How Do You Know If You're Burnt Out?

[daycare]

Well I have a nodule that hasn't shrunk yet but it is amazing how mch the overall goiter shrunk. Now I wasn't hyper when I tried the castor oil but I have had this goiter 10 years and it has finally shrunk.
I just rubbed castor oil on my throat (you can get it a walmart for $2.86 in the laxitive section.) then i put saran over it or used a cloth to keep it from getting everywhere. The I used a heatpack or heating pad on it for 30 minutes or an hour. Try to relax and focus on your throat. It will start to kind of throb. It increases blood flow to the area.
Be careful if you are having thyroid storms. I feel like it is healing my thyroid. I am beginning to feel better. If you want to PM me I would be happy to talk if I can figure out how. Flax seed oil pills help my eyes alot. They would nearly bleed when I was hyper. Hawthorn berry pills help heart palpatations as the blood pressure meds made me cough non stop. But the castor oil has been kinda amazing. My family could not believe how the goiter went down.
Doctors were awful. I never even got sent to an endo for 6 years of dealing. Finally when I told the doc I was done she referred me. I said heck with you drs and started look on my own.

yes I love it...I love alternative meds. I will try anything other than what the DOCS want me to do. I agree the heck with them.....

they want me to do the radio active iodine treatment and kill my thyroid. NO thank you.. Anything radioactive is not coming near me...

[MizzCheryl]

same here girl. Thats what I heard too. They said I could't be around kids for so many days after the radiation. I said forget it. If it is not safe to be around kids I don't want it in me. I hated the PTU. Worst taste I ever put in my mouth.

You can do it!

Thyroid has a lot to do with speaking up for your self. I was in an awful marriage where I was afraid alot. DCP walked all over me!!!!!!!!! Husband walked all over me. I could feel my throat close up every time I swalled the abuse.
I had alot of work to do to get better.

[lil angels]

Breezy weren't you also sick and you were wondering if you were pregnant did you call the doc is everything ok?

((((hugs))). Try take care of yourself....

[Breezy]

Breezy weren't you also sick and you were wondering if you were pregnant did you call the doc is everything ok?

((((hugs))). Try take care of yourself....

I finally got my period but I am scheduling an appt for next week to check my thyroid levels again.

Thank you

[Sprouts]

DAVE RAMSEY!
thet number 1 reason couples have problems is because of finances. I am sorry to hear you are going through this and its hard to face the truth or confront others about how you feel, especially when it comes to selfishness.

My husband and I are taking the Dave Ramsey financial course and it has been a blessing, it helps us realize how we are with spending and everything speaks for itself and he is very blunt and funny which is good. If you check on his website he has classes going on all of the time and its only like 95$ for 13 weeks.

I swear i am not working for them but i really like the class and it is so helpful

https://www.daveramsey.com

[Breezy]

Dh is writing his OWN paper right now and I am going to bed

[countrymom]

hmm, I've been married a long time. My advice to you is that you yourself go for some counselling. This has nothing to do about daycare, I think the problem stems from your dh.

[Lianne]

Burn out, for me, can look a lot like how my depression presents itself. I get easily irritated and frustrated and my reaction to little things is extreme and over the top. It's not dangerous or even close to dangerous, just extreme considering the frustration.

For example, this weekend I was trying to take my Christmas lights down and ran into several road bumps. In frustration, I came inside six different times to throw things, curse, yell and cry (that ugly cry, too!). That reaction was way over the top since the lights were simply caught on something and when I found a solution to the problem, it took me 5mins to complete the task. That outburst was linked to the anxiety I've been feeling due to my upcoming move. Once I realized that I was better able to handle my frustrations.

Burn out with daycare tends to be more child or client oriented. I lose any motivation to do activities, I over react to the children's noise and mess and find myself resenting having to do regular tasks like diaper changes, making meals or wiping noses and I get frustrated with client behaviour that has never bothered me before.

I'm fortunate to be pretty in tune with myself and my moods. I can usually distinguish what I'm feeling and why within a few days and then I take steps to fix the moods. I make sure I've been taking my meds everyday, I make myself get more sleep and eat a decent meal. I set a small goal for myself each day and make sure it gets done, whether it's housework or an activity with the kids because being productive gives me a sense of pride. Sometimes, especially if I'm feeling burnt out, I take a weekend and completely separate myself from all children which is hard to do because my best friends all have kids. And, most importantly, I am kind and gentle with myself. I try not to beat myself up for what I haven't done but note what I have done. If I'm not seeing improvement in my mood and functionality within a day or three then I contact my doctor. So far, it's never gotten to that point.

[Breezy]

Last night DH and I talked a lot. Nothing too deep and certainly not near enough but its a start. We talked about how he talks to me, the pressure I feel, the money, etc. I told him something that one of the posters on this thread said about being a housewife, mother, and daycare provider are three separate full time jobs. He didn't say much but he took it all in and seemed to understand what I was saying.

I told him that I was never satisfied because I am unhappy living in this state away from my family and that I think that the way I am feeling is so strong right now because we just got back from a vacation seeing them all recently.

