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WTH??? Nannyde's banned?????
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I am, I'm Jem and I thought I had logged in. I seem to have trouble doing that today.Comment
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I just clicked on Nannyde's name as I often do just to see if she'd posted anything new and I see that it says she's banned!Comment
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It's just for a day. She and Crystal were spending more time going after each other and the forum climate starteds to get dark with a forecast of rain. Figured we'd let the
have some say. If I start to get lots of PM's I know the mood has changed.
Last edited by Michael; 04-05-2012, 02:58 PM.Comment
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OK, thanks for the clarification :-)Comment
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Ohhh, I love both those gals...
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One member I think summed it up well with this comment:
It does get old. I guess the way I see it is they both have wonderful advice and ideas but they nit-pick each others practices to the point of exhaustion and it just seems so petty and childish that it gives daycare providers a bad name for acting like kids.
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Seems like some members offend people very often. Is there a limit?Comment
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yup I agree with this!Comment
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I really dont want to set limits. Obviously if someone is being spiteful or destructive in their critique, it is going to get some notice. They may not see it as spiteful or destructive but preception is everything and the members set the tone. If I get members voicing something I have to adjust the forum to it.Last edited by Michael; 04-05-2012, 03:00 PM.Comment
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I hope they both come back after this time out! Even the best providers are still human and we all have things that happen that maybe dont bring out the best in us. But we love them both and cant wait for them to be back!Comment
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Michael, thanks for being pro-active with this forum. I, for one, appreciate that you do not allow one person to be bigger than the forum, as you so aptly put it.
The following is not directed at any one person. Ladies, please take it simply as a pep talk. I'm not trying to be bossy, just throwing out some thoughts.
I think it's important for us to remember that sometimes it's not WHAT we say, it's HOW we say it. If you come across as condescending, or that you, of superior knowledge, must "school" us on a topic, then women, by nature, will not take it kindly.
We need to remember the true definition of OPINIONS, and that they can be vastly different from one person to the next. Also, that just because someone asks for advice, it doesn't mean they want you to get on a soapbox and proclaim that YOUR answer is the end-all, be-all because you went to college, you have umpteen years of experience, or you read countless articles on it.
We need to use words like "I feel", or "in my experience", "I have found", "it seems to me", "it works for me to...", things like that. And maybe if you feel you haven't conveyed the tone of "opinion" enough, you can end your post with something like "just my opinion", "for what it's worth", or "YMMV" (your mileage may vary).
Look up the word humility. It means having a modest opinion of your self-worth or rank. I think we could all use some of that! None of us have THE answer to ANYTHING. We can just say what is time-tested and works for US. And know that not ONE single person needs to adopt your suggestion, or even agree with it, and that's FINE. Put it out there as a SUGGESTION, and leave it at that. We need to check our egos at the door.
I, too, have been guilty of engaging in disagreements. However, I no longer feel it's worth the time or effort to prove anything to anybody. There's nothing to prove anyway. I'm me, you are you. End of story. If someone says something outrageous, roll your eyes and move on.
Ok, speaking of soapboxes, I'll step off mine now. Just my opinion. YMMV.
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Michael, thanks for being pro-active with this forum. I, for one, appreciate that you do not allow one person to be bigger than the forum, as you so aptly put it.
The following is not directed at any one person. Ladies, please take it simply as a pep talk. I'm not trying to be bossy, just throwing out some thoughts.
I think it's important for us to remember that sometimes it's not WHAT we say, it's HOW we say it. If you come across as condescending, or that you, of superior knowledge, must "school" us on a topic, then women, by nature, will not take it kindly.
We need to remember the true definition of OPINIONS, and that they can be vastly different from one person to the next. Also, that just because someone asks for advice, it doesn't mean they want you to get on a soapbox and proclaim that YOUR answer is the end-all, be-all because you went to college, you have umpteen years of experience, or you read countless articles on it.
We need to use words like "I feel", or "in my experience", "I have found", "it seems to me", "it works for me to...", things like that. And maybe if you feel you haven't conveyed the tone of "opinion" enough, you can end your post with something like "just my opinion", "for what it's worth", or "YMMV" (your mileage may vary).
Look up the word humility. It means having a modest opinion of your self-worth or rank. I think we could all use some of that! None of us have THE answer to ANYTHING. We can just say what is time-tested and works for US. And know that not ONE single person needs to adopt your suggestion, or even agree with it, and that's FINE. Put it out there as a SUGGESTION, and leave it at that. We need to check our egos at the door.
I, too, have been guilty of engaging in disagreements. However, I no longer feel it's worth the time or effort to prove anything to anybody. There's nothing to prove anyway. I'm me, you are you. End of story. If someone says something outrageous, roll your eyes and move on.
Ok, speaking of soapboxes, I'll step off mine now. Just my opinion. YMMV.
This, by far, is the BEST post I have ever read on this forum so far.
JMO, of course.
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