Termed DCB's Parents 30 Minutes Late

[SilverSabre25]

Let's just say, don't accept any 16 month old boys whose first name begins with the letter C. They actually live on the border of your neck of the woods so you probably want to keep a look out.

I have been heavily weighing the pros and cons of calling CPS because I think it is a really big deal to make that call, and am leaning toward calling them. I'm going to go back through all of my personal notes and posts and get a solid timeline of events.

On a crappy note, I woke up today and had a headache and was so sore all over that it hurts to move I got up in the middle of the night just to take a hot shower for relief. If this is the beginning of an illness that I got from this kid I am going to be so upset! Today is the last day before my family vacation starts tomorrow, and I only get one week to take this vacay so it's really important to me and my family!

Ha, thanks for the info :P I will keep a look out.

I really hope you won't get sick...vitamin D, vitamin D!!

[DCMom]

The parents breached the contract a LONG time ago. I would have termed them a LONG time ago. You CAN term them NOW and say they cannot come tomorrow......they breached the contract again today when they were an hour late without so much as a phone call to notify the provider...........turn them away at the door, face to face, tomorrow.

Open the door, state the following and also provide them with a letter that states the same thing, only more detailed. Then shut the door and move on

" I regret the way this has turned out. It really is unfortunate. However, due to the continuous breach of contract, with the most recent offense occurring yesterday when you were an hour late picking up your child, I consider the contract broken and effective immediately I will not provide care for (child's name)."

I have to agree with Crystal. Personally, I would have done it last night. An hour late?? Who the heck do they think they are? That would have been the absolute final straw with me. It's people like this and our inability as providers to say NO! to crap (no pun intended ) that causes burnout in this profession.

[SunshineMama]

I have to agree with Crystal. Personally, I would have done it last night. An hour late?? Who the heck do they think they are? That would have been the absolute final straw with me. It's people like this and our inability as providers to say NO! to crap (no pun intended ) that causes burnout in this profession.

OMG so just now the mom of my sweet 4 year old boy called me and said that they were on the way here and her son started screaming in the car that his stomach hurt- they went home and he had diarrhea. She said she was keeping him home because she didnt want anyone in my family to get sick before our vacation.

I feel so awful that he is sick

[MN Day Mom]

I have to agree with Crystal. Personally, I would have done it last night. An hour late?? Who the heck do they think they are? That would have been the absolute final straw with me. It's people like this and our inability as providers to say NO! to crap (no pun intended ) that causes burnout in this profession.

I would agree here too! Turn them away, they have showed you zero respect and do not deserve another minute of your services

OMG so just now the mom of my sweet 4 year old boy called me and said that they were on the way here and her son started screaming in the car that his stomach hurt- they went home and he had diarrhea. She said she was keeping him home because she didnt want anyone in my family to get sick before our vacation.

I feel so awful that he is sick

Poor little man.

[Heidi]

ok...sunshine Mama!


It's the last day!!!! happyfacehappyfacehappyface

Lay low....pull out some movies, drink lots of OJ, and try to chill.

When you close that door tonight, know that you are on VACATION, and when you come back, no more nasty dcp's to deal with! You can be again!


And, lesson learned for both of us...when something is rotten, term early. Don't keep trying and trying.

[SunshineMama]

ok...sunshine Mama!


It's the last day!!!! happyfacehappyfacehappyface

Lay low....pull out some movies, drink lots of OJ, and try to chill.

When you close that door tonight, know that you are on VACATION, and when you come back, no more nasty dcp's to deal with! You can be again!


And, lesson learned for both of us...when something is rotten, term early. Don't keep trying and trying.

I just called his parents to get him and they argued with me and said he isnt having any problems at home.

I said, Either way, he has a loose stool and now 3 other children are sick and they have to pick him up.

They were like, Don't blame him, he probably got it from them.

Um, yeah right- he has had it for 2 weeks and on week 3 the other kids finally get it and it's from "them"

I just responded that I dont blame anyone.

Ugh- what is wrong with these people.

[Heidi]

I just called his parents to get him and they argued with me and said he isnt having any problems at home.

I said, Either way, he has a loose stool and now 3 other children are sick and they have to pick him up.

They were like, Don't blame him, he probably got it from them.

