To Renew Or Not To Renew... Help! Long

[nannyde]

Part of me just feels really bad for them... The situation is pretty perfect for them. I literally live across the street from them in the cul-de-sac. They can walk their kids over 2 minutes before they have to leave for work, they have time to go home and change and relax before getting their kids, I am right by the bus stop and can get their kids on and off the bus for school for 1/2 day Kindergarten. A lot's going to change for them. Finding after school care and transportation and all that is going to take some doing...

Hon don't feel sorry for them. Just keep in mind that they have been receiving such a blessing for so long for so cheap. Think about what you HAVE done for them. Feel great for THEM.

Just because it is ending doesn't mean it wasn't AWESOME.

Keep being super excited about it and keep reffering it back to your own kids and how they will benefit. She's doing what's best for her and her kids. She should be cool about you doiing what is best for you and your kids. It's really NOT personal. If anything, you have learned from her that it's important to find just the right situation for as much value as you can possibly get because your family NEEDS that. She's done it for hers for four years... she's showing you the way.

[wdmmom]

I'm with the Nan on this one. I couldn't have said it better myself.

AND...I would also tell them besides going strictly to full time only, you are implementing themed days and one of those days is "Movie Day".

Raising your kids one way is one thing but asking you to comply with what I call an "at home rule" is just ridiculous.

If I had a family come to me and ask me to allow ZERO tv, I just couldn't make that promise. I don't have the tv on at all most days but between 5pm and 530pm when there are just a few left, they enjoy Curious George. We also have "Movie/Popcorn/Pajama day about once a month. (Works great on rainy days!)

If they want to make the rules, they need a nanny. If they want to follow yours, they can come to daycare.

[cheerfuldom]

If it is so awesome, they will **** it up and pay your full rate for the convenience and great service they receive with you. You aren't telling them no by offering full time only slots. You are giving them a choice and if they chose to leave, thats not your fault.

I agree with several posters. You are taking this way too personally. If they just walk away then you know that they didn't care that much about the situation so why should you? they will find new daycare, you will find new daycare kids, the world will keep turning and in a few weeks (or even days) you will wonder why you even made such a big deal over this. In the grand scheme of things, its not a big deal so please stop stressing.

[KDC]

If it is so awesome, they will **** it up and pay your full rate for the convenience and great service they receive with you. You aren't telling them no by offering full time only slots. You are giving them a choice and if they chose to leave, thats not your fault.

I agree with several posters. You are taking this way too personally. If they just walk away then you know that they didn't care that much about the situation so why should you? they will find new daycare, you will find new daycare kids, the world will keep turning and in a few weeks (or even days) you will wonder why you even made such a big deal over this. In the grand scheme of things, its not a big deal so please stop stressing.

I don't think I'm taking it 'way' to personally... I've had this family for 4 years, their kids are like my family, and I spend more time with my neighbors outside of work then I do most of my family. This will have a big impact on my work life as well as personal life. I agree however, I do have a nasty habit of always putting myself in other peoples shoes too much and because I'm sensitive I think everyone will react the same way I do. Most likely they will understand my financial reasoning, and crossed fingers -- they will continue the friendship. Thanks for replying... I really shouldn't stress, but that's just me ::

[renodeb]

I would let them go. Like others have said, keep it very business like and just explain that for financial reason you need to fill those spots with fters. I actually have a teacher client and she has already told me that she will not be bringing the baby during the summer but will be back in the fall. (thats gonna ****) pardon the language. Good luck. I always struggle with those kind sof business decisions but then Im always relieved when I have dealt with it.
Debbie

[daycare]

I once told my dad why I do things so cheap for families sometimes. "BECAUSE I love what I do and I do it out of the goodness of my heart"

My dad says to me, your heart is not going to pay your bills and put food on the table.


I hate to say it, but my dad is right...Emotions in this business get in our way...