Michael-Are There Rules For The Forum?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I like the lack of written rules. Forces women to wear their big girl panties and say only what they mean.

[Michael]

I like the lack of written rules. Forces women to wear their big girl panties and say only what they mean.

You Texas girls come right out of the starting gate. :: Welcome to the forum.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I like the lack of written rules. Forces women to wear their big girl panties and say only what they mean.

Right on! :: Best quote of the entire threadhappyface

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

You Texas girls come right out of the starting gate. :: Welcome to the forum.

Texans mesh well with New Yorkers & their honesty (my husband & I have no issues in saying what we feel).

[Crazy8]

Michael, isn't it true that you can not "ignore" Nannyde and other moderators/administrators?

Not that I want to ignore you Nanny!!!....but I have wanted to ignore another moderator/administrator but the program would not let me

you are correct.... you can not ignore a moderator. That may be why I was thinking this board didn't have the ignore feature.

[Blackcat31]

Michael, isn't it true that you can not "ignore" Nannyde and other moderators/administrators?

Not that I want to ignore you Nanny!!!....but I have wanted to ignore another moderator/administrator but the program would not let me

you are correct.... you can not ignore a moderator. That may be why I was thinking this board didn't have the ignore feature.

Ya know I think if people are wanting to ignore a moderator that the issue should be brought to Michael's attention because if there are many members upset with a mod, then maybe that mod should not be a mod....kwim?

Being a moderator comes with certain responsibilties and expectations. I don't think that members should be so unhappy that they ignore one and not have the issue addressed.

Just my opinion.

[CheekyChick]

Nan,

You will see that you are combining two threads into one experience.

You are absolutely right. I have NO memory of posting in that thread. Time to up my dosage of Ginkgo.

One thing tho... it's kind of a negative to the others who have the same core philosphy I have that they don't have a complete mind of their own.

I believe a lot of people have your same core philosophy and the majority of posters on this forum have a mind of their own. I also think there are a few who would drink the koolaid if you wanted them too.

I've had numerous convos with providers who are on this site that I consult for and they have expressed concern that they feel like they CAN'T chime in when they agree for fear of being labeled or thought of as you have described.

Really??? I (personally) have never seen anyone that agrees with you get ganged up on. It has always been the other way around. BUT, I probably read 20% of what goes on here, so you could very well be right.

Check your p.m. box here in a bit and I'll send you the link.

Thank you very much.

[nannyde]

I believe a lot of people have your same core philosophy and the majority of posters on this forum have a mind of their own. I also think there are a few who would drink the koolaid if you wanted them too.

What I have been trying to express is the ones who have the same core philosophy other than the ones I mentioned as IRL friends don't have any connection to me anymore than they have a connection to you.

Calling my theories and practices koolaid is a pretty loaded statement. I make my living off of that koolaid and I think I'm doing well with it. I don't write anything here that I don't believe in. I give my time to this site and I make part of my living off of consulting by serving up that koolaid. I also USE the practices in the care of children and their parents pay for it AND read this site.

Keep calling it that and I will end up having a truckload of Koolaid packets arriving at my house. I'll never hear the end of it from my "clients" both in home and consulting... so can we find another word? ::

Disclaimer: I do not serve Koolaid. I have never purchased Koolaid and do not endorse the giving of Koolaid to preschoolers, toddlers, infants, and especially not newborns.

[Kaddidle Care]

Ya know I think if people are wanting to ignore a moderator that the issue should be brought to Michael's attention because if there are many members upset with a mod, then maybe that mod should not be a mod....kwim?

Being a moderator comes with certain responsibilties and expectations. I don't think that members should be so unhappy that they ignore one and not have the issue addressed.

Just my opinion.

What she said!

I kind of look at public forums like people chatting back and forth at a meeting. When the conversation turns to 2 people going at each other it's sort of like yelling at each other in front of a crowd. Ick!

I also like to see shorter posts. When they start looking like a page from a book I tend to lose interest. (it's the ADD in me) ::

[Michael]

What I have been trying to express is the ones who have the same core philosophy other than the ones I mentioned as IRL friends don't have any connection to me anymore than they have a connection to you.