Um, yeah right- he has had it for 2 weeks and on week 3 the other kids finally get it and it's from "them"

I just responded that I dont blame anyone.

Ugh- what is wrong with these people.

Oh gee....on his last day? Wow!

[MN Day Mom]

I just called his parents to get him and they argued with me and said he isnt having any problems at home.

I said, Either way, he has a loose stool and now 3 other children are sick and they have to pick him up.

They were like, Don't blame him, he probably got it from them.

Um, yeah right- he has had it for 2 weeks and on week 3 the other kids finally get it and it's from "them"

I just responded that I dont blame anyone.

Ugh- what is wrong with these people.

Ugh. I hope they come quickly (I know probably wishful thinking) and you can finally put this family behind you.

[SunshineMama]

We are now 35 minutes past when I called them. If they are not here in 15 minutes I am going to start calling their emergency contacts.

[Heidi]

sunshine, is there anyone you can call to be there when they show up? This whole thing sounds like it could blow up.

Is there a neighbor or friend nearby that can just hang out until they're gone? You don't have to give them details. Just tell them that you feel uncomfortable and would like another adult in the house....also, please lock your door and when they come, bring their child OUT to them. Do not let them in the house.

[momofboys]

UGhhhh! So are they picking him up today? I am sorry they have given you such an awful time. I personally would not have been able to be silent when they picked up an hour late! Did they even apologize as to why they were so late? Even if I did not have late fees in place I still would have said something like you will owe me ***x for the extra hour of care. Your weekly fee only covers contracted hours. Hope they come get him soon!

[SunshineMama]

sunshine, is there anyone you can call to be there when they show up? This whole thing sounds like it could blow up.

Is there a neighbor or friend nearby that can just hang out until they're gone? You don't have to give them details. Just tell them that you feel uncomfortable and would like another adult in the house....also, please lock your door and when they come, bring their child OUT to them. Do not let them in the house.

I WISH! I have a house full of other kiddos too

Everyone I know is working, etc. I just text my grandmother and told her that I will text her after the child leaves, and if she doesnt hear something from me in an hour or so something may be wrong.

[DCMom]

sunshine, is there anyone you can call to be there when they show up? This whole thing sounds like it could blow up.

Is there a neighbor or friend nearby that can just hang out until they're gone? You don't have to give them details. Just tell them that you feel uncomfortable and would like another adult in the house....also, please lock your door and when they come, bring their child OUT to them. Do not let them in the house.

I agree...sad to say, but these people are just out there. You can't predict what they are going to do. Most people would have just left when you gave them notice or shortly thereafter. Nothing against you, but speaking as a parent, who keeps their child in a situation where the relationship with the provider has so obviously broken down??

That poor child. Who knows what his next situation will be...so sad.

At the very least have the phone in your hand to dial 911 if necessary.

[snowball]

I just called his parents to get him and they argued with me and said he isnt having any problems at home.

I said, Either way, he has a loose stool and now 3 other children are sick and they have to pick him up.

They were like, Don't blame him, he probably got it from them.

Um, yeah right- he has had it for 2 weeks and on week 3 the other kids finally get it and it's from "them"

I just responded that I dont blame anyone.

Ugh- what is wrong with these people.

I don't mean to be harsh but you brought this on yourself. You should have termed them long ago.
Last night was another chance for you to not deal with them again, and after they treated you with so little respect, why would you think today would be any different?

[SunshineMama]

I agree...sad to say, but these people are just out there. You can't predict what they are going to do. Most people would have just left when you gave them notice or shortly thereafter. Nothing against you, but speaking as a parent, who keeps their child in a situation where the relationship with the provider has so obviously broken down??

That poor child. Who knows what his next situation will be...so sad.

It is sad I just taught my daughter how to dial 911 in the event of an emergency. I hate that I have to even think about that in a daycare situation. DCD does seem a bit unstable to me- very passive aggressive. I am also surprised that they are treating me so poorly and still bringing their child to care when he is sick. I have been taking good care of this child and they are taking advantage of me. I'm 9 weeks pregnant and the stress this family is causing me is affecting me a lot. I am losing a lot of sleep, feeling a lot of anxiety, getting headaches, etc. I just pray that it is all reversible and that my baby will be okay. I know they are probably trashing me to everyone they know.

We are now at 1 hour past the time I text them to come.