Michael-Are There Rules For The Forum?

[Crazy8]

I should have probably alerted everyone that I changed my username. It had NOTHING to do with wanting to become someone else in this forum. One of my moms told me she found a great website with lots of info on kids in daycare, (not sure if it was THIS one, but could be) and I wanted to separate my internet life from my professional life (ya know... in case I post a gripe and they figure out it's me!! ) .... so I changed my username. I FULLY knew that you guys could VERY EASILY go back and read my old posts. In fact, I actually didn't say anything about the new name because I figured that's exactly what most of you would do!! Bottom line, I just didn't want it where a dc mom could google my name, and up pops a gripe about her!! LOL

I also changed my user name recently - anyone who I was "friends" with knows its still me but when I found this board silly me thought I should use my daycare name as my user name. I really don't have many complaints about my daycare but even the little ones I don't want someone searching my daycare name and coming up with my posts on this board. It was just poor judgement on my part when joining here but since I was listing my daycare in the listings I thought it was "normal" to use that name in here.

I've been on message boards since the mid-90's - have seen it all and really just don't get involved in the drama. There are people on here (and every board I'm on) that just really rub me the wrong way and I just ignore their posts. I love when boards have the "ignore" option - don't think this one does though.

[MyAngels]

I love when boards have the "ignore" option - don't think this one does though.

The option is under the UserCP I think .

[Michael]

I love when boards have the "ignore" option - don't think this one does though.

You can lost this board too. It has an ignore list. Everyone should use their User CP (user control panel) to update their accounts. The ignore list is on the left side of your Control Panel. PM me is you need more information. I can also be led to the Chat area if need be.

[Michael]

The option is under the UserCP I think .

Too funny, you beat me to it and truncated her quote the same as I did! Great minds think alike.

[nannyde]

Michael,

Believe me, I have no problem letting things roll off my back. I get on these boards KNOWING that I will not agree with every opinion, nor will everyone agree with me. I was only stating that when I disagreed with a well-known poster – her and her friends jumped on me like gangbusters. Since then, I haven’t felt welcome here.

I’d also like to add, I am not afraid of a little friendly debate, or even a huge debate, but when I am personally attacked for giving MY opinion, I think that’s where the moderators should jump in and not allow the bullying or intimidation.

In closing, I think that giving a differing opinion does not bode well on this forum and I (personally believe) that many posters leave this board, stop posting (and begin lurking), or are simply too afraid to post. I think that is a shame because there is so much to gain by interacting with men and women who work in the same field.

Thank you for listening…

I'm guessing you are talking about me so if not... let me know.

Cheeky are you talking about the sprinkler thread? I've searched my name and your name together in a search (both ways) to see every post where you and I have backquoted each other and I can only find a few that there was any debate????

I reread all the threads today and I can't for the life of me figure out which one you are talking about. I've searched the posts to see "friends" that have jumped on you and I'm not recognizing the opposing posters as my friends. I have three friends on this board.... BlackCat... Cathearder... and WDMMom that I know in real life.

Can you post to me or pm to me the thread you are talking about? I can't fix what I don't understand... and I don't get where in any of the longer debate threads we have been on together where any of my three friends on her gangbusted you.

[MyAngels]

Great minds think alike.

Why thanks, that's the nicest thing anybody's said to me all day (Of course, I mostly hang out with 1, 2 and 3 year olds...)

[Michael]

You can lost this board too. It has an ignore list. Everyone should use their User CP (user control panel) to update their accounts. The ignore list is on the left side of your Control Panel. PM me is you need more information. I can also be led to the Chat area if need be.

Also this is how you use the Ignore List. Maybe some of you have used it and don't read the whole conversation because someone is blocked? Just thinking out loud here:

Can I block posts, emails and messages from specific users?
If there are particular members that bother you and you do not want to see their posts or receive Private Messages and Emails from them, then you can add these members to your 'Ignore List'. There are several ways to do this:
Through your User Control Panel: User CP, Settings & Options, Edit Ignore List. Then, type their name into the empty text box and click 'Okay'.

[Kaddidle Care]

Although I did receive an email from an old HS classmate telling me she was unfriending me on facebook because I did nothing to benefit our relationship....excuse me?!

