Please! I Am So Sad, Burnt And At Wits End - I Need Advice, Registered but Logged Out

[MNMum]

I find so many of my friends parents ending up in this same scenario, only, they aren't running daycares in addition to watching their grandchildren. Those that were doing FT care, dropped it to one or two days/week and it helped tremendously. This was not in a daycare setting, though. Being a grandma should be so much fun...not so much work! You should be able to spoil that child, not be the one to discipline her. That doesn't work if you are watching her on a daily basis.

[Nellie]

I feel bad for you. I do agree with what Nan said. I would push for her to find weekend or second shift work. Then if you were so kind to watch the child between shifts for the parents your granddaughter would be there for limited hours and napping a good portion of the time and perhaps other grandparents could pick up at least one or two days a week.
I have some of the same troubles with my OWN children, but that is a different story because they are my responsibility.
My MIL is a stay at home mom. She still has 4 children in elementry/high school. When my sister in law had a baby she was going to go back to work a few days a week and assumed her mom would watch the baby. We were on a family trip when it was said that she would be bringing baby to her mom's house on Thursday and Friday. Mom's face was priceless. Even though she is at home she will NOT watch grandchildren. She will babysit for date nights, doctors appointment, so that we can get x-mas shopping done, ect.. but she won't be the daycare provider. If she wanted to do daycare she would do daycare or if she wanted to work she would go out in the work force. She did say that if one of our families was in trouble that she would consider baby sitting for us so that we could work. She made the comment that if the child was older and didn't need constant supervision so that she could do her house work it might not be so bad. But I know that if it came to us needing her to watch our children so I could work we would have to be doing every thing in our power to decrease our spending, and work different shifts so the child was in her care less. But I hardly doubt that even in those circumstances she would do 5 days a week for more than a month(and that would be if the kids were GOOD).
You need to tell her how you feel. I was having troubles with my son trying to climb on kids because my husband wrestles with him. We had to work very hard with our kids around the clock to get them to be better during daycare hours. It sounds like your daughter isn't doing everything she should be doing at home to help you out with granddaughters behavior. If you are going to keep watching her I'd give them a time line for behavior to improve and tell them you will no longer be able to watch child if it doesn't. The threat of loosing free daycare may be the push they need to parent, disapline, make sure the child gets good sleep, ect at home to change behavior.
Hopefully you will find some advise though the posts that will help and if you no longer want to care for your grandchild DON"T feel bad. I know many grandparents that won't be the daycare provider.