Calling my theories and practices koolaid is a pretty loaded statement. I make my living off of that koolaid and I think I'm doing well with it. I don't write anything here that I don't believe in. I give my time to this site and I make part of my living off of consulting by serving up that koolaid. I also USE the practices in the care of children and their parents pay for it AND read this site.

Keep calling it that and I will end up having a truckload of Koolaid packets arriving at my house. I'll never hear the end of it from my "clients" both in home and consulting... so can we find another word? ::

Disclaimer: I do not serve Koolaid. I have never purchased Koolaid and do not endorse the giving of Koolaid to preschoolers, toddlers, infants, and especially not newborns.

Good answer.

[saved4always]

What I have been trying to express is the ones who have the same core philosophy other than the ones I mentioned as IRL friends don't have any connection to me anymore than they have a connection to you.

Calling my theories and practices koolaid is a pretty loaded statement. I make my living off of that koolaid and I think I'm doing well with it. I don't write anything here that I don't believe in. I give my time to this site and I make part of my living off of consulting by serving up that koolaid. I also USE the practices in the care of children and their parents pay for it AND read this site.

Keep calling it that and I will end up having a truckload of Koolaid packets arriving at my house. I'll never hear the end of it from my "clients" both in home and consulting... so can we find another word? ::

Disclaimer: I do not serve Koolaid. I have never purchased Koolaid and do not endorse the giving of Koolaid to preschoolers, toddlers, infants, and especially not newborns.

LOVE your disclaimer...gave me my much needed laugh of the day. ::

[CheekyChick]

Nan,

What I have been trying to express is the ones who have the same core philosophy other than the ones I mentioned as IRL friends don't have any connection to me anymore than they have a connection to you.

I disagree with your theory. It is human nature (for some) to be in awe of and/or show respect to people they feel are in a position of power. I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on this issue.

Calling my theories and practices koolaid is a pretty loaded statement. I make my living off of that koolaid and I think I'm doing well with it. I don't write anything here that I don't believe in. I give my time to this site and I make part of my living off of consulting by serving up that koolaid. I also USE the practices in the care of children and their parents pay for it AND read this site.

I am NOT calling your theories and practices "Koolaid." That actually makes no sense anyway... I was referring to the cult leader who made his followers drink cyanide-laced Koolaid. It was a JOKE!!!

Disclaimer: I do not serve Koolaid. I have never purchased Koolaid and do not endorse the giving of Koolaid to preschoolers, toddlers, infants, and especially not newborns.

You don't let your newborns drink Koolaid while watching Bravo TV?

[nannyde]

Nan,

What I have been trying to express is the ones who have the same core philosophy other than the ones I mentioned as IRL friends don't have any connection to me anymore than they have a connection to you.

I disagree with your theory. It is human nature (for some) to be in awe of and/or show respect to people they feel are in a position of power. I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on this issue.

Calling my theories and practices koolaid is a pretty loaded statement. I make my living off of that koolaid and I think I'm doing well with it. I don't write anything here that I don't believe in. I give my time to this site and I make part of my living off of consulting by serving up that koolaid. I also USE the practices in the care of children and their parents pay for it AND read this site.

I am NOT calling your theories and practices "Koolaid." That actually makes no sense anyway... I was referring to the cult leader who made his followers drink cyanide-laced Koolaid. It was a JOKE!!!

Disclaimer: I do not serve Koolaid. I have never purchased Koolaid and do not endorse the giving of Koolaid to preschoolers, toddlers, infants, and especially not newborns.

You don't let your newborns drink Koolaid while watching Bravo TV?

I got the Jim Jones Jonestown Ghana reference.

I guess I don't see the folks that agree with my practices as being that easily led. The truth is that it's a lot of hard work to net easy to care for children and parents that are respectful, pay on time, and do a good job parenting. It's not magical.... it's just work and learning the craft of the business.

I was thinking about this a lot the last few days because how you see this is pretty much the opposite of how I see it. I see a host of women who come here to ask for specific solutions to common child care issues and to learn the craft of child care.

I look at the board from the outside in and I see the different sections and see wherein the interest lies. Look at the view count on the entire curriculum section of the board. Then look at the view count JUST on this thread. This thread has surpassed the view count in the entire curriculum section just in a matter of a few days. The curriculum section has been up for quite a few months.

That says a lot.

