3 yr Old Behavior

[Golden Rule]

I know in Georgia we have a service called "Inclusion Project". It is specifically for providers whom are struggling with a particular child. It is free!! Anything from developmental concerns, physical limitations to what you are dealing with.

They come out and help you for the day to observe then give you and the family referrals, resources, financial aid, specialized equipment, even toys and books relating to your specific issues. They are typically older providers or retired therapists/teachers....they are invaluable for kids on the "autism scale". They have been a godsend in the past.

They have a signature form for the parents that I include as part of the enrollment package (along with a statement of "Mandated Reporter" status) so nobody ever feels singled out. I have all parents fill out new forms yearly, since these do expire every 12 months.

Have you contacted your state agency to see what they offer?

[Unregistered]

I haven't mentioned anything to the mom yet, but just this Friday, the mom was talking about having him at the doctor (for a routine checkup or something) and in so many words, she said he said the 3 yr old is a little developmentally delayed, but mostly since he's large (heavy, and tall) for his age, his brain hasn't caught up to his size, and too much is being expecting of him since he's large, and we'd expect more from an older child (and he looks older). I disagree. I expect out of him what I would from a 2 yr old, since I realize he's developmentally delayed. But it's not typical 2 yr old behavior either (save the 2 yr old that acts a lot like him and I think has autism or sensory processing issues or SOMETHING). This boy has been using so many "bad words" lately including the F word. Other children are copying his behavior, and words. It's rampant right now. All of the children having behavior problems lately, and I know it will only get worse, unless something is done about this 3 yr old. But now since mom practically told me that too much is expected of him because of his size, and the doctor said he's just a little develpmentally delayed, how can I tell her to have him tested by a doctor who would know more than a regular doctor at a routine check-up, who doesn't see him on a day to day basis, or know to what extent the behavior goes. The mom even knows he's not like her first 2 sons. She tells us that all the time. But she's not open to the idea that anything may be wrong with him.

[Unregistered]

If she's not open to the idea that something is wrong and making excuses then be honest with her and tell her that the other parents that pay you for you services EXPECT thier children to be able to come there and be safe without being subjected to he son's behavior regardless of his being misunderstood and 'delayed'. Tell her that she will need to find childcare somewhere else as you have done everything you can to help him in your program but are unable and not equiped to deal with the issues he is exihibiting.
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