This Is Really Really Heartbreaking....

[cheerfuldom]

I am seeing more and more ads on various sites for parents that are looking for evening and weekend childcare. They straight out say that the child goes to daycare full time during the day. So when do they even see this child????

One ad had a one year old that goes to daycare full time M-F. Parents want an evening nanny to pick up from daycare, occasionally having to spend the night during the week. Also, 2 weeks out of every 8 weeks, they need full time on the weekends too. What kind of job is this when there would be some weeks when this child would literally not see their parents at all? It is just too sad. Is anyone else seeing these type of ads pop up more and more?

[daycare]

I am seeing more and more ads on various sites for parents that are looking for evening and weekend childcare. They straight out say that the child goes to daycare full time during the day. So when do they even see this child????

One ad had a one year old that goes to daycare full time M-F. Parents want an evening nanny to pick up from daycare, occasionally having to spend the night during the week. Also, 2 weeks out of every 8 weeks, they need full time on the weekends too. What kind of job is this when there would be some weeks when this child would literally not see their parents at all? It is just too sad. Is anyone else seeing these type of ads pop up more and more?

Maybe they are doctors?? My dad worked as a doctor when i was growing up. My mom was a nurse, but went part time when we got a little older. My grandma had us, then she passed away.

My dad worked long hard hours, but when he had time off, he was always taking us places. However, he was on call a lot and if he got called in, then someone had to be there.

That could be the case, however, you are right that does sound really really sad......

[Michael]

That's just sad.

[Meyou]

I know I have one DCF that uses childcare on the weekends. They "can't get anything done" unless they have a sitter at home during the day so they can do other things.

[Sunchimes]

It's a shame that the list of things that need to get done doesn't include becoming acquainted with their children.

[Meyou]

It's a shame that the list of things that need to get done doesn't include becoming acquainted with their children.

But they buy them all sorts of cool stuff instead! That's ok, right?

[Sunchimes]

Right, right. Even though they are never home to play with it. But, I'm sure that they try hard to find them a really loving day care provider, so at least the kids have someone who loves them.

[Crazy8]

I've seen it in my own family. Using the excuse how the grandparents "WANT" to spend time with the child so they drop child off Sat. afternoon and pick up Sunday dinnertime. How about the child WANTING to spend time withe the parents?????

[itlw8]

fireman, nurse, people that work in hospital with 12 hour shifts and rotating schedules single parents that work nights in factories

Those night shifts pay more and often are the entry level. they are just glad to have a job. But yet need to sleep when the child is awake.

[Cat Herder]

It is frustrating to watch.

On the flip side, it seems everyday I see another story of parents killing their children in my morning news feed.

Maybe it has more to do with the fact parents today are afraid to discipline along with other societal/family/mental health issues?

IDK, it has been depressing in the world of child advocacy lately....feels like beating my head against a brick wall.

Some days I want to dump birth control in the water supply to stop the cycle ...so instead I work extra hard with the children I can impact...

[Cat Herder]

fireman, nurse, people that work in hospital with 12 hour shifts and rotating schedules single parents that work nights in factories

Those night shifts pay more and often are the entry level. they are just glad to have a job. But yet need to sleep when the child is awake.

Those are the fields my DH and I are also in. It is not 7 days a week....that is how I am able to do both.

[small_steps]

I had a little boy about a year ago. He had some very bad behavior problems. Later he was diagnosed with ADHD but even on his medicine I still think his behavior problems are because he doesn't get disciplined at home at all.. but that could be because he never sees his parents. Your post reminds me of his situation. I feel really bad for him. His dad works as a security guard..(making about $9 an hour) and then he takes classes 2nights a week. So he only has one night off per week to spend with his son. He doesn't go into work until about 2 in the afternoon and works until midnight or so but he send his now 5 year old (starts kindy this year) to preschool every morning so he only sees his child maybe an hour each morning before preschool. Its' so sad to me... no wonder he has no boundaries...he is in preschool, one daycare 4 evenings a week and another babysitter 2 evenings per week.
I treasure every moment with my kiddos. Now i"m not saying I don't appreciate a night out every now and then by myself or with friends but 95% of the time, if my kids aren't in school they are with me and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[momofboys]

I am seeing more and more ads on various sites for parents that are looking for evening and weekend childcare. They straight out say that the child goes to daycare full time during the day. So when do they even see this child????

One ad had a one year old that goes to daycare full time M-F. Parents want an evening nanny to pick up from daycare, occasionally having to spend the night during the week. Also, 2 weeks out of every 8 weeks, they need full time on the weekends too. What kind of job is this when there would be some weeks when this child would literally not see their parents at all? It is just too sad. Is anyone else seeing these type of ads pop up more and more?

My BIL is a doctor in an ER & he does work odd hours - weekends/overnights/day shift - it always varies. My sis is a SAHM so it doesn't matter for their kids but I can understand there are a lot of professions where people do work weekends.

[icaredaycare]

these are sad circumstances, but lets just hope there is a legitimate reason.

I have had parents ask me to watch over night so that they can go, "clubbing."

I have also had parents ask for weekends, so that they can go shopping.

those are horrible reasons to leave your child. of course i said no.

[countrymom]

for those jobs that require 12 hours, they usually do 3 12 hour shifts and then they are off. Many don't work 5 to 7 days a week straight 12 hours. Also, many families don't have both parents working the same hours. I will guarentee you that most of the time people just don't want to deal with their kids. its a "me" generation.