Ok I Really Can't Take it Anymore

**littlemissmuffet** · 06-03-2012, 07:55 PM

Oh no. I sometimes think I am not cut out to be in childcare because I can't handle constant screaming....... but then I remember that constant screaming isn't normal and shouldn't be happening in the first place.

I feel for you. I couldn't do it. I can deal with crying but screaming and squeeling for long periods of time drives me (and my other DCKs) crazy! I have sent kids home for screaming all morning. Thankfully I haven't had a kid who does it everyday - if I did, I would have to term.

You said you might not be able to wait until July, can you just keep advertising and interviewing in the meantime?

**Breezy** · 06-03-2012, 08:22 PM

Originally posted by littlemissmuffet

Oh no. I sometimes think I am not cut out to be in childcare because I can't handle constant screaming....... but then I remember that constant screaming isn't normal and shouldn't be happening in the first place.

I feel for you. I couldn't do it. I can deal with crying but screaming and squeeling for long periods of time drives me (and my other DCKs) crazy! I have sent kids home for screaming all morning. Thankfully I haven't had a kid who does it everyday - if I did, I would have to term.

You said you might not be able to wait until July, can you just keep advertising and interviewing in the meantime?

I had someobe really interested in a toddler spot but wanted 1045-830pm Mon thru Fri. As tempting as that sounds to term this screamer, I cant do those hours.

She is still not asleep. I got up and tried to feed her and she wouldnt eat more than a few bites and an ounce of formula. So back down she went. She will be quiet for a bit and then full on screaming. Mom should be here in 30 mins and Id like to sit down with her and let her know where I am at with her daughter but I just need her gone so i can regroup for an hour before bed and before i do it all over again tomorrow and Tuesday.

**pootmcgoot** · 06-03-2012, 08:27 PM

How old is she?

My dcb is a screamer. He wants to be held. If I don't hOld him when he wants he amps up with the blood curdling scream. And then Even holding hardly calms him. I can't do the constant screaming either. Or whining. Good luck! I feel awful for you!

**Breezy** · 06-03-2012, 08:31 PM

Originally posted by pootmcgoot

How old is she?

My dcb is a screamer. He wants to be held. If I don't hOld him when he wants he amps up with the blood curdling scream. And then Even holding hardly calms him. I can't do the constant screaming either. Or whining. Good luck! I feel awful for you!

She is almost 12 months old. Born 3 months early so she is the size of a 6 month old if not a little smalller.

**momofsix** · 06-03-2012, 08:35 PM

Is mom sure there's nothing wrong with her? (ears/tummy etc. ???)

Sorry you have to deal with that, it's tough to listen to.

**EntropyControlSpecialist** · 06-03-2012, 08:36 PM

I can't handle constant screaming either. I'd wear that baby in an Ergo on my back.

**Breezy** · 06-03-2012, 08:56 PM

Shes sure. Shes been like this for weeks. Months even. She wakes up at 1-2 am in the morning for the day and mom les her get up and play. She doesnt nap barely ever during the day. Shes exhausted. She doesnt eat much, so she is hungry.

Wish I could wear her but she hates it and its way too hot here. She wants to be held on my hip or sitting on my lap at all times. Even if I stop making eye contact with her she freaks. Mom is supposed to be here in 3 minutes. I hope she is in and out because the season finale of our favorite show is on in 3 minutes as well.

Then bed time so I can do this all over tomorrow but adding my new toddler. My screamer will be thrilled I have to split my attention 3 ways starting tomorrow!

**MN Mom** · 06-04-2012, 03:18 AM

Mom really needs to work on the sleep issue. Sleep = Growth. It doesn't matter how much she gets fed during the day, if she's not sleeping she's not growing properly.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-connection-between-sleep-and-growth_3658990.bc

**SilverSabre25** · 06-04-2012, 04:55 AM

Are you saying that she is only sleeping about 4 hours a day?

Mom needs to try and talk to the doctor to figure this thing out. That baby needs a LOT more sleep. She's probably screaming from exhaustion and over-tiredness. An over-tired body has a hard time sleeping.

Maybe low doses of melatonin would help?

**SilverSabre25** · 06-04-2012, 05:03 AM

Okay, other thought--I would start out trying to stop the screaming any way possible. She is little--too little to be screaming "just for attention". No one, no child, is going to scream the way you're describing for as LONG as you're describing, without an actual physical reason. If she's screaming to be held, hold her. See if she'll tolerate a moby wrap or some other kind of baby carrier. Get that screaming stopped any way you can. Hold her.

