Daycare PARENTs are Something Else!!

[MN Day Mom]

I would have a huge problem with a parent threatening me. You only have to provide your tax information on the W-10 when the parent provides it to you. You are not required to give them $$ amounts, its their job to keep track of what they paid you. That said however, I give receipts with all my information on it in January, but I also have the parent sign this receipt too, for my own protection in case of an audit.

I would highly recommend that you get a signed receipt from his family.

[CheekyChick]

I would write her back and say...

Per my Parent Handbook, I provide Year-End Tax Statements in December. As a courtesy to you and your husband, I will gladly mail them to you in the month of June.

Kind regards,
Miss Irked

[KDC]

I would write her back and say...

Per my Parent Handbook, I provide Year-End Tax Statements in December. As a courtesy to you and your husband, I will gladly mail them to you in the month of June.

Kind regards,
Miss Irked

I would do exactly this!

[MarinaVanessa]

Blackcat and others that have said the same things are right. You aren't obligated to issue them anything other than an end of year statement with the total of what was paid to you in the form of a w-10. The w-10 should be given to you by the parent to sign however I have just always made them for my clients and handed them out myself out of courtesy. If you don't have an EIN then I HIGHLY recommend you get one today. It's free and the process takes minutes. You can do it online or over the phone. This way you don't have to put your SSN on the w-10.

The way I see it is that you can do this one of two ways. The easy way, or the other way.

The easy way would be to download and print a w-10 yourself and mail it out this week and be done with it. DEFINNETELY send it via certified mail and keep the receipt that the USPS sends you which says that it was delivered. Easy peazy.

The other way (which I assure you would be the way that I would have gone) would be to do nothing and wait for the parent(s) to contact me to say "WTF, where is it?" to which I would respond "Oh, I was waiting for you to send me the w-10 which you are required to do. By law I don't have to do anything unless I am given a w-10. Once I get it then I'll figure out your YTD total." They'll probably have a conniption which I would ignore and just repeat myself by saying "Once I receive the w-10 I'll figure out your total". Once I received the w-10 then I'd immediately fill it out, slip it into an envelope and address the envelope. Then I'd stick it to my refrigerator with a magnet for a minimum of 2-4 weeks. If the parents call or text or whatever to question or complain about where the hell their w-10 is I'd just say "I'm working on it. I've had to look through my records which is very time consuming. I usually don't do this myself, my accountant does at the end of the year so it's taking me some time to go through records." while I smile and stare at the envelope sitting on my fridge. When I was good and ready I'd go to the post office and send it certified mail (I might have even paid extra for signature capture which requires a signature which means that if they aren't home the envelope gets sent back to the post office and they have to go there to pick up the w-10 ). I'd feel pretty good right about then about the gravel and threat incident.

Of course if it really was me in this situation I'd have laughed out loud and just told them that they'd get their w-10 next year just like all of my other clients and then I wouldn't send them theirs until April 1 .

I WOULD NOT bother to send them a statement of their payments. I don't do that and for a nice client I might make an exception however not for a client like this. KUP

[saved4always]

I would just mail the receipts to them asap and pay extra to have them sign for them or at least get delivery confirmation. Get the garbage out of your life. Definitely do not respond to her threatening texts. It will probably bother her more that you don't respond than it would if you engaged her. I had an angry parent send me a snotty text once after we had parted ways. While what he said really hurt my feelings, I did not respond in any way. It gives me much satisfaction now that he never knew how I reacted (or if I even got the text).

[Daycare Diva]

Marinavanessa I love it!

[JeepGirl6]

Thanks Ladies for all your advice. I love what you would do MarinaVanessa!!! I read what you wrote to my fiance and he thought it was a great idea, especially making them have to sign it and then not be home making them have to pick it up at the Post Office, that would really tick them off. I just have to get the backbone to do that ...I haven't decided what I am going to do yet. I would love to just send them and get it out of the way but for the headache she has gave me over this nonsense, I would like to do what exactly what MarinaVanessa would do but I get too paranoid. This parent is the type of parent that would probably make up something to try to get me in trouble or have children services to come out. I have NOTHING at all to hide but it just makes me nervous that she would put a target on me. If shes going as far as she is with threatening me with an attorney I just wonder how far she will actually try to go to get revenge for not being able to watch her children anymore. Thank goodness for surveillance cameras!

[Heidi]

I think I would call your licenser and give her a heads up on this one. You don't have to rehash every gory detail, but give her a general summary.

I know each state is different, but in ours, the licensers WANT to know ahead of time if something's funky.

[dave4him]

Funny how people use the word attorny these days, its like when we were young 'my attorny can beat up yours!' or something like that

[Janet]

I'm kind of going through the very same thing right now with a parent I terminated because of non payment. I keep getting texts telling me how much of a coward I am for not responding to her texts. Today I received 3 texts alone saying I'm spineless and cold hearted because I terminated her child. Ugh...If I were you I would follow the advice of the good people here and do not respond to her texts. I'm not responding to the parent that keeps texting me and I think it is driving her insane which is exactly what she deserves. Why do people not understand we are a business first???? This is how we make our money....it should never be this complicated for any of us!

This would be a fast track to me filing 'harassing communications' charges against them.