If you look at the thread count in any REAL core child care issue you will find that a single thread will surpass that entire section in a matter of a few days. The sprinkler thread was a prime example of that.

What people come here for is only in small part to learn about DAP, educating kids, arts and crafts ideas etc. Those aspects of child care really don't garner much interest. How to manage nap time, toilet training, crying babies, disrespectful or badly behaved parents, contracts, policies, etc. ARE what people are coming for in droves.

So if I have drawn users it is because I, at the least, give them some possible solutions to the care of kids, the parents, and the business side of the business. I'm able to share my experience and they can take it, take part of it, or shun it completely. It's all here.. nearly five thousand posts... sitting in the archives of this board for ANYONE (not just current users) to take in and do with as they wish.

I didn't have the luxury of a daycare.com when I came up in this business. I have completely taught myself the care of children and the business. I did all the research on health and safety on my own....... thousands upon thousands of hours of research without anyone to guide me. I invested the TIME it took to read daycare message board archives from the day they started until present. I read daycare.com in full before I even signed on. That, my friend, is YEARS upon years of my time. I used child care boards like this to teach myself the business.

So I don't come to the table here with any other purpose than to share what I have taught myself. I don't proclaim to have any knowledge in areas like DAP or taxes. I don't participate on the curriculum section of this board. I don't do the venting section. I just stay within the areas I have had success with and offer up to the other readers what has worked for me and what I have learned in my research.

That's all. I have no other purpose here.

So if it the future, you see agreement from any other poster, you can know for sure that what they have received from me was what I stated above. They have no reason whatsoever to side with my practices other than to take the opportunity to voice their OWN opinion. That doesn't affect me in any way and they shouldn't be branded as mindless automotons following a Jim Jonesish child care provider whose opinion is weighted equally with their own.

[CheekyChick]

Nan,

I guess I don't see the folks that agree with my practices as being that easily led. The truth is that it's a lot of hard work to net easy to care for children and parents that are respectful, pay on time, and do a good job parenting. It's not magical.... it's just work and learning the craft of the business.

Again, I am CERTAIN that the majority (let’s say 99.5%) of posters who agree with you, do so because they agree with your practices and respect your input and suggestions. BUT, regardless if you see it or not, I feel that .5% of posters seem “fanatical” (for lack of a better word) and get extremely angry when someone disagrees with you. Those are the posters that make the boards un-fun.

I was thinking about this a lot the last few days because how you see this is pretty much the opposite of how I see it. I see a host of women who come here to ask for specific solutions to common child care issues and to learn the craft of child care.

No. We see it exactly the same.

If you look at the thread count in any REAL core child care issue you will find that a single thread will surpass that entire section in a matter of a few days. The sprinkler thread was a prime example of that.

I don’t think people were drawn to that thread because they actually wanted to know how many days per week other providers provide water play. I believe the thread count went up because there was a debate going on and it became entertaining.

What people come here for is only in small part to learn about DAP, educating kids, arts and crafts ideas etc. Those aspects of child care really don't garner much interest. How to manage nap time, toilet training, crying babies, disrespectful or badly behaved parents, contracts, policies, etc. ARE what people are coming for in droves.

I believe that to be true.

So if I have drawn users it is because I, at the least, give them some possible solutions to the care of kids, the parents, and the business side of the business. I'm able to share my experience and they can take it, take part of it, or shun it completely.

I agree.

So if it the future, you see agreement from any other poster, you can know for sure that what they have received from me was what I stated above. They have no reason whatsoever to side with my practices other than to take the opportunity to voice their OWN opinion. That doesn't affect me in any way and they shouldn't be branded as mindless automotons following a Jim Jonesish child care provider whoose opinion is weighted equally with their own.

See first response.

[Michelle]

wow, just wow!
I haven't been on in a while and I just wanted to say that I have been very blessed by all of you guys.
Every lady on here is special and loves their children.
Every provider has their own way of doing things and has helped a lot of new and experienced providers in a lot of ways.
This site is very valuable and I love it.
It makes me so sad to see very loving and intelligent professionals fighting like this.:confused:
Let's just agree to disagree and not waste time searching and reading old posts and "quoting" other people like we are in High School.

I am so looking forward to hearing about everyones Easter plans and reading about you guys building each other up and not tearing each other down.
Our jobs are hard enough as it is. Let's support each other.
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