So, last night we picked up fast food for dinner (yuck but it was nice not to cook!) And we watched a show together. He wrote his own paper for school and I went to bed at exactly 10:00 after our DS went to bed. My husband took it upon himself to get up in the middle of the night last night to comfort DS and give him his pacifier so I didn't need to get up. This morning he announced that next week he is going to take some days off to help out at daycare and any day that I don't have kids (my teachers kids are on spring break next week so won't be coming full week) he will take DS out with him somewhere so I can get things done around here that I have not been able to do with DS here!

I took a shower this morning instead of last night and I feel refreshed and amazing. I am well rested and have a whole different attitude so far. Hopefully that will continue once my crying baby gets here. Oh and when Dh left this morning for work he actually gave me a meaningful kiss instead of the normal habitual peck. He also said that he hopes I have a great day.

So a bunch of tiny baby steps in the right direction and we will see where things go from here. I am so happy I had the courage to admit how I was feeling on this forum and that wonderful people like you all could come on here not even knowing me and help me see things that I didn't even realize were upsetting me.

[Country Kids]

I'm soooooooo happy for you-happyface!! Sometimes my hubby and I have these kind of talks and I feel so much better afterwards.

[MrsB]

Last night DH and I talked a lot. Nothing too deep and certainly not near enough but its a start. We talked about how he talks to me, the pressure I feel, the money, etc. I told him something that one of the posters on this thread said about being a housewife, mother, and daycare provider are three separate full time jobs. He didn't say much but he took it all in and seemed to understand what I was saying.

I told him that I was never satisfied because I am unhappy living in this state away from my family and that I think that the way I am feeling is so strong right now because we just got back from a vacation seeing them all recently.

So, last night we picked up fast food for dinner (yuck but it was nice not to cook!) And we watched a show together. He wrote his own paper for school and I went to bed at exactly 10:00 after our DS went to bed. My husband took it upon himself to get up in the middle of the night last night to comfort DS and give him his pacifier so I didn't need to get up. This morning he announced that next week he is going to take some days off to help out at daycare and any day that I don't have kids (my teachers kids are on spring break next week so won't be coming full week) he will take DS out with him somewhere so I can get things done around here that I have not been able to do with DS here!

I took a shower this morning instead of last night and I feel refreshed and amazing. I am well rested and have a whole different attitude so far. Hopefully that will continue once my crying baby gets here. Oh and when Dh left this morning for work he actually gave me a meaningful kiss instead of the normal habitual peck. He also said that he hopes I have a great day.

So a bunch of tiny baby steps in the right direction and we will see where things go from here. I am so happy I had the courage to admit how I was feeling on this forum and that wonderful people like you all could come on here not even knowing me and help me see things that I didn't even realize were upsetting me.

Yay breezy!

[cheerfuldom]

glad things are looking up.

We also did Dave Ramsey and are only 3 years from being completely debt free (including the house!). We will be able to private school all of our kids and still me be a SAHM.....its amazing what getting your finances straight will change. Right now we are about a year into the course and I am down to 2 full timers and a part timer with the daycare and should be dropping the part timer in the next few months as we get our van paid off.

[Blackcat31]

a journey of a 1,000 miles begins with one tiny step!

Glad your DH is making an effort and I am sooo happy you are feeling better!

[littlemissmuffet]

Last night DH and I talked a lot. Nothing too deep and certainly not near enough but its a start. We talked about how he talks to me, the pressure I feel, the money, etc. I told him something that one of the posters on this thread said about being a housewife, mother, and daycare provider are three separate full time jobs. He didn't say much but he took it all in and seemed to understand what I was saying.

I told him that I was never satisfied because I am unhappy living in this state away from my family and that I think that the way I am feeling is so strong right now because we just got back from a vacation seeing them all recently.

So, last night we picked up fast food for dinner (yuck but it was nice not to cook!) And we watched a show together. He wrote his own paper for school and I went to bed at exactly 10:00 after our DS went to bed. My husband took it upon himself to get up in the middle of the night last night to comfort DS and give him his pacifier so I didn't need to get up. This morning he announced that next week he is going to take some days off to help out at daycare and any day that I don't have kids (my teachers kids are on spring break next week so won't be coming full week) he will take DS out with him somewhere so I can get things done around here that I have not been able to do with DS here!

I took a shower this morning instead of last night and I feel refreshed and amazing. I am well rested and have a whole different attitude so far. Hopefully that will continue once my crying baby gets here. Oh and when Dh left this morning for work he actually gave me a meaningful kiss instead of the normal habitual peck. He also said that he hopes I have a great day.

So a bunch of tiny baby steps in the right direction and we will see where things go from here. I am so happy I had the courage to admit how I was feeling on this forum and that wonderful people like you all could come on here not even knowing me and help me see things that I didn't even realize were upsetting me.

happyface

Great! So happy that you took control and are on your way to getting your life back on track... lovethis

[jhoward9]

Wow!!!! That is such great news!!!! I am soooooo happy for you!