Termed DCB's Parents 30 Minutes Late

[joysjustlikehome]

I would call them and tell them you are closing (which for them you are). That is so very, very rude of them.

[Crystal]

They are likely to arrive late for pick up again tomorrow. If they do not show up on time, I would begin calling their emergency contacts to pick the child up. If none of the emergency backups come to get him, I would call the police.....if the parents do not call you to tell you they are going to be late, if noone is able to pick the child up, then he has been abandoned in your care. If he has ONE diarrhea diaper, I would call them to pick up. If they say ANYTHING out of line, be prepared to defend yourself professionally.....do not let emotion get involved.

Call CPS.

[youretooloud]

An hour after you CLOSE? Or an hour after their contracted time?

If it was an hour after I closed, it would be time to ramp up the passive aggressive behavior.

Say "Wow... I thought I was going to have to call Children's services" Or "I thought you just didn't want him back anymore" Or "What should I do if you forget him again? I was really worried"

Make them feel like crap. It won't fix anything, but it will be fun for you.

When they drop off tomorrow, say "I know you guys forgot about him yesterday, shall I send you a text today to help you remember?" <---smile all patient, like you would at a daft person.

[AmyLeigh]

They are likely to arrive late for pick up again tomorrow. If they do not show up on time, I would begin calling their emergency contacts to pick the child up. If none of the emergency backups come to get him, I would call the police.....if the parents do not call you to tell you they are going to be late, if noone is able to pick the child up, then he has been abandoned in your care. If he has ONE diarrhea diaper, I would call them to pick up. If they say ANYTHING out of line, be prepared to defend yourself professionally.....do not let emotion get involved.

Call CPS.

The only problem I see with calling cps now is it would appear to be out of spite rather than concern. You know, like the families who report their provider to licensing after being termed. It would just throw fuel on this already out of control fire.

[Crystal]

The only problem I see with calling cps now is it would appear to be out of spite rather than concern. You know, like the families who report their provider to licensing after being termed. It would just throw fuel on this already out of control fire.

I know. Frankly, it should have been done a long time ago. But, I wouldn't care. I'd still do it (as I said in two other threads about this same family) If things have been documented, (which they have been, here) I would call and present the info I have and let CPS take it from there.

[SunshineMama]

An hour after you CLOSE? Or an hour after their contracted time?

If it was an hour after I closed, it would be time to ramp up the passive aggressive behavior.

Say "Wow... I thought I was going to have to call Children's services" Or "I thought you just didn't want him back anymore" Or "What should I do if you forget him again? I was really worried"

Make them feel like crap. It won't fix anything, but it will be fun for you.

When they drop off tomorrow, say "I know you guys forgot about him yesterday, shall I send you a text today to help you remember?" <---smile all patient, like you would at a daft person.

Both. They are my first drop off and last pick up, so I was closed and they were contractually late.

[SunshineMama]

I know. Frankly, it should have been done a long time ago. But, I wouldn't care. I'd still do it (as I said in two other threads about this same family) If things have been documented, (which they have been, here) I would call and present the info I have and let CPS take it from there.

They are likely to arrive late for pick up again tomorrow. If they do not show up on time, I would begin calling their emergency contacts to pick the child up. If none of the emergency backups come to get him, I would call the police.....if the parents do not call you to tell you they are going to be late, if noone is able to pick the child up, then he has been abandoned in your care. If he has ONE diarrhea diaper, I would call them to pick up. If they say ANYTHING out of line, be prepared to defend yourself professionally.....do not let emotion get involved.

Call CPS.

I can probably pull my history on this forum of all the times I complained about this kid as evidence.

[WImom]

: I would do it. I don't think it is unprofessional at all.

I would have done it as soon as they brought him back with diarreah.

I would have too! They are treating very poorly right now.

[wdmmom]

I would text or email the family and tell the family that due to them being 1 hour late today, their contracted hours will be reduced by 1 hour tomorrow. Failure to pick up 1 hour early will result in ___ fee.

