Memorial Day Revenge

[Michelle]

Well my Memorial day was wonderful!
But last Friday I went a few rounds with a dcm about my day off and she got really mad at me . She had to work on Memorial Day and she has no backups and ended up having to stay home with her own kids on Monday.
So, yesterday her 9 year old son treated me like crap, caused problems with the other kids, and then while walking down the hallway, stuck his hand out and "accidentally" knocked my daughters girl scout picture off the wall sending glass shattering on me. The reason why I know he did it on purpose was because he didn't seem shocked or apologetic he just kept walking!
I have a little bit of glass shards still in my hand.
This really makes me so mad. I had to work all weekend and this was my first day off in over a month but boy did I pay for it.
Terming him is not an option and mom would just blame me if I told her what happened.
I just was wondering if anyone knows how to get this glass out of my hand.
Soak in hot water? cold water? I don't have health coverage, so any advise would help.

[familyschoolcare]

Well my Memorial day was wonderful!
But last Friday I went a few rounds with a dcm about my day off and she got really mad at me . She had to work on Memorial Day and she has no backups and ended up having to stay home with her own kids on Monday.
So, yesterday her 9 year old son treated me like crap, caused problems with the other kids, and then while walking down the hallway, stuck his hand out and "accidentally" knocked my daughters girl scout picture off the wall sending glass shattering on me. The reason why I know he did it on purpose was because he didn't seem shocked or apologetic he just kept walking!
I have a little bit of glass shards still in my hand.
This really makes me so mad. I had to work all weekend and this was my first day off in over a month but boy did I pay for it.
Terming him is not an option and mom would just blame me if I told her what happened.
I just was wondering if anyone knows how to get this glass out of my hand.
Soak in hot water? cold water? I don't have health coverage, so any advise would help.

Soak in warm watter. Put a little hydrogen peroxide (not sure if speelied that right) in the watter to help prevent infection. If is still feels like there is in your hand after a good soak you need to go see a doctor so they can "dig" it out. Sorry you are dealing with this sounds no fun.

[Unregistered]

Try putting a piece of duct tape over it and pulling it out.. (like waxing your legs.)

[MrsB]

Soak in warm watter. Put a little hydrogen peroxide (not sure if speelied that right) in the watter to help prevent infection. If is still feels like there is in your hand after a good soak you need to go see a doctor so they can "dig" it out. Sorry you are dealing with this sounds no fun.

Just for you info. Hydrogen Peroxide is not recommended on cuts or wounds any longer. It kills the good cells too, that fight off infection and promote healing. Notice how when you go to the doctor they never clean it with hydrogen proxide. Besides, it hurts!

[Heidi]

NO HYDROGEN PEROXIDE!!!

I hope you are documenting this incident, and you absolutely need to tell mom! He is NINE! What kind of monster will he be if he gets away with this kind of thing???

[AfterSchoolMom]

I agree with Heidi - whether or not Mom blames you, she should be made aware, and possibly even billed for the cost of a replacement frame. That kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable.

I second the duct tape idea. If that doesn't work, maybe a sterilized needle?

[Michelle]

ok, no peroxide, warm water and I am going to tell mom.
I am just trying to figure out a way to word it so that he doesn't pull the victim card and start crying like it was my fault.
I know that sounds ridiculous but he is very smart and mom is really mad at me.

and I am going to do the tape, I have already done the water and it still stings.

[Willow]

How could he play the victim card if he was the one that did it?!

And who cares if she's mad at you! That's not your problem!

Not to mention if she doesn't believe or trust you...I'm so sorry that you feel you have to continue care for a family that lashes out at you, no one deserves that

[Heidi]

ok, no peroxide, warm water and I am going to tell mom.
I am just trying to figure out a way to word it so that he doesn't pull the victim card and start crying like it was my fault.
I know that sounds ridiculous but he is very smart and mom is really mad at me.

and I am going to do the tape, I have already done the water and it still stings.

Ask her to call you after the kids are in bed.

DCM-I know we're having a bit of trouble communicating the last few days. Gosh, we've always had such a great relationship, and I'd like to get us back on track, because I'm worried about how it's affecting dcb. Here is what happened on Tuesday.....

