Daycare PARENTs are Something Else!!

[JeepGirl6]

Soo I let the family go that only wanted to bring their children for 3 hours a day because that is potentially 2 full time future spots, let alone she wanted to keep her children here 15 minutes past my closing time....The father came today when I was not home to pick up the rest of the children's belongings, I had set the diaper bag outside in case he would come when I wasn't home. He text me on his way here saying he also wanted the rest of the receipts for this year for services rendered(which is not a problem at all) I wrote him back telling him that I would mail them since I wasn't home to give them to him. When he pulled in the drive,he was flying, slamming on his breaks, messing up our gravel with his reckless behavior. We have surveillance cameras around our whole property so we seen the gravel messed up and looked at the cameras. His wife just messaged me telling me she was just informed that I was mailing the receipts and if she didn't have them by Friday, at the latest Monday she was going to contact her attorney to proceed with further actions...REALLY???? What the hec will an in attorney do? NOTHING! Its just paper! Plus, I don't give everyone their receipts until December for the tax season. I do not mind giving them their receipts at all. These parents have chose not to claim me for the past 2.5 years and now want to claim me this year which is fine( I have done taxes on them since they started)

I feel that she thinks she is threatening me and I am going to be "scared". I am not scared at all, rather very ticked off that she would treat me this way( I was shaking I was so upset when I read this) I want to call her so bad and just ask "Why would you think an attorney would need to be involved, its not necessary)...She does not respect me nor care about me at all, she doesn't care that I am taking on evening job opportunities to help with my family income, this ticked her off because she has to find other child care. I am not even writing her back, I am not going to play into her games. This isn't the first threat she made. I just can't believe how people can be when I am trying to benefit my family and well being. I love her children and will really miss them but its not worth dealing with the parents to keep them.

[Fruitloops1]

Don't bother responding! Its exactly what she is looking for. Just mail out the receipts and forget about them and their childish behavior!
HUGS for you!!!

[DaycareMama]

I agree mail out the reciepts and thats it!!! EXCEPT mail them in January when you normally would.

[Heidi]

yep! Just mail the receipts. If she keeps texting, send her ONE very simple text. "the receipts you requested have been mailed. I request that you stop texting me now" after that, don't return ANY texts, and let any phone calls (if there are any) go to voicemail.


Save everything, and if it goes too far, file a complaint with the local police department.

[Sunchimes]

You might think about getting a Certificate of Delivery from the post office when you mail it. I think it cost about $1.35. You put your address and the destination address, then they put a meter sticker on it and give it to you. If they question you, you have proof that it was mailed to their address on such and such a date.

Or spend a bit more and send it with delivery confirmation or even send it so that they have to sign for it.

Just cover yourself if they claim you never mailed it or they never received it. I've used the certificate of delivery method for years.

[sharlan]

Let her contact an atty. The ONLY thing that will accomplish is cost her unnecessary money.

Mail the receipts. Do not respond to any phone calls or text messages.

[GretasLittleFriends]

I completely agree about mailing the receipts certified with return receipt, or even signature required. This way you have proof you mailed them, and have proof that someone accepted them. Good luck!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I doubt that she'd consult with an attorney over this. The amount that it would cost her would be FAR MORE than paying your full time child care rate.

[Ann B.]

I'm kind of going through the very same thing right now with a parent I terminated because of non payment. I keep getting texts telling me how much of a coward I am for not responding to her texts. Today I received 3 texts alone saying I'm spineless and cold hearted because I terminated her child. Ugh...If I were you I would follow the advice of the good people here and do not respond to her texts. I'm not responding to the parent that keeps texting me and I think it is driving her insane which is exactly what she deserves. Why do people not understand we are a business first???? This is how we make our money....it should never be this complicated for any of us!

[itlw8]

I don't think there is any law saying you have to provide them any reciept. You do have to provide your EIn IF they request it. but giving them a reciept is a courtesy and for your benifit. I would NOT send it I would require they come and sign your copy showing they agree with the amount.

[MyAngels]

As the PP said, you are under no obligation to provide them with any receipts at all. I'd be tempted to not send them anything. But then again, I can be kind of ____________ (rhymes with witchy ) that way when people treat me poorly.

[Hunni Bee]

I dont even see where you are required to give them any receipts. If you gave them to her once, after payment, that's all you're required to give, I believe.

A report of payments is due, like a pp said, at tax time.

Anything you give out now is a favor.

Anybody correct me if im wrong.

[DaisyMamma]

I would ignore the texts and mail the receipts certified, but don't do it until after Friday, of course.

[Kaddidle Care]

Tell him he can pick up the receipts after he rakes up the gravel that he sprayed all over. :P

[Blackcat31]

I don't think there is any law saying you have to provide them any reciept. You do have to provide your EIn IF they request it. but giving them a reciept is a courtesy and for your benifit. I would NOT send it I would require they come and sign your copy showing they agree with the amount.

You need only provide and sign the W-10 form at the end of the year that the PARENT provides TO YOU. They are suppose to supply the form and ask that you sign it and add your EIN. Not doing so is a $50 fine I believe Tom Copeland said....but only if the parent can prove you refused to sign it.

I dont even see where you are required to give them any receipts. If you gave them to her once, after payment, that's all you're required to give, I believe.

A report of payments is due, like a pp said, at tax time. Anything you give out now is a favor.

Anybody correct me if im wrong.

You aren't even required to give them a statement of payment. Just the W-10 form (see above). Most providers supply the end of year statement of payment as a courtesy but you are not required to do so.

If the parent received a receipt at the time of payment, then nothing more needs to be done. The parent can supply the W-10 form and ask that you sign it and add your EIN but that is the extent of what the law says we are to do.

In this particular case though, you can either stop responding to the parent and ignore their harassing texts/messages or you can simply send out the reciepts and be done with them.

Which ever way you choose to go. Hiring an attorney will not change the law so I would personally not be worried about that. I would save ALL texts/messages and contact as proof, if necessary of their harassment.

Here is Tom Copeland's blog about the truth about year end receipts/W-10's

http://www.tomcopelandblog.com/2011/01/the-truth-about-end-of-year-parent-receipts.html