You said she was almost 12 months but was born three months early--that means she's about 9 months adjusted. Yet you say she's the size of a six month old. That's concerning to me, although she could just be a small child. How are her milestones?

I would honestly have a very frank sit-down chat with mom and let her know that something. is. wrong. Screaming like that is NOT normal, for any child at any age, but especially a baby. There are a lot of possibilities--dietary allergies, the sleep issues, reflux. Not eating is not normal. Not sleeping is not normal.

Something is wrong with that baby, and the parents need to get it under control ASAP.

**Meyou** · 06-04-2012, 05:06 AM

Originally posted by SilverSabre25

Okay, other thought--I would start out trying to stop the screaming any way possible. She is little--too little to be screaming "just for attention". No one, no child, is going to scream the way you're describing for as LONG as you're describing, without an actual physical reason. If she's screaming to be held, hold her. See if she'll tolerate a moby wrap or some other kind of baby carrier. Get that screaming stopped any way you can. Hold her.

You said she was almost 12 months but was born three months early--that means she's about 9 months adjusted. Yet you say she's the size of a six month old. That's concerning to me, although she could just be a small child. How are her milestones?

I would honestly have a very frank sit-down chat with mom and let her know that something. is. wrong. Screaming like that is NOT normal, for any child at any age, but especially a baby. There are a lot of possibilities--dietary allergies, the sleep issues, reflux. Not eating is not normal. Not sleeping is not normal.

Something is wrong with that baby, and the parents need to get it under control ASAP.

I agree with silver. It really sounds like something is wrong with her.

**EntropyControlSpecialist** · 06-04-2012, 05:12 AM

Originally posted by Breezy

Shes sure. Shes been like this for weeks. Months even. She wakes up at 1-2 am in the morning for the day and mom les her get up and play. She doesnt nap barely ever during the day. Shes exhausted. She doesnt eat much, so she is hungry.

Wish I could wear her but she hates it and its way too hot here. She wants to be held on my hip or sitting on my lap at all times. Even if I stop making eye contact with her she freaks. Mom is supposed to be here in 3 minutes. I hope she is in and out because the season finale of our favorite show is on in 3 minutes as well.

Then bed time so I can do this all over tomorrow but adding my new toddler. My screamer will be thrilled I have to split my attention 3 ways starting tomorrow!

Could you do a hip hammock? I'm just trying to think of sanity savers FOR YOU. (hugs)

That baby needs to be getting 12-15 hours of sleep per day. http://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/sleep-children

**Kaddidle Care** · 06-04-2012, 05:15 AM

God bless you! I couldn't take that at all! This is a child that needs to be home with Mommy, not in group care. The fact that she screams all day and night, doesn't eat well and is undersized indicates that she may have some gastro-intestinal issues.

Not to be gross but how are her BM's? Sometimes that can indicate underlying issues. Are you constantly fighting diaper rash, etc.?

Keep in mind also that anyone contemplating sending their child to your Daycare will be immediately turned off by this child screaming the whole time. Fact of the matter is, she's bad for your business.

**Soccermom** · 06-04-2012, 05:22 AM

I agree that there is something wrong with this little one. It is sad that she cries so much

She is probably in some kind of pain which is preventing her from sleeping and eating. Could be reflux keeping her up or it could be celiac. You spend a lot of time with her so you need so sit down with her parents and discuss the issues. I would be so torn to know my child is screaming all day at daycare but I would want to know in order to be able to find a solution. I feel like it is my responsability to tell the parents when I feel that there may be something wrong with the little ones I care for.
To me it sounds like a tummy issue. Being held is comforting when a child is in pain which is likely why she wants to cuddle all the time. I would suggest that her parents take her to be tested for belly problems. A friend of mine had a preemie who sounds exactly like this little angel. Would never sleep was abnormally small, was in constant agony and cried ALL DAY long. Mom wound up on antidepressants because she felt like such a terrible mother all the time. Finally she took DD off all gluten and within 3 weeks that little treasure was the happy, napping bundle of joy she was meant to be. It took a while to get her into a routine but once she settled in it was smooth sailing from then on

Hope this helps.

Ok I Really Can't Take it Anymore

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