Do you think he sensed that we are a bit out of sorts, and that made him upset?

How do you think we should handle the situation? I mean, I'm not seriously hurt, but I know neither of us wants to give him the idea that this was ok!

Ok...so put that in your own words..but you get the idea. "Yeah, you're mad, but let's move on and help dcb...."

If terminating is not an option, then you have to play nice, even if you don't totally feel it completely. Maybe it's not so bad to be forced to be the "big guy" here, though?

[Michelle]

Ask her to call you after the kids are in bed.

DCM-I know we're having a bit of trouble communicating the last few days. Gosh, we've always had such a great relationship, and I'd like to get us back on track, because I'm worried about how it's affecting dcb. Here is what happened on Tuesday.....

Do you think he sensed that we are a bit out of sorts, and that made him upset?

How do you think we should handle the situation? I mean, I'm not seriously hurt, but I know neither of us wants to give him the idea that this was ok!

Ok...so put that in your own words..but you get the idea. "Yeah, you're mad, but let's move on and help dcb...."

If terminating is not an option, then you have to play nice, even if you don't totally feel it completely. Maybe it's not so bad to be forced to be the "big guy" here, though?

thanks Heidi, I just needed the wording, I like the way you phrase things.
If this were to happen at school, the police would have been called.
I definitely need to tell her.

[Unregistered]

I think this is something you really need to address with the DCM. What if the glass had cut another DCK? What if it was more serious? Does this child have anger issues? What would he do if a DCK was to upset him?
I also have it in my contract, that ANY damage done by a DCK is the parents responsibility to pay the repairs/or replacement.
If this child continues to get away with his behavior then he will become a very troubled teen and adult.
I am sorry your are having to deal with this. ((HUGS))

[B Lou]

OK I'm going to try this again. For whatever reason my reply either didn't go through or it went in under unregistered.
I think you need to address this with the DCM. What if another DCK had been the one to get cut? How do you explain that to the other parents? Does this child have anger issues? What if another DCK gets him mad? Does he lash out at them. If not he will if he continues to get away with this behavior.
I have it in my contract that says. All and any damage done by a DCK will the the responsibility of the parents to pay for all repairs or replacements.
I am so sorry you are going through this. ((HUGS))

[Heidi]

thanks Heidi, I just needed the wording, I like the way you phrase things.
If this were to happen at school, the police would have been called.
I definitely need to tell her.

Thanks...yeah, and it's easy for me to come up with sweet words because I'm not emotionally involved! That's what we are here for, right? Last week, I had to lay down the law, and Black Cat helped frame it for me. Now, I'm passing along the favor..

[Michelle]

OK I'm going to try this again. For whatever reason my reply either didn't go through or it went in under unregistered.
I think you need to address this with the DCM. What if another DCK had been the one to get cut? How do you explain that to the other parents? Does this child have anger issues? What if another DCK gets him mad? Does he lash out at them. If not he will if he continues to get away with this behavior.
I have it in my contract that says. All and any damage done by a DCK will the the responsibility of the parents to pay for all repairs or replacements.
I am so sorry you are going through this. ((HUGS))

I truly want to do this but it was just a $5 frame and I know for sure she would take them out and I would lose $1300 per month for that so I am just going to tell her about the behavior. He is not like this towards others, just me and he is in counseling.
Thank you for your help happyface
and hugs!

[Blackcat31]

I truly want to do this but it was just a $5 frame and I know for sure she would take them out and I would lose $1300 per month for that so I am just going to tell her about the behavior. He is not like this towards others, just me and he is in counseling.
Thank you for your help happyface
and hugs!

Seriously? He is bad to you and is in counseling for it? Aw, hun, I am soo sorry that you are basically being held financially hostage by this family in that you cannot call this child and his parent out on the bad behavior due to the fear of losing the income..... I feel horrible for you.

Are you advertising for replacements for this family? If so, I am sending hundreds of warm wishes and good thoughts to help interested clients come your way and if you aren't advertising to fill their space.....please start now.

((((((hugs)))))))