Memorial Day Revenge

[MarinaVanessa]

Aww Michelle I had no idea that you had issues like this with your DCB . Well at least you can discuss the behaviors and the broken frame with DCM and see what happens. I really like the way that Heidi worded how the discussion could go. It points out the issue without putting the blame on anyone and it puts the ball in the DCM's court so that she can figure out how to remedy the situation.

Hugs to you. I hope it all goes well for you.

[daycare]

wow the kid did not even stop to see if you were ok or say sorry?? I would have a huge problem with that and I would be telling the parents this..

I would just give them the FYI.................I would also be looking to replace this family with one that would respect you, your house and every one of your policies....

[Heidi]

I truly want to do this but it was just a $5 frame and I know for sure she would take them out and I would lose $1300 per month for that so I am just going to tell her about the behavior. He is not like this towards others, just me and he is in counseling.
Thank you for your help happyface
and hugs!

I do have a hard time believing that he is only like this towards you. No one puts their kid in counseling just because they are mean to the dcp. They get another dcp.

Don't buy that baloney, baby!

[Michelle]

I am definitely looking into replacing them.
The boy is not in counseling because of me, it's from domestic violence he grew up with.
Thank you so much for all your support, I think you remember this family
(the kid is sent home from school very sick.... and mom won't pick up)
Well, I have a family of 3 that really wants a spot so we will see what happens, I really love these kids and I have had them for 3 years.

[Michelle]

wow the kid did not even stop to see if you were ok or say sorry?? I would have a huge problem with that and I would be telling the parents this..

I would just give them the FYI.................I would also be looking to replace this family with one that would respect you, your house and every one of your policies....

You know this is what bothers me the most, he didn't even look back, I was bleeding and trying to clean up the glass so nobody else got hurt and he just kept walking.
I talked to him and told him how I felt and I gave him a hug and he just stared straight through me! scary:confused:

[SilverSabre25]

You know this is what bothers me the most, he didn't even look back, I was bleeding and trying to clean up the glass so nobody else got hurt and he just kept walking.
I talked to him and told him how I felt and I gave him a hug and he just stared straight through me! scary:confused:

That's a total red flag. I would definitely look into replacing them.

Poor kid, it sounds like he grew up in , and still might be in, a ****y situation. But that doesn't mean that you should have to put up with that, and honestly, I'd be a little afraid that he would act out violently towards you or worse--another child.

[DaisyMamma]

Well, I have a family of 3 that really wants a spot so we will see what happens.

DO IT!
It almost sounds like he is hearing so much complaining from his mom that he is trying to get back at you for her.

[SunshineMama]

I hope your hand is better today!

An emotionless kid like that would scare me. I'm thinking back about some of the recent threads about emotionless kids.

Please replace that family as soon as possible.

[Michelle]

my hands feel better today, last night my brother gave me some duct tape and my son held a black light over my hands to see if we got all the glass out,::::::
I told the mom and she just stared at me.
It was funny because my family all said hydrogen peroxide and I said, "no, my friends said not to do that anymore!"
thanks guys

[My3cents]

Well my Memorial day was wonderful!
But last Friday I went a few rounds with a dcm about my day off and she got really mad at me . She had to work on Memorial Day and she has no backups and ended up having to stay home with her own kids on Monday.
So, yesterday her 9 year old son treated me like crap, caused problems with the other kids, and then while walking down the hallway, stuck his hand out and "accidentally" knocked my daughters girl scout picture off the wall sending glass shattering on me. The reason why I know he did it on purpose was because he didn't seem shocked or apologetic he just kept walking!
I have a little bit of glass shards still in my hand.
This really makes me so mad. I had to work all weekend and this was my first day off in over a month but boy did I pay for it.
Terming him is not an option and mom would just blame me if I told her what happened.
I just was wondering if anyone knows how to get this glass out of my hand.
Soak in hot water? cold water? I don't have health coverage, so any advise would help.

I am going to address the fact that the mom was upset that you took off a Holiday- For Real? At this point, I would not engage in conversation about it- it is in your policy,rule,handbook and contract- refer to that and nothing more. Back up care should be in place by the parent.

Above irritates me

The issue with the boy- don't hold back telling the mother what he did. I wouldn't sugar coat it either. Today so and so did........... then I would ask What do you think should be done about this.....and at age nine the child would be in on this conversation. I would also hand out some form of punishment at care for this- it would have took effect immediately after dealing with the situation of cleaning the mess up and tending to the wound. You were right behind him, you saw with your own eyes what this child did. No room for negotiation on what happened in his eyes.

I know it is good money- but at some point enough is enough. I am not a quick termer either. I believe in working and working with people but if it comes down to money or my sanity- my sanity is going to win every time. Money comes and goes, with this business. Esp for parents that don't respect you.

best-

[Willow]

A kiddo displaying a complete lack of empathy is a giant liability.

I understand you care about him, but it sounds like he needs far more intensive management than can be offered in a home setting.


I'm not kidding around here. He could really hurt you or another child in your care. Between him manipulating the heck out of you and mom (as he's obviously very successfully doing) and this latest display I'd be terrified you are dealing with a young sociopath in the making.

He'd be gone today if it were one of my kiddos. I'd be keeping fingers crossed would be enough to shock mom into reality that how he's behaving is frighteningly abnormal.

[MarinaVanessa]

I told the mom and she just stared at me

She literally didn't say anything and just STARED at you ?? She wasn't apologetic or looked like she felt bad or anything??

[Michelle]

No, she is probably tired of hearing about the behavior and I believe she can care less about me. You guys care more about me and we have never met!

[MarinaVanessa]

No, she is probably tired of hearing about the behavior and I believe she can care less about me. You guys care more about me and we have never met!

Michelle that's so sad and awful at the same time. I would seriously be considering taking on that other DC child and giving this child their 2 week notice. Regardless of what the mom's issue is with holidays she still needs to be a mom and handle this issue. The kid's lack of empathy really worries me.