[Crystal]

The parents breached the contract a LONG time ago. I would have termed them a LONG time ago. You CAN term them NOW and say they cannot come tomorrow......they breached the contract again today when they were an hour late without so much as a phone call to notify the provider...........turn them away at the door, face to face, tomorrow.

Open the door, state the following and also provide them with a letter that states the same thing, only more detailed. Then shut the door and move on

" I regret the way this has turned out. It really is unfortunate. However, due to the continuous breach of contract, with the most recent offense occurring yesterday when you were an hour late picking up your child, I consider the contract broken and effective immediately I will not provide care for (child's name)."

[Crystal]

I can probably pull my history on this forum of all the times I complained about this kid as evidence.

Most definitley.

[SilverSabre25]

Sooo...since I know approximately where you are in our fair city and you know approximately where I am, as well as where they live...what's the chance these morons are gonna come knocking at my door?! I have an ad out right now...

I'm only partly kidding. You're far enough away from me that I don't think I'm in *too* much jeopardy. I hope...?

And I do hope you call CPS. I really do.

[SunshineMama]

Sooo...since I know approximately where you are in our fair city and you know approximately where I am, as well as where they live...what's the chance these morons are gonna come knocking at my door?! I have an ad out right now...

I'm only partly kidding. You're far enough away from me that I don't think I'm in *too* much jeopardy. I hope...?

And I do hope you call CPS. I really do.

Let's just say, don't accept any 16 month old boys whose first name begins with the letter C. They actually live on the border of your neck of the woods so you probably want to keep a look out.

I have been heavily weighing the pros and cons of calling CPS because I think it is a really big deal to make that call, and am leaning toward calling them. I'm going to go back through all of my personal notes and posts and get a solid timeline of events.

On a crappy note, I woke up today and had a headache and was so sore all over that it hurts to move I got up in the middle of the night just to take a hot shower for relief. If this is the beginning of an illness that I got from this kid I am going to be so upset! Today is the last day before my family vacation starts tomorrow, and I only get one week to take this vacay so it's really important to me and my family!

[mac60]

I am a little confused, why should she call CPS because a parent was late. They (CPS) doesn't have enough time to take care of the serious issues let alone a call that a parent is late. Was there other things this mom did to warrant a call?

[SunshineMama]

I am a little confused, why should she call CPS because a parent was late. They (CPS) doesn't have enough time to take care of the serious issues let alone a call that a parent is late. Was there other things this mom did to warrant a call?

Yes.

This child has had diarrhea for 3 weeks in a row and the parents are not taking him to the doctor. Aside from this 3 week episode, he has had 6 other week-long episodes of diarrhea in the past 6 months. Each time, the parents blame it on teething or food, except that other children in my care have gotten ill from this child. (There is a virusy-smell coming from this child and his little body is unable to fight whatever this illness is). The other children were over the illness in a matter of days, and this child cannot get over the illness. I have recommended a doctor's visit, stool samples, allergy testing, etc to help this child find the cause to his illness and the parents are doing nothing about it.

Aside from the diarrhea, this child was also very sick all winter long, with a different cold each week. The parents made the non-chalant comment, "We are pretty much used to him being sick all the time." He got HFM a few weeks ago and spread it all around, and the parents blamed that on teething. I demanded a dr's note before he could come back bc I knew it was HFM, and I was right.

Clearly this child has a compromised immune system and nothing is being done. No doctors or medical help is sought after, and this child is not healing. The sheer number of diseases this child has contracted in the 6 months in my care is just crazy. He was always the culprit- before he came no one was ever sick, and he was always the first one to display symptoms days before everyone else.

The late-ness yesterday was just one of the many passive aggressive things that the parents have done to me during his 2 week notice. Aside from showing up late, they have been extremely rude, they come to my home un-anounced several times, especially during nap-time, and wake up all of the children, they bring him with illnesss, knowing he is having diaper blow outs due to diarrhea, they arrive late, they have no-call no shows, etc. Their treatment to me does not warrent a CPS call, but their lack of getting their ill child medical attention probably does.