coddle me. All I got was "Well, you shouldn't of been jumping on the couch" or "What have i told you? I don't want to hear it". When I disobeyed she punished. She gave long speaches, took belongings, she grounded, took away priveledges and sometimes spanked. Then my dad came home and I would get it all over again. They'd let me suffer the consequence and then later came to me and reminded me with all the love of a Parent's heart that the rules are in place to keep us safe. I knew growing up that if ever did anything stupid that landed me in jail that I would not be calling them for help. I knew that they'd leave me in there to take my punishment. It's not until later that I realized that all my mother wanted to do was scoop me up and hold me and make my hurts go away, but in the end she knew that showing me boundaries and consequences was a better way of loving me. That by showing me how the real world works and guiding me to be a self-sufficient, contributing adult was the best way for her to be a mother.
Kids don't get that now. Most kids talk back, throw tantrums, destroy their belongings, are inconsiderate and disrespectful. I don't tolerate it. My 9 year old niece hates me. With a passion. Why? Because I always have all of the cool toys and fun games and delicious treats and all of the other kids get to play with them and get gifts but not her. Why? Because she's a little $H!t. She's outright mean to everyone and listens to no one. I have rules in my house that she doesn't follow and my fiance and I check her each time until she doesn't know what to do with herself. And who's fault is that? My cousins. Because they doted on her since birth and made her believe that she was a little princess. She has actually come over to my house and told me that she didn't have to listen to me because she was the princess. My response? "Oh yeah? Well here's a reality check honey. This is my castle and I'm the queen here so if you don't like it get back into your pumpkin and go back to your kingdom because I reign here." Mean? maybe. But Myself and my fiance are the only people she doesn't talk back to now. She avoids us like the plague but when we are near her she says please and thank you whether we are in our house or at hers. Parents just need to put their foot down and say enough is enough.
Kids don't get that now. Most kids talk back, throw tantrums, destroy their belongings, are inconsiderate and disrespectful. I don't tolerate it. My 9 year old niece hates me. With a passion. Why? Because I always have all of the cool toys and fun games and delicious treats and all of the other kids get to play with them and get gifts but not her. Why? Because she's a little $H!t. She's outright mean to everyone and listens to no one. I have rules in my house that she doesn't follow and my fiance and I check her each time until she doesn't know what to do with herself. And who's fault is that? My cousins. Because they doted on her since birth and made her believe that she was a little princess. She has actually come over to my house and told me that she didn't have to listen to me because she was the princess. My response? "Oh yeah? Well here's a reality check honey. This is my castle and I'm the queen here so if you don't like it get back into your pumpkin and go back to your kingdom because I reign here." Mean? maybe. But Myself and my fiance are the only people she doesn't talk back to now. She avoids us like the plague but when we are near her she says please and thank you whether we are in our house or at hers. Parents just need to put their foot down and say enough is enough.
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