Seriously? hah! What a dweeb! Bet you don't miss her one bit do ya?

I didn't go to my last High School reunion because you know what? Anyone from High School that I cared to remain friends with is still my friend and I'm still in contact with them. There are not many. ::

3 words - Facebook Is Evil

It's like a contest to see how many "friends" you can collect. REALLY? 653 friends... Wow... she needs to really get off the computer and get a life! ::

( I need a male cheerleader smiley)

Always up for the challenge! ::




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[Michael]

Seriously? hah! What a dweeb! Bet you don't miss her one bit do ya?

I didn't go to my last High School reunion because you know what? Anyone from High School that I cared to remain friends with is still my friend and I'm still in contact with them. There are not many. ::

3 words - Facebook Is Evil

It's like a contest to see how many "friends" you can collect. REALLY? 653 friends... Wow... she needs to really get off the computer and get a life! ::



Always up for the challenge! ::




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I see a gender bias.....:: I need a "smaller" smiley like the one we use. Good effort though...happyface

[Kaddidle Care]

I may be able to shrink it - hmm - got to locate that website again where I did it for someone else.

Sorry Michael - I know there is a way to do it but I used to use Gimp and now it's all downloads. I don't download until hubby (aka big computer geek) sees it first.

[mom2many]

Michael,

Believe me, I have no problem letting things roll off my back. I get on these boards KNOWING that I will not agree with every opinion, nor will everyone agree with me. I was only stating that when I disagreed with a well-known poster – her and her friends jumped on me like gangbusters. Since then, I haven’t felt welcome here.

I’d also like to add, I am not afraid of a little friendly debate, or even a huge debate, but when I am personally attacked for giving MY opinion, I think that’s where the moderators should jump in and not allow the bullying or intimidation.

In closing, I think that giving a differing opinion does not bode well on this forum and I (personally believe) that many posters leave this board, stop posting (and begin lurking), or are simply too afraid to post. I think that is a shame because there is so much to gain by interacting with men and women who work in the same field.

Thank you for listening…

I haven't spent time on here for quite awhile and when I read this I couldn't agree more!

[Michael]

I haven't spent time on here for quite awhile and when I read this I couldn't agree more!

Well I am going to work on this but I need members to work with me. Communication is important and you can always PM me.

[CheekyChick]

Here's a tip. PM me when something like that arises. Those that first make me aware of a situation will get me involved on thier side in viewing the conversation. If I see something that seems unfair or unwarranted, on either side, I will always PM or email those that are leveraging the forum in improper ways. I have a certain climate I want for this forum and no one member is bigger than it as a whole.

Thank you. I will certainly do that.

[CheekyChick]

I'm guessing you are talking about me so if not... let me know.

Cheeky are you talking about the sprinkler thread? I've searched my name and your name together in a search (both ways) to see every post where you and I have backquoted each other and I can only find a few that there was any debate????

I reread all the threads today and I can't for the life of me figure out which one you are talking about. I've searched the posts to see "friends" that have jumped on you and I'm not recognizing the opposing posters as my friends. I have three friends on this board.... BlackCat... Cathearder... and WDMMom that I know in real life.

Can you post to me or pm to me the thread you are talking about? I can't fix what I don't understand... and I don't get where in any of the longer debate threads we have been on together where any of my three friends on her gangbusted you.

It was definitely the sprinkler thread…

I just looked back and the heated posts were deleted. I clearly remember a post where you said that we could never be friends because we were too different, another post where you tried to embarrass me by bringing up my tax questions/problems from a completely different thread, a post where you talked down to me because I was a new provider (which I wasn’t), etc. Oh, and all of the posts where people were attacking me for standing up to you were deleted. Ironically, the posts that were NOT deleted were the ones that made it appear as if I were picking on you for no apparent reason. Interesting...

Anyhoo… It’s all water under the bridge now and that is why I didn’t single you out in my opinion on how (I feel) these boards could improve.

[CheekyChick]

I haven't spent time on here for quite awhile and when I read this I couldn't agree more!

I think a lot of us feel this way. Hopefully things will change for the better.