I am a registered user who has been on this board for about a year now. I have been a childcare provider most of my life. It has been a lifetime love of mine to care for children and I still love what I do however I find myself dreading everyday now and have for months.
I have 5 FT dcks in my care everyday M-F and have always been full to capacity and have always loved my days. That is until I started caring for my grandchild. My daughter needs help as she and her husband can not afford to pay for childcare and I love my daughter and my grand daughter very much. My grand daughter is 23 months old.
My home daycare has always been VERY calm, loving and just very peaceful. The days are so calm and peaceful the days that my grand daughter does not attend because mom or dad are off or if she is sick or if the other grandparents take her (which is not often)
When she is here it is hell! She is very sweet and loving but so busy. She has to be either touching the other kids all the time, or jumping up and down, jumping and falling down, running, plowing into someone, talking really loudly, singing really loudly, banging objects together or on the walls, windows and so many other loud noisy annoying things. She gets the others all wound up and noisy and it just becomes a crazy house when she here.
Like I said it is only when she is here that it is hard to manage my day. She needs one person just to look after her, correct her and redirect her because I can not take my eyes off of her for a second. She is always doing something she is not supposed to be doing. It is so exhausting!
It is hard because I do not have much space to do this, but I have tried a separate area for her and she will scream such an ear shattering scream cry and have a huge fit because she wants to be with the other kids. She will do this at times and not stop and I will have to put her in her pnp in her room. There she will continue to scream, jump up and down, kick the bottom of the pnp, strip and take off all her clothes (so now every time I have to put her in there or when it is time for nap I have to put a one piece outfit on her which is a real pain) She often does behavior like this at nap time as well until she finally falls asleep.
When she wakes from nap she is so cranky it is unreal. Even if she has slept for 2.5 hours she will wake up so miserable and will cry for the first 1/2 hour upon waking.
If it were another persons child I would just refuse to care for this her but she is my grandchild and my daughters baby. I feel like crying some days. I feel like I am in a trapped position. I also do not want to be the daycare she goes to anymore. I want to be her grandmother and have fun with her instead of always being the bad guy. One on one she is still very busy but not nearly as bad but give her an audience of other children and she is terrible.
I am sorry this is long. Thanks for reading it. I really need advice here.
I have 5 FT dcks in my care everyday M-F and have always been full to capacity and have always loved my days. That is until I started caring for my grandchild. My daughter needs help as she and her husband can not afford to pay for childcare and I love my daughter and my grand daughter very much. My grand daughter is 23 months old.
My home daycare has always been VERY calm, loving and just very peaceful. The days are so calm and peaceful the days that my grand daughter does not attend because mom or dad are off or if she is sick or if the other grandparents take her (which is not often)
When she is here it is hell! She is very sweet and loving but so busy. She has to be either touching the other kids all the time, or jumping up and down, jumping and falling down, running, plowing into someone, talking really loudly, singing really loudly, banging objects together or on the walls, windows and so many other loud noisy annoying things. She gets the others all wound up and noisy and it just becomes a crazy house when she here.
Like I said it is only when she is here that it is hard to manage my day. She needs one person just to look after her, correct her and redirect her because I can not take my eyes off of her for a second. She is always doing something she is not supposed to be doing. It is so exhausting!
It is hard because I do not have much space to do this, but I have tried a separate area for her and she will scream such an ear shattering scream cry and have a huge fit because she wants to be with the other kids. She will do this at times and not stop and I will have to put her in her pnp in her room. There she will continue to scream, jump up and down, kick the bottom of the pnp, strip and take off all her clothes (so now every time I have to put her in there or when it is time for nap I have to put a one piece outfit on her which is a real pain) She often does behavior like this at nap time as well until she finally falls asleep.
When she wakes from nap she is so cranky it is unreal. Even if she has slept for 2.5 hours she will wake up so miserable and will cry for the first 1/2 hour upon waking.
If it were another persons child I would just refuse to care for this her but she is my grandchild and my daughters baby. I feel like crying some days. I feel like I am in a trapped position. I also do not want to be the daycare she goes to anymore. I want to be her grandmother and have fun with her instead of always being the bad guy. One on one she is still very busy but not nearly as bad but give her an audience of other children and she is terrible.
I am sorry this is long. Thanks for reading it. I really need advice here.
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