This Is Really Really Heartbreaking....

[MyAngels]

It's a shame that the list of things that need to get done doesn't include becoming acquainted with their children.

[Blackcat31]

I have a daycare girl who comes from 8:30 a.m. until 4:00 p.m. every day because her mom is in college full time. The mom picks up the little girl at 4 and drops her off at a local 24 hours child care center so she can be to work by 5:00. She then picks the child up at 10:30 p.m. and brings her home to go to bed. She does this 5 days a week.

It is sad, but the mom is trying really hard to put herself through college and work too. She is a single mom and has very limited family members in the area to help her out. The mom grew up in the foster care system herself so she is really adamant about making a better life for herself and her DD.

She justifies her lack of time with her child by making sure she spends every single day off she has with the DD and she says that college is only for a few years. Then she will be able to get a better job and hopefully have more time to spend with her child.

I can't fault her for trying but it is sad too that the child doesn't get to spend much time with her mom. But the DD is a really good girl and VERY well behaved so someone is doing something right.

I also have a parent who works four 12 hour day shifts and then switches to three 12 hour night shifts. The only day off they have is 1 day in between the shift changes.

[godiva83]

My dad was a single dad raising two children and worked very very hard to give us all the best in life... But, he also knew time was the must valuable and did everything in his powers so he could spend quality time with us - if this meant no time for 'him' time so be it.
It was hard on him, but like he said worth it as you can never get time back, but there will always be time to work, make money, and have a social life.

So yes, he put his so called 'life' on hold while we were young children and made up for it when we were older and off to school.

I wish more parents these days understood the importance of 'time' and the importance of spending that time with your children

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I have 2 boys that come to my house on fridays for drop off care, so that mom can get ready to go out on friday night and pay another sitter to watch her boys at night.

It's no flippin wonder they hate coming to my house.

[cheerfuldom]

I understand not every job is 8 to 5 but in this case, there is a two week period every 8 weeks where the child does not see their parent AT ALL (not even at night!) from the sounds of the ad and the rest of the time, it is only a small portion of the day.

[daycare]

I understand not every job is 8 to 5 but in this case, there is a two week period every 8 weeks where the child does not see their parent AT ALL (not even at night!) from the sounds of the ad and the rest of the time, it is only a small portion of the day.

not saying that its right at all, but thank god that the parent realizes that they can not care for the child and is having someone else do it. I was put in this situation before.

It was so so sad. The mom actually told me that she never thought that it would be so hard having to care for a 20 month old and a 3.5 year old and that she just could not take it anymore and this is why she needed them in care for 14 hour days.

I believe that she was suffering from postpartum depression, she was very off.

As much as I wanted to be there for the children, I did not sign the family up to raise their kids too. I had to let them go. I told her that I felt it was in her best interest to get help and also hire a Nanny. Of course she was mad beyond belief.

It was super sad to see her kids come in the morning and hug me and kiss me as if I was their mom.

Over time the mom got jealous of that and started to be mean to me. This is when I threw in the towel.